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“In order to love people usefully you need to be focused on them and not yourself.”
― Richard Templar

“Try to see the past as a room separate from the one you live in now. You can go in there, but you don’t live there anymore.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, of anger. You can accept that you are a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you, not in spite of them. What is done is done, and you need to just get on with your life. Don’t use the labels “good” and “bad.” Yes, I know some of it is indeed bad, but it is how we let it affect us that is the real “bad.” You could let all these things get you down, fizzle away internally like some emotional acid making you ill and resentful and stuck. But you will let them go, embrace them as character forming, and in general as positive rather then negative.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“we all need reassurance and encouragement. We're human, and that's how we work”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Love

“Everyone needs a superhero to champion them now and again, to rush to their aid when there's a fierce dragon approaching, a massive army attacking or a scary catacomb to navigate”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Love

“If it’s dead, don’t go digging it up every five minutes to check if there’s a pulse. It’s dead; walk away.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal Code For Living A Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“Somewhere out there is someone who wants exactly the kind of person you are, complete with all the flaws and failings you come with.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Love, The: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships, Expanded Edition

“ثمة مرحلة جميلة بين الحلم والحقيقة تسمى مرحلة التخطيط ص 103”
― Richard Templar, I Don't Want Any More Cheese: I Just Want out of the Trap

“you would be surprised how many people seriously limit their dreams. They're your dreams for heaven's sake. There should be no limit to them. Plans have to be realistic; dreams don't.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life Reader

“I spent every spare second available - evenings, weekends, lunch breaks - studying everything I could that would help me. But I told no one.”
― Richard Templar

“We do learn from experience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there is a whole new pickle jar of fresh ones just lying in wait for us to trip up and fall into. The secret is to accept this and not to beat yourself up when you do make new ones.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life: A personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life

“Live here, live now, live in this moment.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life Reader

“PLANS HAVE TO BE REALISTIC; DREAMS DON’T”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life: A personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life

“efficiency is doing the job right, effectiveness is doing the right job.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Work, Expanded Edition, The: A Definitive Code for Personal Success

“WISDOM ISN’T ABOUT NOT MAKING MISTAKES BUT ABOUT LEARNING TO ESCAPE AFTERWARD WITH OUR DIGNITY AND SANITY INTACT.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“هذا الكتاب ليس موجهاً إلى الجبناء الذين يسعون وراء الإغراءات ص 49”
― Richard Templar, I Don't Want Any More Cheese: I Just Want out of the Trap

“القاعدة (1) : تحرَّ السرية

سوف تشعر ببريق دافئ يعتريك عندما تغير نظرتك للحياة ، و يسعى الآخرون لسؤالك عما فعلته ، أو ماتفعله ؛ و يمكنك عندها أن تجيبهم قائلًا : إنك لم تفعل شيئًا ، و إنما فقط أصبحت تشعر بشيء من الدفء ، و إنك تشعر أنك أفضل و أكثر سعادةً و حيويةً و جمالًا و أيًّا ماتريد .
ليس هناك حاجة لأن تخوض في التفاصيل ؛ لأن هذا هو في واقع الأمر ما لايريد أن يعرفه الآخرون . لا إن العكس تمامًا هو ما يريدونه تحديدًا .
إن الأمر أشبه عندما يسأل أحدهم عن أحوالك ، و يكون كل ما يريد أن يسمعه في واقع الأمر هو كلمة "بخير" . حتى إن كنت في أقصى حالات البؤس ؛ هذا هو كل ما يريد أن يسمعه ؛ لأن أي شيء أكثر من هذا سوف يفرض عليه التزامًا ، و هذا بالطبع ما لايريده ، إن كل ما يريد أن يسمعه كلمة "بخير" . و هكذا سوف يتسنى له أن يمضي في حياته بدون مزيد من التدخل و التورط . إن لم تجب بكلمة "بخير" و فضّلت بدلًا من ذلك أن تفيض بمكنون نفسك ؛ فسوف يتراجع السائل بمنتهى السرعة .”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal Code For Living A Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“The better you understand the beliefs, actions, desires, and wants of others, the more likely you are to make the right response, alter your own thinking where necessary and generally be successful.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life Reader

“The best thing is that if you get a lot of mistakes over and done with early on in your life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on. And that's what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Life: A Personal Code For Living A Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“Rule 1
Keep it under your hat
Don't preach, propagate or try to convert.
Just get on with it, do it quietly and go about your daily life happily and smugly without having to tell anyone anything.”
― Richard Templar

“The important thing is to recognize that when they want to do something on their own, it’s not a rejection of you, it’s simply an affirmation of who they are. It’s their way of touching base and staying happy and if you don’t let them do it, you’ll lose the person you love.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Love, The

“If you give someone glowing praise for every little achievement, you've devalued the currency.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of People

“IF YOU DON’T PLAN YOUR PLAN, IT WILL REMAIN A DREAM”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life: A personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life

“So do yourself a favour. Go away and hide somewhere while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family, and wait until you’ve recovered a bit before you start looking for a new partner. And when you do, try to pick someone whose scars are relatively well-healed too – because of course this works the other way round as well. That way you can both see each other as you really are, and start your relationship the way you want to continue it.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Love, The

“The key is to appreciate what we’ve got right now and yet still dream and plan.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“The lovely thing about money is that it really doesn't discriminate. Each and every day starts with a clean slate.”
― Richard Templar, The Rules of Wealth: A Personal Code for Prosperity (The Rules Series) by Richard Templar

“This has to be a Rule because there can be no choice here. We have to accept that we are the way we are—the result of everything that has happened. It all just is.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“What we do and what we take seriously can often be so far removed from what it is actually all about that it is laughable. We get bogged down in trivia, lost in irrelevant detail to such an extent that our life can whizz past and we don’t even notice. By letting go of things that really aren’t important, we can put ourselves back on the right track. And the best way to do that is through humor—laughing at ourselves, laughing at our situation, but never laughing at others—they’re just as lost as we are and don’t need to be laughed at.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life, Expanded Edition, The: A Personal Code for Living a Better, Happier, More Successful Life

“I have a friend whose philosophy is that every single interaction you have with someone leaves them feeling at least a little bit better, or a little bit worse. It’s never neutral. When you start monitoring how you feel when you meet other people, you find he’s absolutely right. It’s almost impossible to come away from even the smallest encounter without feeling invigorated or frustrated or embarrassed or cheered or worried or guilty or positive or inadequate or reassured or ignored or amused. And you’re doing this to other people, as much as they’re doing it to you. What’s”
― Richard Templar, Rules of People, The: A Personal Code For Getting The Best From Everyone

“Wisdom isn’t about not making mistakes, but about learning to escape afterwards with our dignity and sanity intact.”
― Richard Templar, Rules of Life: A personal code for living a better, happier, more successful kind of life