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“Expecting people to read your mind hardly ever gets you what you desire.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Because we fear other people's reactions and don't know how to respond, we allow them to violate our limits and boundaries.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Sometimes the waters of our spirits are churned and murky, and it is difficult to tap the reservoirs of our innate wisdom and knowledge. But the waters will settle as we do. Quietly and gently encourage yourself to go inside. Clarity will come.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be a Stepmom: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself

“Worry is a habit that shatters our peace of mind and needlessly drains our energy, a form of mental masturbation without any benefits.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be a Stepmom: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself

“If you're about to become a stepmother or are currently filling that role, you are gambling that the love you've found and the strength and wisdom that you've acquired will see you through.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be a Stepmom: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself

“In order to stop giving ourselves away and have fair and open relationships with others, we must learn how to communicate our limits and boundaries honestly and effectively.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“We all need to feel understood and connected to ourselves and to others.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“If I could identify one core problem about the world, it's that we've been taught to distrust ourselves. SHAKTI GAWAIN”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“We aren't to blame for our fears, but it is up to us to decide how we'll handle them. We are responsible for choosing ways that lead us toward making the most of this gift of life.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“The first and most basic step for any change or growth, no matter how small, is to know what we feel, how we think, and how we would like to alter our lives.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Pace yourself in your work and commitments. Nobody is indispensable. And when you get sick, honor your body by giving it the rest and medical attention that it's asking for.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Your fatigue is telling you it's time to lighten the inner load.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Faced with hardness, I remember to soften.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“Be with people who truly care for you and are positive, optimistic, and happy.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“We get off the guilt train by reminding ourselves that we are not responsible for other people's happiness.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Pausing gives us the opportunity to arrive at an internal place from which we can choose wisely what needs to be done or said, and then do so gently.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be a Stepmom: Finding Your Place Without Losing Yourself

“I cleanse and clear my heart when it needs it. I invite the Spirit to flow easily through my heart.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“As our inner language becomes self-loving and healthy, our feelings will surge ahead, eager to enjoy the journey.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“I hold my heart in the gentle arms of love. I allow others to help me heal.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“Often illness is an expression of feelings repressed.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“My head surrenders to my heart. My heart is a wise and compassionate guide.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“Being able to choose to act differently, even while feeling the old way, may be the most liberating growth you can accomplish.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“To most women, friendship is not a luxury; it is an essential part of their being.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“To love perfection is to hate life,”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“I am willing to forgive myself. I forgive myself.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Soul: Meditations for Courage, Confidence and Spirit

“To help instill positive energy, read only materials that feed your soul and uplift your thoughts.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“However, if criticism and humility aren't balanced with appreciation for things we do well and our willingness to learn, we can become critical, judgmental, and stress-filled.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“It's so important to break the pattern of looking outside ourselves for self-esteem.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“Teasing is veiled hostility and is almost never funny, unless the teasee has openly agreed to relate that way.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem

“What fears are propelling me to work so compulsively? and, What is being sacrificed as I pursue this goal? As you answer, remember to do so in a loving and nonjudgmental way. You are doing the best you can, and are now in the process of making some new choices.”
― Sue Patton Thoele, The Woman's Book of Confidence: Meditations for Strength and Inspiration