Tom Zuba > Quotes

“If you are working with a therapist counselor social worker grief expert minister priest or anyone else who is trying to help you navigate the wilderness of grief and they start talking about the groundbreaking observations of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross suggesting there is an orderly predictable unfolding of grief please please please. Do yourself a favor. Leave. People who are dying often experience five stages of grief: denial anger bargaining depression and acceptance. They are grieving their impending death. This is what Elizabeth Kubler Ross observed. People who are learning to live with the death of a beloved have a different process. It isn’t the same. It isn’t orderly. It isn’t predictable. Grief is wild and messy and unpredictable”
― Tom Zuba, Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief

“The death of someone we love dearly cracks us open. Big time. It’s supposed to.”
― Tom Zuba, Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief

“We must choose, moment to moment, between love and fear.”
― Tom Zuba