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“the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“The truly revolutionary promise of our nation's founding document is the freedom to pursue happiness-with-a-capital-H. ”
― Dan Savage, Skipping Towards Gomorrah: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Pursuit of Happiness in America

“every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn't ”
― Dan Savage

“One person simply can’t be all things to another person – sexually or otherwise—and unmet needs, unfulfilled desire, and unexplored possibilities are prices we pay to be in LTRs (long –term relationships). Monogamous, polyamorous, Femdom, or whatever: All couples people walk around feeling a little unfulfilled. (Single people, too). Because no one gets everything they want.”
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“Kids are like heroin, a little heroin addiction. When it’s bad, you’ve never been so miserable, but when it’s good you’ve never been so high.”
― Dan Savage

“How can you tell somebody who is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made?”
― Dan Savage

“I waver between a cop-out agnostic and principled atheism ”
― Dan Savage

“the truth is often a mixed message”
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“Relationships are monuments build on lies ”
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“Owning a gun in America is one way for conservative white males to demonstrate their anger at crime, liberalism, feminism, and modernity.”
― Dan Savage, Skipping Towards Gomorrah: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Pursuit of Happiness in America

“...the moment you begin to believe you're worthy of the good things in your life - God gets all Old Testament on your ass and does something vicious, something insane, something totally uncalled for. He gives you lupus or He allows Satan to slaughter your children and cattle or He delivers Ohio to George W. Bush.”
― Dan Savage, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family

“Either way... you've got to tell him--in no uncertain terms--to knock it the fuck off already. Don't be measured, don't wrap it up in "I" statements, no mewling about your feelings. Give him both barrels: "If you don't knock it the fuck off... I'm going to kick your ass out, got it?" A strategic blowup or two should occur--scream, yell, smash a few things you're not all that attached to--when he slips up. Repeat until his attitude changes or his address does.”
― Dan Savage, Savage Love: Straight Answers from America's Most Popular Sex Columnist

“...even if gay marriage were legalized there would still be gay men who didn't want to marry, gay men no other gay men would want to marry, and gay men who didn't want to leave the priesthood in order to marry.”
― Dan Savage, Skipping Towards Gomorrah: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Pursuit of Happiness in America

“The kind of relationship I had with my mother didn't make me gay. I had that kind of relationship with my mother because I was gay.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“Jesus commanded his followers to clothe the naked, shelter the homeless, and care for the sick. Making health care available to all seems like a no-brainer, Jesus-wise, among the most Christian projects a president, or a nation, could possible undertake.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“Terry cooked for me, but I resented having to do dishes. As I saw it, Terry liked cooking-he enjoyed it, he told me so. Well, I didn't enjoy washing dishes- I hated it, and I'd told him so-and didn't see why I should have to do something I hated after he got to do something he liked. I mean, that wasn't fair, was it?”
― Dan Savage, The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant

“Only someone obsessed with sexual fidelity to an unhealthy degree places a higher value on preserving the ideal of monogamous marriage over preserving an actual marriage.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“Terry gets annoyed when I describe his mother as cold. She isn't cold, he insists, just a little standoffish, and not so gabby as certain members of my family. While Terry's mom doesn't believe in asking intrusive questions, like "How are you?", she's still a warm and loving mom; just quiet and undemonstrative.”
― Dan Savage, The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant

“Outing is brutal and it should be reserved for brutes”
― Dan Savage

“The proper response to religious opposition to choice or love or death can be reduced to a series of bumper stickers: Don't approve of abortion? Don't have one. Don't approve of gay marriage? Don't have one. Don't approve of physician-assisted suicide? For Christ's sake, don't have one. But don't tell me I can't have one - each and every one - because it offends your God.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“now that all writers everywhere are contractually obligated to blog and tweet all day long, who has time to work on a book?”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“For me, my discomfort with gay weddings was articulated by a close friend, who observed that gay people getting married is like retarded people getting together to give each other PhDs. It doesn't make them smarter, and it doesn't make us married.”
― Dan Savage, The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant

“Straight people don't have to come out, as heterosexuality is assumed. [...] Young straight people are less likely to question the choices that their families and societies are attempting to make for them. [...]A lot of straight people move through life following a script that others wrote for them.”
― Dan Savage, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics

“I'm a lesbian and I'd rather you bully me than a thirteen-year-old kid.”
― Dan Savage, It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living

“How did people raise kids before plastic came along? "Everything for Baby", said the sign over the aisle we were in. It should have said, "Everything for Baby Is Made from Molded Plastic in Ugly Primary Colors.”
― Dan Savage, The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant

“Resentment has a way of metastasizing into bitterness, and bitterness has a way of curdling into the kind of anger that can doom a relationship.”
― Dan Savage

“...whether you're talking about boners, infidelities, late rent, or the Democratic primary: a single plausible excuse will sound like a credible explanation while a basket full of excuses—even a basket stuffed with equally legitimate, plausible/probable excuses—will sound like a desperate/unbelievable lie.”
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“sex is about connection and intimacy, pleasure and release.”
― Dan Savage, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras

“In reality all you did was grow closer—you just were never warned that feeling safe and secure in a relationship can exact a steep erotic price. Some individuals don’t mind paying that price. So long as neither partner misses the hot sex, its absence isn’t a problem. And some relationships were never about the hot sex in the first place. But if yours was and if you miss it and if you’ve contemplated doing something that might destroy everything you have with your partner to have hot sex again, it’s a problem for you.”
― Dan Savage, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras

“dogs or cats, 90 Day Fiancé or Selling Sunset. But they can’t pause for a moment to ask themselves if this otherwise lovely person they’re dating fucks them the way they like to be fucked, and fucks them as often as they’d like to be fucked, because that would make them shallow, sex-obsessed perverts.”
― Dan Savage, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras