Jed Jurchenko > Quotes

“The goal is to move through challenges gracefully and to enjoy life’s amazing moments to their fullest.”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Conversations Psychology and the Bible: Live, Lead, and Love Well

“In his book, Knowing God, J.I. Packer paints a brilliant picture of the value of Scripture stating, “As it would be cruel to an Amazonian tribesman to fly him to London, put him down without explanation in Trafalgar Square and leave him, as one who knew nothing of English or England, to fend for himself, so we are cruel to ourselves if we try to live in this world without knowing about the God whose world it is and who runs it.”3”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Conversations Psychology and the Bible: Live, Lead, and Love Well

“Scripture is the ultimate source of truth and contains some of the most valuable wisdom on the planet because it was given to us by the author of life Himself.”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies for Building Dynamic Leadership and Relationships

“Showing empathy involves taking into account the feelings of others, walking a mile in their shoes, and asking ourselves how we would feel if we found ourselves facing similar circumstances.”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies for Building Dynamic Leadership and Relationships

“On the other hand, miserable couples put forth great efforts to force change. There is little patience for individual differences. The renowned psychologist William Glasser called these attempts to control our loved ones, external control psychology. Each of the seven habits of miserable couples is an external control psychology tactic.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“Happy couples stay curious. Remember, intimacy is into-me-see. You and your spouse are continually changing. There will always be new things to learn about each other, so keep talking and stay curious. May your marriage overflow with happiness and love in the years ahead!”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“I define intimacy as “into-me-see.” It is the ability to know another person while simultaneously being known. Intimacy involves a mutual sharing of inner worlds, including hopes, hurts, dreams, and nightmares. This process of mutual sharing binds hearts together.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“Successfully navigating life's difficulties requires that we continually expand our understanding of love.”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies for Building Dynamic Leadership and Relationships

“Proverbs 28:20 says, “A faithful person will have an abundance of blessings.” Happy couples fill each other’s love banks by being faithful in the little things. It is during the ordinary days of marriage that extraordinary trust is developed. In short, faithfulness builds trust, and trust is the foundation of a happy marriage!”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“While dating, couples are on their best behavior. They listen attentively, laugh at each other’s jokes, and choose to believe the best about each other. Married couples tend to be more honest, raw, and real. While this can be good—because raw emotions and serious conversations add much to the relationship—don’t forget to put your best foot forward, too. Marriage is not an excuse for relational laziness. Happy couples put their best foot forward day after day.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“If Jesus needed time for self-care, it is only reasonable to expect that you and I do as well.”
― Jed Jurchenko, Coffee Shop Inspirations: Simple Strategies for Building Dynamic Leadership and Relationships

“Happy couples strive to be one another’s biggest fans. Hebrews 10:24 says, “Let us take thought of how to spur one another on to love and good works.” While it is possible to overdo appreciation, this rarely happens. As a marriage and family therapist, I have never seen—nor heard of—a partner complaining, “My spouse appreciates me too much.” So, make your praise sincere and voice your appreciation often.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“Yet, as bad as having an overdrawn bank account is, overdrawing from our spouse’s love bank is far worse. According to Stepfamily.org, one out of two marriages ends in divorce, and the average marriage only lasts seven years.4 Prior to divorce come feelings of emptiness, hurt, anger, and despair. Divorce is rarely a sudden act. More often, it is the final destination of couples who have amassed a gaping love debt.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“Perhaps you noticed a common theme in these seven habits. Miserable couples seek to control, manipulate, and change their partner. As you work through this book, if there are things about your partner that you cannot accept, make a firm commitment to work through these issues before your wedding day.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“In college, therapists discuss the pursue-flee dynamic. This harmful pattern occurs when one partner—who longs for the conflict to end—flees, while the other—desperate to find resolution to the conflict—responds in pursuit. Although the motives of each may be pure, the results are never pretty. Instead of getting stuck in this chaotic relationship dynamic, find a way to negotiate differences and move on.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!

“When others accept our weaknesses, we are better able to move on. Surprisingly, the act of acceptance—and not blaming and shaming—is precisely what opens the door to dynamic change and growth. Acceptance is a principle modeled by Christ Himself. Romans 5:8 says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” God accepts you as you are, warts and all. Happy couples follow His lead by accepting their spouse where he or she is at and allowing change to occur over time.”
― Jed Jurchenko, 131 Necessary Conversations Before Marriage: Insightful, highly-caffeinated, Christ-honoring conversation starters for dating and engaged couples!