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“Empaths are extremely humble; they shy away from compliments and would rather praise someone else than receive it. They express themselves with great passion and talk very candidly, which can sometimes cause offense. They are not the type of people who hide their feelings; they will open up to anyone who cares to listen.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“If you think the world is depressive and pointless because you choose to focus on all of the negative that is surrounding you, that’s how you perceive the world. You could change it if you would focus on changing yourself. Two people can live in the same environment but perceive it completely differently simply because of their perception.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“The majority of empaths awakening to their gifts ignore their gut instincts. Don’t do this; your intuition is always correct.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Empaths have very attractive spirits, and so people are naturally drawn to them without understanding why. They will find that complete strangers feel comfortable talking to them about the most intimate subjects and experiences. Another reason why empaths are so magnetic is that they are very good listeners; they are bubbly, outgoing, enthusiastic and people love to be in their presence. They are the life and soul of any party, and people like to have them around because they feed off their energy. Due to the extreme nature of their personality, the opposite is also true; their moods can switch in an instant and people will scatter like cockroaches to get away from them. If an empath doesn’t understand their gift, the burden of carrying so many emotions can be overwhelming. They don’t understand that they are feeling someone else’s emotions; it is confusing to them. One moment they are fine and the next they are feeling a tsunami of depression, which causes them to act out.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Empaths thrive off mental engagement; they have no desire for the mundane and find it difficult to hold their focus on things that don’t stimulate them. When they find themselves getting bored, they will often resort to daydreaming and settle into a detached state of mind. Although their physical body is in the same location, their mind is in another dimension.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“The mind, soul and body are connected; whatever we think and feel has an effect on our physical body. An empath must have regular periods of isolation throughout the day in order to process feelings and emotions. This prevents emotional exhaustion, which then enables them to constantly let go of crushing negative energy. If an empath does not do this, they find it difficult to sleep at night because their minds are unable to process and make sense of the information that took place during the day. This hyperactive mindset causes empaths to become extremely tired. If it is not possible for the empath to find solitude during the day, it is essential that they meditate before they go to bed so that they can release any emotions they have come into contact with throughout the day.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath and The Highly Sensitive: 2 in 1 Bundle

“Emotional awareness: The ability to hone in on how you feel, understand why you are feeling a particular way, and give each feeling a label. Emotionally intelligent people are not afraid of any emotion. They know that feelings are a natural, normal part of the human experience. Handling emotions: The ability to process your feelings and those of others in a constructive manner. For instance, someone with a high EQ is able to calm themselves down in a high-pressure situation. They are also able to soothe others when they are hurt and cheer them up when necessary. Harnessing emotions: The ability to channel your emotions in a useful way, for example in solving problems or expressing yourself creatively. For example, an artist who draws on their personal experiences in creating sculptures is demonstrating their emotional intelligence. Another way of looking at EQ is to think of it as a collection of skills: self-awareness, social awareness, relationship management, and self-management. The stronger your skills in these areas, the higher your EQ.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath and The Highly Sensitive: 2 in 1 Bundle

“An empath must have regular periods of isolation throughout the day in order to process feelings and emotions. This prevents emotional exhaustion, which then enables them to constantly let go of crushing negative energy. If an empath does not do this, they find it difficult to sleep at night because their minds are unable to process and make sense of the information that took place during the day.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Another form of co-dependency is when a person’s satisfaction in life is derived from their ability to please and help other people.”
― Judy Dyer, The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries, Controlling Your Emotions, and Making Life Easier

“Just being present when there is a disagreement or an argument can cause them severe distress. Therefore, empaths stay away from any type of conflict even when their beliefs are challenged. This is one of the reasons empaths are targeted by manipulators—they would rather agree with you than get into an argument. This is why assertiveness should be a part of your character”
― Judy Dyer, The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries, Controlling Your Emotions, and Making Life Easier

“Don’t waste time beating around the bush with people, get straight to the point. When a person is being too negative, shut them down; when a person keeps operating in the same behaviors and then asking for your advice, shut them down. If someone asks you to do something for them and you can’t do it, just say so. You don’t need to be rude, just be firm and let people know what your boundaries are so that they don’t cross them.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“They are non-conformists and choose to live outside of the constraints of society’s norm of a job—a family and 2.4 children. They enjoy traveling, adventure and freedom. Empaths are free spirits; they don’t like to remain stagnant. They don’t like rules, routine or control. An empath likes to have the freedom to do what they want to do when they want to do it. If they are unable to do so, they feel restricted and imprisoned.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Negative feelings can lead to the empath experiencing fear, resentment, anxiety, paranoia and panic, and they become genuinely convinced that something bad is going to happen to them. These thoughts send signals to the adrenal glands, which produce hormones that release excess amounts of energy. Not enough sleep, too much work, bad diet, bad relationships, and family problems all have a negative effect on the adrenal glands. The adrenal glands are shaped like the kidneys but are approximately the size of a walnut. They are located just above the kidneys in the lower back area. The adrenal glands are of great benefit when we are under stress because they assist in keeping us focused and alert and they increase our levels of stamina, which enables us to handle pressure.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath and The Highly Sensitive: 2 in 1 Bundle

