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#1

“Think of cocaine. In its natural form, as coca leaves, it's appealing, but not to an extent that it usually becomes a problem. But refine it, purify it, and you get a compound that hits your pleasure receptors with an unnatural intensity. That's when it becomes addictive.

Beauty has undergone a similar process, thanks to advertisers. Evolution gave us a circuit that responds to good looks - call it the pleasure receptor for our visual cortex - and in our natural environment, it was useful to have. But take a person with one-in-a-million skin and bone structure, add professional makeup and retouching, and you're no longer looking at beauty in its natural form. You've got pharmaceutical-grade beauty, the cocaine of good looks.

Biologists call this "supernormal stimulus" [...] Our beauty receptors receive more stimulation than they were evolved to handle; we're seeing more beauty in one day than our ancestors did in a lifetime. And the result is that beauty is slowly ruining our lives.

How? The way any drug becomes a problem: by interfering with our relationships with other people. We become dissatisfied with the way ordinary people look because they can't compare to supermodels.”
― Ted Chiang, Stories of Your Life and Others

tags: advertisements, advertising, aesthetics, beauty, beauty-standards, supermodels, unrealistic-standards

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#2

“Lines can be the etchings of your biggest smiles, the frowns you learned from, the proof that you change and grow.”
― Eleanor Gordon-Smith

tags: ageing, ageing-gracefully, beauty, beauty-standards, body-image, body-positivity

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#3

“live loud and proud like you deserve
and reject their bullshit definition
of what a woman should look like”
― Rupi Kaur, Home Body

tags: beauty, beauty-standards, unconventional-beauty

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#4

“Who says you have to be rich in order to be strong and beautiful?”
― AriaKang

tags: beauty-standards, fearless-living, female-empowerment, independent-women, inner-strength, live-life, self-love, strength, strong-women, take-action

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#5

“She was one of those women whose features are not perfect and who in their moments of dimness may not seem even pretty, but who, excited by the blood or the spirit, become almost supernaturally beautiful.”
― Edmund Wilson

tags: beauty, edna-st-vincent-millay, unconventional-beauty

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#6

“Wrinkles are devastating for women! A quite undeserved punishment! Because no woman deserves a wrinkled face. Wrinkles should be hidden in the heart, or perhaps not, perhaps not even in your heart, because wrinkles there might be fatal and we ought not to die, though we might as well, because when a woman has wrinkles she's already half dead, and couldn't care less if she died.”
― Rosa Maria Arquimbau, Forty Lost Years

tags: ageing, beauty, beauty-standards, women, wrinkles, wrinkles-of-age

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#7

“Instead of criminal, women's bodies are inherently defective, aesthetically defective. To the body whose value is judged almost solely on aesthetics, it is a devastating sentence. We are too short, too tall, too fat, too thin, too dark, too stiff, too loose, too solicitous, too yielding, too assertive, too weak, or too strong.”
― Melissa Febos, Girlhood

tags: beauty-standards, empowerment-of-women, feminism, girl-power, male-gaze, self-image, women

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#8

“Even more money is transferred to the bank accounts of fashion designers, gym managers, dieticians, cosmeticians and plastic surgeons, who help us arrive at the café looking as similar as possible to the market’s ideal of beauty.”
― Yuval Noah Harari, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind

tags: beauty-standards

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#9

“What is beauty? Why is this world obsessed with beauty? It is a pathetic way of measuring your worth in the eyes of another.

How can one person or the majority decide who is beautiful and who is not? Why are people all over the world being driven to adopt standards of beauty? Why do we have beauty pageants? The world is making people want to "look beautiful" but not "be beautiful."

The world is making the new generation self- conscious about external looks. The new generation is becoming superficial. There is no depth in people.

True beauty is not in how we look. It is in how we love, care, and share.”
― Avijeet Das

tags: beauty-pageants-young-adults, beauty-standards, become-deep, deep-thoughts, life-and-living-life-philosophy, meaning-of-beautiful, philosophy-of-life, true-beauty

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#10

“For a girl, the fear of not being pretty is the fear of not being a valuable object, which is the fear of not being loved. It is a conflation that is instilled so early on and runs so deep that, even when you know it's a fear perpetrated by patriarchy, goaded by fashion magazines, and used to manipulate you into buying stuff, you still can't stop the way it affects you. Being a woke feminist doesn't mean you've overcome it, it just means you've learned to live with your perpetual self-loathing and your anger around it, too.”
― Ani DiFranco, No Walls and the Recurring Dream: A Memoir

