Lyssa Kay Adams > Quotes

“Don’t be ashamed for liking them. The backlash against the PSL is a perfect example of how toxic masculinity permeates even the most mundane things in life. If masses of women like something, our society automatically begins to mock them. Just like romance novels. If women like them, they must be a joke, right?”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“That’s why fiction resonates with people. It speaks to universal truths.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“You guys read romance novels?”
“We call them manuals.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“Men are idiots. We complain that women are so mysterious and shit, and we never know what they want. We fuck up our relationships because we convince ourselves that it’s too hard to figure them out. But the real problem is with us. We think we’re not supposed to feel things and cry and express ourselves. We expect women to do all the emotional labor in a relationship and then act confused when they give up on us.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“human beings are a work in progress, and we don’t all change at the same pace”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“Romance novels are primarily written by women for women, and they’re entirely about how they want to be treated and what they want out of life and in a relationship. We read them to be more comfortable expressing ourselves and to look at things from their perspective.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“If a man wants to leave you, wave goodbye and lock the doors. You've got better things to do than chase a lost cause.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“There’s no force on Earth as strong as a woman who is good and fed up.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“The man tugged on his suspenders. “Whatcha knockin’
down?”
“Patriarchal power structures.”
He blinked.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“Fear is a powerful motivator, but so is love.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“We shouldn’t assume that women and girls don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy. We don’t fear that men who read murder mysteries and thrillers are going to have a hard time not becoming serial killers, so why should we assume that a girl won’t know that she doesn’t have to change from a mermaid to human in order to find love just because of a movie?”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“First rule of book club? You don’t talk about book club.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“All spouses become strangers to each other at some point in a marriage,” Del said. “All human beings are a work in progress, and we don’t all change at the same pace. Who knows how many people have gotten divorced simply because they failed to recognize that what they thought were insurmountable problems were actually just temporary phases?”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“History was built by thousands of women who thought they were just housewives or just secretaries or just seamstresses until the day they got fed up and decided to fight back.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“Who are we?” Mack said, standing all. “We’re the Bromance-Fucking-Book-Club.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“Book club isn't just about books.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“We are all the sum total of our experiences at any given time, and our reactions to things are shaped by them. Just like in romance novels. Whatever a character went through before the start of the book will eventually determine how they react to things that happen in the book.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“You don’t know my wife. It’s like a toy store for her. Our pen drawer at home is organized by color, and she has an entire basket full of washi tape.” “What’s washi tape?” “It’s, like, pretty tape for decorating. I don’t know. She loves that shit, though.” Del nodded. “Nessa has two full drawers of it. Sometimes I catch her staring at them with this weird smile on her face.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“Our society has allowed men to get away with a lack of emotional intelligence by equating the expression of a full range of human emotion with femininity.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Isn't It Bromantic?

“Modern romance novelists use the patriarchal society of old British aristocracy to explore the gender-based limitations placed on women today in both the professional and personal spheres. That shit is feminist as fuck.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“Forgiveness means recognizing that you are a different person because of the pain but realizing that so are they because of the pain they caused. I think it’s deciding that the new people you are are better people and that together you’re worth something.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Crazy Stupid Bromance

“You use weakness as a weapon. You're so ashamed of your own mistakes in life, so afraid of your own fragility, that you accuse everyone else around you of being soft just for the crime of basic human frailty.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“See, that’s the problem these days. No one has a sense of humor anymore. Offended at every damn thing.” Mack shook his head. “Dude, some shit was always offensive.” “No one minded in my day.” “Women did. You just decided their opinions didn’t count.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“You shouldn't have to care about a women to recognize that the sexuel degradation of all women is a problem. You should recognize that it's wrong simply because they're humans.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“Women aren’t rehab centers for emotionally stunted man-babies who think the key to a serious relationship is to just wait for the right woman to come along. You have to be ready to be uncomfortable, to stretch yourself, to be vulnerable.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Crazy Stupid Bromance

“Because perfection is the opposite of authenticity, Mack.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance

“He's asking if you cheated on her, slapnuts."
Gavin swiveled his head to glare at Del. "Is that what you think? You actually think I would cheat on her?"
[...]
"No," Del said. "But we have to ask. It's a rule. We don't help cheaters.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, The Bromance Book Club

“What would you say is your pet peeve about poorly crafted romance novels? That would be when two adult characters avoid having a grown-up conversation that could change the course of the story.”

“You know what I love most about the books? I love how they can make us cheer for pretty much any character if we understand why they’re doing something. We’ll let them get away with pretty much anything–including pushing away the woman they desperately want–if they have a strong motivation. The why behind their actions.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Crazy Stupid Bromance

“There is no more universal story than of two people working through their shit to overcome huge obstacles and find their way to happiness,” Malcolm said. “But every journey is different, every obstacle unique. And it’s in that unique journey that we find lessons for our own lives.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Crazy Stupid Bromance

“Not everyone is willing or able to take on the world in a great big fight. It doesn't make them weak or wrong.”
― Lyssa Kay Adams, Undercover Bromance