Adultery discussion

I went downtown on the 14th of June and visited the well-known bookshop “Kiteb”…
The first book to fall in my visual radar was Paulo Coelho's Adultery (French copy)…
As I read the back cover of the book I felt my blood boil, and I couldn’t really think straight for a minute or two.
It’s the story of about mid-thirty’s married woman & mother of two behaved children… Her marriage is stable, her husband is caring, her children are sweet as Jewels: WHAT CAN ANYBODY WANT MORE FROM LIFE???
She suffered secretly from boredom, apathy & inside-loneliness. She had to fake her feelings in every turn, in order to preserve her marriage, and that’s, I confess, respectfully respected. (But nothing to be astonished about from a married person. Isn’t that what marriage is all about?).
Everything was cool until she met her EX-F**KING-Boy-Friend, that stirred in her some old feelings. “Passion” I read.
Why not speak up one’s feelings to one’s partner??? Why not share one’s thought with one’s mate? WHY NOT SEEK SOME CHANGE IN ONE’S MARITAL LIFE IN ORDER TO PRESERVE IT, GIVE IT A FRESH START?????
THAT’S WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, RIGHT? SHARING! & THAT’S TRUE LOVE!
The nature of human heart is to love more than one person, that’s undeniable, & I can humbly SUCCUMB to that idea, since I’ve witnessed people experiencing such things... I used to consider it a heart disease, a mental instability, Untrue love…
Maybe we can’t deny the existence of feelings but we can choose to what things or/and to what people we give in, who we let into our miserably humble lives.
I still didn’t read the book, so maybe I can’t review every corner it speaks about, but the title itself is debate!
ADULTERY is the problem, not the solution!
DOESN’T ANY F**KING BODY KNOW HOW TO F**KING LOVE?

I still don’t know whether the “adultery” happened on the inside of her heart, her feelings, Or it Surpassed it into giving her body to someone outside the marital circle.

And By the way, whether She gave in to ONLY FEELINGS OR GAVE HER EX-BF ACCESS TO WHAT’S UNDER HER SKIRTS DOESN’T REALLY MATTER!!! IT’S ABOUT THE SAME THING!
DOESN’T ANY F**KING BODY KNOW HWO TO FUCKING LOVE???
A DOUBLE CROSS IS A DOUBLE CROSS! A BACKSTAB IS A FU**ING BACK STAB!
I hope I can get my hands on some digital copy of it so I can speak about it more… it’s immensely disturbing me, I confess, But it doesn’t mean I will give up on reading it or hate one of my favorite authors for it. I will face it, look it right into its eyes and say: “BRING IT ON, LOVER”…

I understand you feel quite strong about cheating. People are looking for easy way out and some excitement in their lives. Plus that's our genetic heritage- to prevent species. More from married men side than women. In ideal world people would love each other, there would be no wars and kids wouldn't suffer. But it's not ideal world.
As for the book- very weak, I didn't like it. I wonder tho what you will think of it.

I think first we should not judge a book just because it's titled Adultery, since every writer is free to write whatever they want and decide what his characters feel. So we need not get angry or shout against the world.

The interesting the book Adultery is not the plot, but the reaction to the public, which has been very diverse, and yours, to condemn the protagonist for wanting something different, there are also people who understand her, but in general, see here other side of marriage, one that you might not even accept ourselves because infidelity and sexual desire is taboo in the good society, especially if it comes from a woman, because women are always condemned them for taking the initiative, especially if you are a woman you should not have any reason to feel frustrated. But believe it or not, there are women who feel alone, but don't want to have to pretend and can have all the good, an exemplary husband, a good economic situation, adorable children and a career.
Maybe this woman, in their own way, felt trapped in the stereotype that many women fall inadvertently end up being housewives and many feel trapped by their own children while the husband who lives in general his life, even if doesn't misconduct.
Sometimes women being judged or not, deserved a break, deserved, I don't know, experiment. Doesn't mean I support infidelity, because I also believe in true love, but one thing is for sure, you should never assume anything, not even our own words, because everything is returned in this life.

"ما يعدي فعلا هو الخوف الخوف المستمر في ألا تجد يوما شخصا يرافقنا حتى نهاية أيامنا وباسم هذا الخوف نستطيع أن نقوم بأي شيء بما فيه قبول الشخص غير المناسب والاقتناع بانه المناسب الوحيد, الوحيد الذي وضعه الله على دربنا وفي غضون وقت قصير جدا يتحول البحث عن الأمان إلى حب حار وتمسي الأمور أقل مرارة وأصعب ويمكن أن نودع مشاعرنا صندوقا ونزجه في عمق الخزانة في أذهاننا حيث سيبقى إلى الأبد دفينا لا مرئيا"

هذه الكلمات هي أكثر ما شدني في الرواية , لا ينبغي الحكم على الأمور من الظاهر هذا هو أكثر ما تعلمته أ "شعرت به" من خلال قراءتي ليس العنوان مهما هنا "الزانية" المهم هو الاعتراف بأن هذه المشاعر واقع وتحدث باستمرار وأسلوب التغلب عليها يختلف باختلاف الأشخاص علينا الإقرار بالخطأ والرجوع إلى الحب الأبدي "كما سماه Paulo" هو مفتاح النجاة

وفي نظري الإيمان هو الحل الإيمان والنظر إلى النعم الكثيرة بعين ملأى بالشكر وإعطاء الحب دون انتظار الرد من أحد يكفينا قدرتنا على العطاء والإيمان أن الرد آت لا محالة فهذا هو قانون الكون

blah blah blah.... not sure which was more boring, this review or the book itself. Definitely no room on the bookshelf for this one. Donated it to my local library two seconds after I read the last page.

worst of Coelho's books so far

As a human we will always find a way to wipe and cry .. Rich people complain and look for more money ,, Happy people will look for more happiness and try to find a reason to cry.

It's in our nation to feel incomplete no matter what.

Olga, couldn't agree more. I was so disappointed. I am usually so anxious to recommend Coelho's books, but couldn't think of anyone who would want to read this one. Frankly, I can't see anything worth discussing. Selfish people are selfish people. Who would want to talk about them?