“We all have our particular burdens to bear, and one person's suffering doesn't negate the suffering of another person. Just because there are many unfortunate and terribly mistreated people in the world does not mean that you are not allowed to mourn the loss of your mother or regret the unhappiness of your first marriage. There is no contest for such things and, really, if there were, who would want to be the winner? We should all be trying to alleviate one another's pain, not denying one another or ourselves the right to feel it.”