“The deconstructive process is a total kind of thing, with no easy answers, no quick solutions. When you are no longer under any illusions about God or church or community or calling or family or relationships, you can’t just switch gears, pull a U-ey, and head on back to Happytown. You’ve got to face the pain in its fullness. You’ve got to feel your way through the darkness. There’s no other choice, unless you want to live in denial, unless you want more of the lie.”