tags: beauty-standards, feminism, patriarchy

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#11

“It was also then that the women of Ak&‌ccedil;ah started a new custom. Underneath their garments they wrapped cloth bands around their waists to squeeze them tight. They were so awed by Zekiye's thin waist that, for a while, they ignored Atiye when she reminded them that this waist-thinning method wouldn't work unless they had started very young. But the women kept their waistbands on until the sheep-mating season to see what would happeend. Then they all began to wheeze. They found that in their zeal for having thin waists they had afflicted themselves with shortness of breath, coughing, flushes and sweating. A few had sores on their hands, faces and other parts of their bodies. Three women had problems with their eyes and speech. And when their waists started to swell up like logs, they all took off the cloth bands. "We're well past the age of waist-thinning," they said. All the same, they considered it their duty as mothers to raise their daughters to be as slender as Zekiye. They took lessons in the art of waist-thinning from Atiye and soon discovered that plastic bags were more effective than cloth bands. Thereafter, whenever they had girl babies, they would wash them with three bowls of water as soon as the umbilical cord was cut and then wrap plastic bags around their waists, blowing prayers on them all the while.”
― Latife Tekin, Sevgili Arsız Ölüm

tags: beauty-standards, thinness

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#12

“Naomi Wolf wrote, in The Beauty Myth, about the peculiar fact that beauty requirements have escalated as women’s subjugation has decreased. It’s as if our culture has mustered an immune-system response to continue breaking the fever of gender equality—as if some deep patriarchal logic has made it that women need to achieve ever-higher levels of beauty to make up for the fact that we are no longer economically and legally dependent on men. One waste of time had been traded for another, Wolf wrote. Where women in mid-century America had been occupied with “inexhaustible but ephemeral” domestic work, beating back disorder with fastidious housekeeping and consumer purchases, they were now occupied by inexhaustible but ephemeral beauty work, spending huge amounts of time, anxiety, and money to adhere to a standard over which they had no control. Beauty constituted a sort of “third shift,” Wolf wrote—an extra obligation in every possible setting.”
― Jia Tolentino, Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion

tags: beauty-standards

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#13

“A society where feminine beauty is defined not by the human self on genuine intellectual and sentimental grounds, but by a computer software on the grounds of economic interest, is more dead than alive. It is a society of human bodies, not human beings.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

tags: achievement, beautiful, beautiful-women, beauty, beauty-and-the-beast, beauty-in-nature, beauty-quotes, beauty-standards, brainy-quotes, female, female-beauty, female-characters, female-empowerment, female-hero, female-liberation, female-protagonist, females, feminine, feminine-power, femininity, feminism, feminism-identity, feminismo, feminist, feminist-quotes, feminists, girl, girl-power, girl-quotes, girls, humanism, humanity, humankind, inspirational, inspiring-women, leadership, leadership-development, man-and-woman, man-and-woman-quote, mankind, model-photography, modeling, neuropsychology, photography, photography-quotes, portrait-photography, success, woman, woman-quotations, woman-quotes, woman-s-character, woman-s-strength, womanhood, women, women-and-men, women-empowerment, women-quotes, women-s-inspirational, women-s-rights, women-s-strength, womens-rights, words-of-wisdom

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#14

“Simply being born female in our society is to grow up being told your worth as a person is tied to how slim and attractive you are. Even for those of us lucky enough to have evolved parents, the message is still driven home by the world at large.”
― Padma Lakshmi, Love, Loss, and What We Ate: A Memoir

tags: beauty-standards, body-dysmorphic-disorder, body-image, feminism, sexism

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#15

“The feminist call was for women to embrace ways of seeing beauty and adorning ourselves that are healthy, life-affirming, and not overly time-time consuming.”
― bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love

tags: beauty-standards, bell-hooks, communion, feminism

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#16

“Life is a useless passion, an exciting journey of a mammal in survival mode. Each day is a miracle, a blessing unexplored and the more you immerse yourself in light, the less you will feel the darkness. There is more to life than nothingness. And cynicism. And nihilism. And selfishness. And glorious isolation. Be selfish with yourself, but live your life through your immortal acts, acts that engrain your legacy onto humanity. Transcend your fears and follow yourself into the void instead of letting yourself get eaten up by entropy and decay. Freedom is being yourself without permission. Be soft and leave a lasting impression on everybody you meet”
― Mohadesa Najumi

tags: acceptance-of-others, ascension, bell-hooks, brain, connectedness, consciousness, crazy, embodiment, enlightenment, fetters, genius, happiness, heartbreak, life, loss, love, matrix, mental-power, mohadesa, mohadesa-najumi, najumi, neuroscience, normal, norms, osho, pain, philosophy, psycology, relationship, self-awareness, self-help, self-love, self-mastery, society, sociology, spirituality, third-eye, understanding

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#17

“Study yourself. Become your own mentor and best friend. When you are suffering stay at the bottom until you find out who you are. Let the storms come and pass. How you walk through the fire says a lot about you. Nobody likes a victimhood mentality and what happened to you is not important. It is about how you use your chaos that matters. The dawn will come”
― Mohadesa Najumi

tags: acceptance, ascension, bell-hooks, connectedness, consciousness, enlightenment, heartbreak, life, loss, love, matrix, osho, pain, philosophy, psycology, relationship, self-awareness, self-help, self-love, society, spirituality, third-eye, understanding

