Nancy Sander > Quotes

“If children are encouraged at this stage, receiving praise for their accomplishments, they will start to exhibit industry by being thorough, and persisting through tasks until complete. If children are instead ridiculed, punished for their efforts, or if they find they are incapable of meeting teachers’ and parents’ expectations, they develop feelings of inferiority about their capabilities.”
― Nancy Sander, Child Development Book: Stages of Childhood and Life

“Make every effort to avoid raising your voice, while teaching these methods. If you raise your voice, your child may (most likely will) just shut down and not hear you. Intensity creates a wall. There will be eye rolling; there will be crying; that is okay; that is to be expected. Children want what they want immediately. Teach patience by practicing patience. For example, as opposed to screaming, “Stop throwing blocks at the dog!” you will be more successful in the long run, if you quietly take the blocks away as a consequence of the behavior. The child cannot throw blocks, if there are no blocks. Furthermore, the child will learn that to keep the blocks, there can be no throwing blocks at the dog.”
― Nancy Sander, Child Behavior Problem Solutions - Dealing with Children's Anger