“Be gentle with yourself and make the descansos, the resting places for the part of yourself that were on their way to somewhere but they never got to. They mark the dealth site. They are markers of your dark times. But they are also love notes to your suffering– they are transformative. There is a lot to be said for pinning things to the earth so they don't follow us around. What is really means is laying your rage to rest so that you can create the wild woman.”