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#18

“You are not always right. It’s not always about being right. The best thing you can offer others is understanding. Being an active listener is about more than just listening, it is about reciprocating and being receptive to somebody else. Everybody has woes. Nobody is safe from pain. However, we all suffer in different ways. So learn to adapt to each person, know your audience and reserve yourself for people who have earned the depths of you”
― Mohadesa Najumi

tags: acceptance, ascension, bell-hooks, brain, connectedness, consciousness, crazy, embodiment, enlightenment, fetters, genius, happiness, heartbreak, life, loss, love, matrix, mental-power, mohadesa, mohadesa-najumi, najumi, neuroscience, normal, norms, osho, pain, philosophy, psycology, relationship, self-awareness, self-help, self-love, self-mastery, society, sociology, spirituality, third-eye, understanding

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#19

“No matter how beautiful or not one is perceived to be, the true beauty we all possess is found on the inside. That should be our focus and the measure by which we are judged. How do we move through life? What other lives have we touched? Who have we confronted with love? How have we changed the world for the better? Those are all qualities that can’t be countered or weighed. Really, beauty beyond size.”
― Ashley Graham

tags: beauty, beauty-standards, inspirational

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#20

“Women hide their imperfections instead of accepting them as an added charm.”
― Coco Chanel

tags: beauty-standards

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#21

“We want to look desirable. We want others to want to mate with us. No different than a colorful peacock. When girls dress up for their night out at the club, they are doing what all animals do when they try to make themselves desirable for a potential mate. That's the whole point behind the fashion, perfume, cosmetics, diet, and plastic surgery industries.”
― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can't Be Friends

tags: beauty, beauty-standards, clubbing, cosmetic-surgery, cosmetics, diet, diet-industry, dieting, dieting-humor, fashion, fashion-industry, fashion-quotes, girls, girls-night, mating, mating-ritual, men-and-women, perfume, perfume-quotes, plastic-surgery, women, women-and-men

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#22

“Don't tell me I'm "too tall" just because my height happens to threaten your rather fragile sense of masculinity. The fact that men cannot physically look down upon women who are taller than them is the very reason that many men find tall women so intimidating.”
― Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

tags: appearance, beauty, beauty-contructs, beauty-standards, body, body-shaming, body-shape, feminism, feminist, feminist-perspective, fragile, gender, intimidating, intimidation, manhood, masculine, masculinity, men, short-girls, short-women, size, stereotypes, tall, tall-girls, tall-women

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#23

“Every woman has a record of her body—a closet full of jeans and bras of various sizes, albums full of photographs revealing periods of weight gain and loss.”
― Padma Lakshmi, Love, Loss, and What We Ate: A Memoir

tags: beauty-standards, weight-changes, women-s-bodies

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#24

“Putting someone down with name calling reveals your own low self-esteem.”
― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem

tags: boost-your-self-esteem, esteem, self-discovery, self-esteem, self-esteem-or-lack-thereof, self-help, self-improvement, stephen-richards, stephen-richards-self-help

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#25

“Intention of seeking attention is an addiction. A vicious cycle which damages your health, finances and relationships. It will NOT improve your self-image, increase your self-worth or fulfill the need of genuine praise.”
― Maddy Malhotra, How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy

tags: lack-of-self-love, living-for-others, self-esteem-or-lack-thereof, show-off

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#26

“Don't plant your high hopes in a mud puddle.”
― Heather Babcock

tags: abusive-relationship, dream-big, dream-big-in-life, self-esteem, self-esteem-or-lack-thereof, self-love-self-respect, self-worth

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#27

“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as
obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

tags: abuse, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, abusive-relationships, emotional-abuse, mental-abuse, physical-abuse, verbal-abuse

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#28

“The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His attitude is: “You owe me.” For each ounce he gives, he wants a pound in return. He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs—or her children’s—get neglected. You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he’ll never be satisfied for long. And he will keep feeling that you are controlling him, because he doesn’t believe that you should set any limits on his conduct or insist that he meet his responsibilities.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, entitlement

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#29

“And THAT is how you fall into an abusive relationship: when you start acting in a way so as not to upset the other person or set them off. You’ve given away control of your own life, bit by bit, bit by bit. It’s incremental, until one day, you have hidden so much of yourself you get lost.”
― Rose McGowan, Brave

tags: abuse, abusive-relationship, losing-yourself

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#30

“They know she heard them, but they don't care, or maybe they even wanted her to. Like she's not even a person, not someone with feelings, not someone who can get hurt. Just an object. Just something they can use.”
― Amy Reed, The Nowhere Girls

tags: objectification, objectification-of-women, sexism

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