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“For nine months I grew a human being inside my belly and then I pushed it out my vagina and now I'm feeding it with my boob. Biology is so fucking weird.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita

“In life, it's not the breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away.”
― Heather Armstrong

“Depression extinguishes our purpose in life—the purpose of anything in our lives—making it quite literally impossible to handle anything. Every day and hour and minute is an obstacle course of things we are supposed to handle; most people do so without any effort, but we can’t even see around the first corner. And so we collapse. Or we sleep for days on end. Or we yell at people who don’t deserve it.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“That’s another thing that people don’t understand about depression: we don’t want to take a shower, we don’t know why we feel this way, and even if we did, it wouldn’t make us stop feeling this way. We have lost all interest in doing anything, especially anything that once brought us joy—because that thing will not bring us joy, and we can’t bear the meaning of that. It would be too much. It would crush us.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“So please, in the name of John, Paul, George, and possibly Ringo, do not be afraid to screw up once in a while. Life can beat every creative impulse out of you and make you scared to embark in new directions. I say, embark away. (Doug French)”
― Heather B. Armstrong, Things I Learned About My Dad in Therapy

“He asked us if we'd like to do it [deliver the baby] today. Today? You mean, this day? The day that is this one?”
― Heather B. Armstrong, It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita

“I wanted to teach my daughter the same things I had to unlearn after years spent as a corporate lawyer: that soul is more important than money, that love means more than material things. (James Griffioen)”
― Heather B. Armstrong, Things I Learned About My Dad in Therapy

“However, I will always remember those few hours, and the days of worry leading up to those few hours, and the years and years leading up to those days when I didn't know what it was like to have my soul wrapped inside the palm of a baby”
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“We think we will be alone forever.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“I will love him until the death of universes not yet born.”
― Heather B. Armstrong

“And just in case you didn't know this little tidbit about social interaction, let me fill you in on something: Do not ever comment on how or what or when a woman is eating anything. Don't do it. Because you know what might happen? You might trigger an obsession with food that the woman had managed to stifle for over twenty years - an obsession that throttled her ability to function throughout high school and college - all because you couldn't resist monitoring her refried beans. Good job. Well done. Five stars. Ten points for you.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“the exhaustion of thinking about it is what prevented me from wearing anything that would require thinking in the first place.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“Life bombs are Innocent when asleep.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita

“The dating scene in Utah is a beautiful backdrop for a suicidal ideation.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“And then I began silently sobbing for all the children out therewhose parents don’t believe them. We so desperately do not want to feel alone.
We don’t want to feel this way.
We would do anything not to feel this way. The lengths we will go to so that we no longer feel this way. I sat there crying for those of us who believe the only way out is through death, wishing we all had someone like my mother who chooses to listen and believe. I cried harder for those of us who don’t, who do not ever make it up and out of the hole. I cried for those of us stuck in the loop of the lie, that the world would be so much better off without us.
Please believe us.
Help us find our way up and out and back to the truth that you would not be better off without us.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live

“What a great month, little one. We are having so much fun together, going on walks and reading books and watching Pyramid twice a day. Just when I think my love for you couldn’t be any bigger, I wake up and discover that I love you even more, and I worry that my body isn’t big enough to hold this much love. I worry that my insides may explode because there isn’t any more room. I am drunk on my love for you, a sloppy drunk who can’t see straight or speak in coherent sentences, a drunk who giggles every time you fart. And it’s just so awesome that you’re old enough now that you can giggle with me.”
― Heather B. Armstrong, It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita

“She single-handedly stocked Leta's entire wardrobe, and although the clothes were flashier than I would normally prefer, I didn't see the harm in having a daughter dressed like a mini Avon World Sales Leader. Plus, we could use the money we saved on baby clothes to buy more chocolate.”
― Heather Armstrong