Ask the Author: Trina Read
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Trina Read
I'm (scrambling) to finish Sex Boot Camp, which is the workbook companion to The Sex Course. It's for women who want to do the five-step course while she reads The Sex Course.
I'm also working on the second draft of The Sex Show. (Hint: Are you an ARC or BETA reader? Let me know.) It is book #2 of this trilogy, where the four women go to The Taboo Sex show--which is a (real) all-about-sex trade show. Each character learns something about herself at the show which helps deepen her sexual self-esteem.
I'm also working on the second draft of The Sex Show. (Hint: Are you an ARC or BETA reader? Let me know.) It is book #2 of this trilogy, where the four women go to The Taboo Sex show--which is a (real) all-about-sex trade show. Each character learns something about herself at the show which helps deepen her sexual self-esteem.
Trina Read
I get to write the sex scenes I want to read. And I sincerely hope women get to see themselves and feel normal when they read my sex scenes.
For twenty five years, every time I read or watched a sex scene where the moment a penis enters a vagina, and the woman explodes into a rapturous orgasm--I shake my head, cringe, and want to set the record straight.
Too many times my poor husband (who wants to watch the show) has to listen to my (unasked for) commentary. "It must be a male director doing a male-centric sex scene, perpetuating a toxic sex myth. Doesn't he understand this gives unrealistic expectations and sets women up for failure!??!"
The Sex Course was my way of pulling back the curtain on the reality of sex. It's messy and complicated but it also can bring us a lot of pleasure and joy. I especially enjoyed writing Amy, who is my sex-positive character, sex scenes. It shows women what sex can be.
What surprised me the most was how tricky it is to write a sex scene. Describing body parts, how they move, what a person is feeling and why, is complicated. I thought being a Sexologist would make it easier but, somehow, it made it more difficult.
For twenty five years, every time I read or watched a sex scene where the moment a penis enters a vagina, and the woman explodes into a rapturous orgasm--I shake my head, cringe, and want to set the record straight.
Too many times my poor husband (who wants to watch the show) has to listen to my (unasked for) commentary. "It must be a male director doing a male-centric sex scene, perpetuating a toxic sex myth. Doesn't he understand this gives unrealistic expectations and sets women up for failure!??!"
The Sex Course was my way of pulling back the curtain on the reality of sex. It's messy and complicated but it also can bring us a lot of pleasure and joy. I especially enjoyed writing Amy, who is my sex-positive character, sex scenes. It shows women what sex can be.
What surprised me the most was how tricky it is to write a sex scene. Describing body parts, how they move, what a person is feeling and why, is complicated. I thought being a Sexologist would make it easier but, somehow, it made it more difficult.
Trina Read
When I wrote Till Sex Do Us Part in 2008, even though it became a best-seller, it was clear women didn't want to read a self-help on sex. On it's heels Fifty Shades of Grey became a worldwide phenomenon and I saw how women craved sex ed via fiction.
After twenty years of noodling how an average woman, in an average relationship could enjoy sex over the long term, I developed an easy-to-follow, five-step program.
I cracked the code on long term sexual happiness and wanted to get this program out to as many women as possible. So it had to be written as a fiction.
In 2021 I started to write The Sex Course. I'm confident as a non-fiction writer and had NO idea the learning curve to write fiction mixed with self-help would be so steep. I had to put in the requisite 10,000 hours. There were many times I wanted to give up because of the struggle and frustration.
The only thing that kept me going was that women needed to know she was not sexually broken. That she was normal if she didn't like the sex society expected her to have. For women to never have to say, "I don't care if I ever have sex again."
More important, for women to feel confident that changing her sexual circumstance was straightforward and easy ... even if she was super busy with life.
After twenty years of noodling how an average woman, in an average relationship could enjoy sex over the long term, I developed an easy-to-follow, five-step program.
I cracked the code on long term sexual happiness and wanted to get this program out to as many women as possible. So it had to be written as a fiction.
In 2021 I started to write The Sex Course. I'm confident as a non-fiction writer and had NO idea the learning curve to write fiction mixed with self-help would be so steep. I had to put in the requisite 10,000 hours. There were many times I wanted to give up because of the struggle and frustration.
The only thing that kept me going was that women needed to know she was not sexually broken. That she was normal if she didn't like the sex society expected her to have. For women to never have to say, "I don't care if I ever have sex again."
More important, for women to feel confident that changing her sexual circumstance was straightforward and easy ... even if she was super busy with life.
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