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“Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself. You start chasing. You get desperate. You forget your “why.” But most importantly, you don’t allow yourself to be happy until you get what you want. And if that never comes, you never practice being happy.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Everything ends and begins with what you believe about yourself. What you believe will determine where you will go and who you will become.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

“Learn the difference between busyness and accomplishments.”
― John Kim

“Can you give someone else your undivided attention? Do that for yourself.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“A thriving relationship is one in which two whole people come together and do life with each other, not at or around each other. To do that, we must have a healthy relationship with ourselves,”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“The same thoughts produce the same feelings, which produce the same behavior, which leads to the same experiences. And I’ll take this one step further. Having the same experiences cements the same false beliefs. Basically, we live in a loop—a pattern that keeps us stuck and disconnected, not only from ourselves but also from the world.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Singlehood isn’t just about being single. Singlehood is about being a whole person.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the situation could have been. —SYLVESTER MCNUTT III”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Because when inner change happens, it naturally ripples outward.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

“Every man must ask himself two questions: First, Where am I going? And second, Who’s coming with me? If he reverses the order, he will be going alone.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman's Guide to a Meaningful Life

“How you talk to yourself is actually more important than how you treat yourself. Because how you talk to yourself will determine how you treat yourself. Words turn into actions more easily than actions turn into words.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“will never be in an abusive relationship, neither physical nor emotional.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“But we can’t fix other people. And we’ll always only be 50 percent of any relationship. So even if we could be perfect, that would be only half and half is not enough.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Cuando creemos que sabemos algo, dejamos de aprender.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck Yo era un c*brón amargado (Spanish edition): Cómo ser hombre y vivir una vida con sentido

“Now take a moment and ask yourself: How are you connecting to your spirit today? Or are you? When did you listen to your true spirit and allow it to dance? Or have you ever? What happened that killed your spirit? Choosing a career path you never wanted? Not giving yourself any time for yourself? Not doing things that are fun, that make you feel alive, that matter to you?”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Los niños aprenden lo que significa la masculinidad, la fuerza, el amor y su propio ser mirando a otros hombres, en especial a sus padres. Pero vivimos en un país sin padres. Aprendí esto de primera mano cuando trabajaba como terapista en una organización sin fines de lucro atendiendo a adolescentes con adicciones. Después de trabajar con cientos de adolescentes y sus padres, me di cuenta de que el denominador común de más del 95% de estos adolescentes llenos de problemas era un padre ausente. Papá no estaba física o emocionalmente.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck Yo era un c*brón amargado (Spanish edition): Cómo ser hombre y vivir una vida con sentido

“I pulled out that kid I had locked away for so long and restarted my relationship with him.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Because when we feel alive, we are connected to ourselves and our spirit. When we feel dead, we are not. Feed your spirit. But first, you need to find it. You need to embark on the journey.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“If you don’t create a new definition of love, you will always attract and repeat the same love experiences.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“love takes time.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Just as we’re responsible for our own happiness in our relationship, we are also responsible for how we look and feel about ourselves. That is not your partner’s responsibility.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Beauty is about not being judgmental, about depth, about awareness of self and your effect on others through your words and actions. It’s about thoughtfulness, support, communication, banter, eye contact. Beauty lies in having your own life. In love and appreciation for your body, in having an open mind, in being open to different perspectives and opinions, in trying to understand before trying to be understood. Beauty is being gentle but strong, careful with your words, and able to forgive right away instead of holding on to resentment. Beauty is honest and consistent communication. Beauty is not complaining, not seeing yourself as a victim, not making everything about you. Beauty is lining up your actions with your words, practicing gratitude and compassion, believing in things greater than yourself, standing for something, giving people the benefit of the doubt even though you’ve been hurt many times. Beauty is also being able to draw strong healthy boundaries with a Sharpie instead of chalk. Beauty is the fire in your belly flamed daily by action. Beauty is vulnerability, commitment, consistency, communication, standing in your truth. Beauty is responding instead of reacting. Beauty is leaning into and growing through life’s turbulence. Beauty is being able to look inward and love hard by loving responsibly.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Now ask yourself: In what ways are you not treating yourself the way you treat the people you love? How is your current relationship with yourself? How are you treating yourself (action)? And how are you talking to yourself (words)?”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“We continue to drift further from ourselves, and the more we disconnect from ourselves, the more we crave connecting with someone else.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“relationship with your body, one that you will continue to grow and nurture.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“But Barbie never needed Ken. All she needed was that convertible Vette.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself. You start chasing. You get desperate. You forget your “why.” But most importantly, you don’t allow yourself to be happy until you get what you want. And if that never comes, you never practice being happy. (Yes, happy is built through daily practice. It’s not a light switch to flip on or a destination to arrive at.)”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“If you see yourself as an experiment and distance yourself from your thinking so you stop allowing your thoughts to have power over you, you can do more than you believe you can.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Asking myself Where am I going? before asking myself Who is going with me?”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships