John Kim > Quotes

“Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself. You start chasing. You get desperate. You forget your “why.” But most importantly, you don’t allow yourself to be happy until you get what you want. And if that never comes, you never practice being happy.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Everything ends and begins with what you believe about yourself. What you believe will determine where you will go and who you will become.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

“Learn the difference between busyness and accomplishments.”
― John Kim

“Can you give someone else your undivided attention? Do that for yourself.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“A thriving relationship is one in which two whole people come together and do life with each other, not at or around each other. To do that, we must have a healthy relationship with ourselves,”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“The same thoughts produce the same feelings, which produce the same behavior, which leads to the same experiences. And I’ll take this one step further. Having the same experiences cements the same false beliefs. Basically, we live in a loop—a pattern that keeps us stuck and disconnected, not only from ourselves but also from the world.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Singlehood isn’t just about being single. Singlehood is about being a whole person.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the situation could have been. —SYLVESTER MCNUTT III”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Because when inner change happens, it naturally ripples outward.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

“Every man must ask himself two questions: First, Where am I going? And second, Who’s coming with me? If he reverses the order, he will be going alone.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman's Guide to a Meaningful Life

“Doing things for the outcome rather than for the joy of the process disconnects you from yourself.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“How you talk to yourself is actually more important than how you treat yourself. Because how you talk to yourself will determine how you treat yourself. Words turn into actions more easily than actions turn into words.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“will never be in an abusive relationship, neither physical nor emotional.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“relationship with your body, one that you will continue to grow and nurture.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Cuando creemos que sabemos algo, dejamos de aprender.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck Yo era un c*brón amargado (Spanish edition): Cómo ser hombre y vivir una vida con sentido

“Now take a moment and ask yourself: How are you connecting to your spirit today? Or are you? When did you listen to your true spirit and allow it to dance? Or have you ever? What happened that killed your spirit? Choosing a career path you never wanted? Not giving yourself any time for yourself? Not doing things that are fun, that make you feel alive, that matter to you?”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“general education requirement in school that covers boundaries”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“We punch clocks instead of the sky and chase blueprints that don’t even belong to us”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Los niños aprenden lo que significa la masculinidad, la fuerza, el amor y su propio ser mirando a otros hombres, en especial a sus padres. Pero vivimos en un país sin padres. Aprendí esto de primera mano cuando trabajaba como terapista en una organización sin fines de lucro atendiendo a adolescentes con adicciones. Después de trabajar con cientos de adolescentes y sus padres, me di cuenta de que el denominador común de más del 95% de estos adolescentes llenos de problemas era un padre ausente. Papá no estaba física o emocionalmente.”
― John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck Yo era un c*brón amargado (Spanish edition): Cómo ser hombre y vivir una vida con sentido

“If you don’t create a new definition of love, you will always attract and repeat the same love experiences.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“I pulled out that kid I had locked away for so long and restarted my relationship with him.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Because when we feel alive, we are connected to ourselves and our spirit. When we feel dead, we are not. Feed your spirit. But first, you need to find it. You need to embark on the journey.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“love takes time.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Just as we’re responsible for our own happiness in our relationship, we are also responsible for how we look and feel about ourselves. That is not your partner’s responsibility.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“How you talk to yourself is actually more important than how you treat yourself. Because how you talk to yourself will determine how you treat yourself.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“She had also gained a lot of weight. It was what I call “hiding weight.” Hiding from her problems, her misery, her husband, her self, and the world. But after she left him, she started to shed the weight, even though, she admitted, she didn’t work out that much. It was almost like her body said, “Okay, let’s do this,” and started losing weight on its own. And she wasn’t just literally lighter. Her energy was different.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“remain completely unaware of what a healthy relationship even looks like. After all, we’ve never experienced one. So we get into toxic, abusive, and lopsided relationships because they feel familiar, though they bring us the kind of pain that makes us question life. We keep that buried deep inside and pretend it’s all good.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Our search for what we’re lacking sets off the toxic pattern of living from the outside in instead of from the inside out. We lock away parts of ourselves that we once liked in a hope chest. We become lesser versions of ourselves so others will like us. Or we posture. Either way, we hide now and learn to chase approval and validation, a quest we will stay on for many years to come. Soon it turns us invisible.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“We don’t know how to draw boundaries with Sharpie instead of chalk.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth in Your Journey Through Life, Dating, and Relationships

“Dave has always equated love with sex. That idea had started early on with pornographic images which wired him a certain way. It was reinforced by guy talk in locker rooms, he played sports in high school and college, and through relationships with women who also defined love as sex. It was all he knew, but as it turned out, most of those women had been sexually abused in ways that disconnected them from their bodies and wired them to be highly sexual. It came out that Maddie was also sexually abused, which Dave didn't know, but she had gone the other way in reaction to that trauma. She didn't enjoy sex. Sex was a device, something she used to attract men, not something that brought her pleasure.”
― John Kim, Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.