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Coming out advice!

How do you come out 😭

Nidhi ;) wrote: "How do you come out 😭"

you don't 😭
my plan is to literally move away for college when i graduate, then never bring it up (which may be an issue if i want to marry a girl but we'll see what to do when that happens 😭)

I’m out to one of my close friends but that’s about it 😭

Yea me too

Why did I come out to my best friend with this pic on PINTEREST
https://pin.it/62SyK4Yf4 😭

lollll
what was your friend's reaction?

Idkkk she hasn’t replied yet 😭

Ik she won’t judge me for it or anything she’s the last person I’d expect to be homophobic (ik cuz we both also have a shared trans friend) but im kinda worried ill make it awkward??

it's fine don't worry, even if it's awkward yall can still laugh about it after ❤️ i'm glad she isn't homophobic though

Me too <3

She still hasn’t replied 😭

Omigosh naur😭

ohhh noooo 😭😭😭

Guys so u may have seen what I wrote abt accidentally coming out to my crush, and this is how it happened:
We were sitting on the floor of my room going through my necklaces and organizing them cuz why not, (btw we were hanging out cuz none of us had anything to do) and then she lifted a box and found some bi flag stickers I'd made earlier, immediately said: "wait ur bi?" and then I was like very confused and noticed the stickers lmao, she then said: "eyyy sameee" and we talked a lil abt it and continued organizing necklaces lol

So it went well ig

niceeeee

Yayy that’s great

When do you know it’s a good time to come out 😭 and how?? Like no one ik irl knows I’m bi… and it just feels like this secret I’m keeping and I almost accidentally blurt it out but at the same time I never wanna tell them because what if they hate me? And like I’m too scared to, especially since I realized this pretty recently and like I half the time love that I’m bi and the other half kinda hate myself for it…… my family isn’t homophobic, they’re not religious but they aren’t really allies…. Like they kinda support lgbtq but idk if they’d want their own to daughter to be bi 😭

Do u know anyone (friends, extended family) who is openly lgbtq? If so, that may make it much easier to tell them first

Do u feel comfortable enough with your identity to come out? Because it isn’t something you HAVE to do, or owe anyone! This is about you, and only you. Also, I’ve found that coming out to friends is a bit easier to do first so I suggest that, but again, you don’t have to come out. If you want to you can, but you shouldn’t feel like you’re obligated to. Especially if you feel uncomfortable with the thought.

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "Do u know anyone (friends, extended family) who is openly lgbtq? If so, that may make it much easier to tell them first"

I don’t really lol my extended family are all pretty homophobic (I think, ik my grandparents are and my aunts and uncle are)

Nidhi ;) wrote: "Do u feel comfortable enough with your identity to come out? Because it isn’t something you HAVE to do, or owe anyone! This is about you, and only you. Also, I’ve found that coming out to friends i..."

Thanks, honestly I don’t know… the thing is like I’m still not totally sure but at the same time I kinda am and it’s so hard and stressful feeling like it’s a secret I’m keeping from everyone and I’m constantly scared they’ll accidentally find out… and I don’t have friends except on who I’m not close with, and I only see her a few times a year and because of health problems she’s having she can’t hang out and she hates texting 😭 and she would tell her mom who would tell my mom

I'm gonna come out to my family tomorrow 😬

Khadijah wrote: "omg. I hope that goes well. Sending hugs."

tysm <33

Ophelia ˚࿔ wrote: "Nidhi ;) wrote: "Do u feel comfortable enough with your identity to come out? Because it isn’t something you HAVE to do, or owe anyone! This is about you, and only you. Also, I’ve found that coming..."

That situation sounds like a real mess 😭 buuuut I think if you aren’t at least more than 80% sure ur ready then you shouldn’t do it. Ofc you can never be completely sure but more than eighty and you’re as good as you’ll get in my book. Also, if you think that she would tell your mom then I don’t think you should tell her (at least until you’ve told your parents and family bc coming out to family through someone else is a real nightmare). But, you don’t have to listen to any of this really. You do what’s best for you. Idk what your whole situation actually looks like in a real life perspective. Still, if whenever you end up doing it, remember that even if your family doesn’t accept you, there’s an online community for you right round the corner <3

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "I'm gonna come out to my family tomorrow 😬"

Ayeeee that’s great!! 😃 Good luckkk!!!! I hope it goes well for you!! 🎉

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "I'm gonna come out to my family tomorrow 😬"

omggg yayyyyyyy sending the best of luckkkkkk!!!!!

Nidhi ;) wrote: "Ophelia ˚࿔ wrote: "Nidhi ;) wrote: "Do u feel comfortable enough with your identity to come out? Because it isn’t something you HAVE to do, or owe anyone! This is about you, and only you. Also, I’v..."
Thank you so much! Yeah I think I’ll wait for a while

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "I'm gonna come out to my family tomorrow 😬"

good luck sofieeeee <3
also i know i'm a day early but HAPPY EARLY BDAY 🥳

tysm y'all I'm a lil nervous

You got this!!! 🙌

yess you doo
good luckkkkk <3

so i'm out to my mom, stepdad, and my dad, but i want to come out to my extended family—mostly my grandparents. my grandparents on my dad's side would not care at all, my aunt's bisexual soooo. i'm a little nervous about my mom and stepdad's parents, though. i'm pansexual. they're christian and i'm scared they won't want to see me anymore or they'll think i'm "too young". family is the most important thing to me ever, so if anyone has advice? idk lmao

Sai :) wrote: "Nidhi ;) wrote: "How do you come out 😭"

you don't 😭
my plan is to literally move away for college when i graduate, then never bring it up (which may be an issue if i want to marry a girl but we'll..."

That's real tho......

AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD"

OMGGGGGG YESSS SOFLUFFFF DID IT GO WELLLLL??

I said "Eeeeeh, dad?"
Long pause
He said "What, u like girls too or smth?" (we had just discussed my lesbian friend/crush)
Me "Maaaayyyybbeeeeee"

And he said it was totes alr and that it didn't matter yey

Sumayyah (semi-hiatus) wrote: "⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD"

OMGGGGGG YESSS SOFLUFFFF DID IT GO WELLLLL??"

Yea ig so

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "And he said it was totes alr and that it didn't matter yey"

ayyyyee thats good thennn

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "Sumayyah (semi-hiatus) wrote: "⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD"

OMGGGGGG YESSS SOFLUFFFF DID IT GO WELLLLL??"

Yea ig so"

okkk thts good, well donee soflufff

serenity(spilled✪) wrote: "so i'm out to my mom, stepdad, and my dad, but i want to come out to my extended family—mostly my grandparents. my grandparents on my dad's side would not care at all, my aunt's bisexual soooo. i'm..."

First of all, congrats on being out to your family!! It’s really great that you feel comfortable enough to do that! I understand your dilemma. Is there anyone in your extended family who you trust a little bit more than the others who you feel more comfortable with? I suggest coming out to them first and seeing how that goes and then going from there? Maybe you could ask someone from your close family to be with you when you come out, as support? I hope this helps! And good luck, you got this!

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD"

YASSSSS SOFIEEEE SLAYYYYYY

⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "Sumayyah (semi-hiatus) wrote: "⛦Sofie☼ (Da #1 choc puddinger of GR) wrote: "AAAAAAAAAAA I CAME OUT TO MY DAD"

OMGGGGGG YESSS SOFLUFFFF DID IT GO WELLLLL??"

Yea ig so"

THATS AWESOMEEE!!!! 🎉🥳

Nidhi ;) wrote: "serenity(spilled✪) wrote: "so i'm out to my mom, stepdad, and my dad, but i want to come out to my extended family—mostly my grandparents. my grandparents on my dad's side would not care at all, my..."

i'm about to spend a week with my grandparents on my dad's side, so... i'll probably tell them.

soooo I just accidentally came out to my sister and im literally panicking so much rn

OMIGOSH WHAT DID SHE SAY

Oh no! Are you ok?

oops I didn’t see your messages 😭