“Clairsentience You strongly sense the emotions and feelings of people, spirits, animals and places. You feel these emotions both in your heart and in your body; you also feel the presence of spirits. If you have clairsentient abilities: You are very sensitive to your surroundings; you easily sense the vibe of a person or place. You have unexplainable physical or emotional reactions when you go to places where there are large crowds. Your emotions change suddenly when you are around people or when you arrive at a person’s home. You know what people are feeling without them telling you; you can empathize with people easily. You can feel the presence of spirits. When people are in pain, you can feel it in your own body. You use the words “I feel” when you are having conversations with others. You can taste and smell things from the spirit world.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“The key difference, of course, is that non-HSPs with anxiety disorders can approach their anxiety as a mental illness that can be eliminated entirely with the right treatment. On the other hand, an HSP will never fully eliminate their sensitivity and susceptibility to anxiety and panic. If you are a particularly anxious HSP, aim to get your tendency to worry under control rather than to overcome it completely. You can help yourself cope with high levels of intense stimuli, but you will always have a lower stress threshold than a non-HSP.”
― Judy Dyer, The Highly Sensitive: How to Find Inner Peace, Develop Your Gifts, and Thrive

“They are always tired; because they are so exposed to other people's energy, they constantly feel drained and tired. This tiredness is so extreme that even sleep can’t relieve it. Empaths are often diagnosed with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME). They suffer from back problems and digestive disorders. The center of the abdomen is where the solar plexus chakra is located (see chapter 10). Empaths feel the emotions of others in this area, which weakens it and can lead to irritable bowel syndrome, stomach ulcers, and lower back problems. The empath who doesn’t understand their gift will typically suffer from such physical problems. They catch illnesses quickly; an empath develops the physical symptoms of those around them. They often catch the flu, eye infections, and aches and pains in the body and joints. When they are close to someone who is unwell, they often experience sympathy pains.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Frankincense oil is great for treating anxiety and depression due to its tranquil energy and calming effects. It also helps you focus, quiet the mind and deepen meditation. A Keimyung University study in Korea found that a combination of lavender, frankincense and bergamot reduced pain and depression in hospice patients suffering from terminal cancer.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“An HSP who allows themself to be carried away on a tide of their own emotions or gets bogged down in other people’s feelings will soon become miserable.”
― Judy Dyer, The Highly Sensitive: How to Find Inner Peace, Develop Your Gifts, and Thrive

“A Tidy and Organized Home… Makes you feel calm. You can relax and unwind in a tidy home. There is space to do things, and you know where everything is. When you walk into a hotel room, you immediately feel a sense of peace because the environment is tidy and organized. Makes you feel healthy. Dust and mold accumulate in messes. Are you always coughing and sneezing? Do you suffer from allergies? It’s probably because you are breathing in all the dirt in your home. Give your home a spring clean and your health issues will improve. Makes you feel in control. How does it feel when you know where everything is? Clutter prevents positive energy from flowing through your home. Remember, energy attaches itself to objects, and negative energy is attracted to mess, which creates exhaustion, stagnation, and exasperation. What does it feel like when negative energy is stuck in your body? You want to lie in bed and shut the world away because everything becomes more difficult and you can’t explain why. Here is how decluttering your house will unlock blocked streams of positive energy: You will become more vibrant. Once you create harmony and order in your home, you will feel more radiant and present. Like acupuncture, which removes imbalances and blockages from the body to create more wellness and dynamism, clearing clutter removes imbalances and blockages from your personal space. When you venture through spaces that have been set ablaze with fresh energy, you are captured by inspiration, and the most attractive parts of your personality come to life. You will get rid of bad habits and introduce good ones. All bad habits have triggers. Do you lie on your bed to watch TV instead of sitting on the couch because you can’t be bothered to fold the laundry that has piled up over the past six months? Or because the bed represents sleep, and when you come home from work and get into bed, you are going to fall asleep instead of doing those important tasks on your to-do list. Once you tidy the couch, coming home from work will allow you to sit on it to watch your favorite TV program but get up once it’s finished and do what you need to do. You will improve your problem-solving skills. When your home has been opened up with a clear space, it’s easier to focus, which provides you with a fresh perspective on your problems. You will sleep better. Are you always tired no matter how much sleep you get? That’s because negative energy is stuck under your bed amongst all that junk you’ve stuffed under there. Once you tidy up your bedroom, you will find that positive energy can flow freely around your room making it easier for you to have a deep and restful sleep. You will have more time. Mess delays you. An untidy house means you are always losing things. You can’t find a shoe, a sock, or your keys, so you waste time searching for them, which makes you late for work or social gatherings. When you declutter your home, you could save about an hour a day because you will no longer need to dig through a stack of items to find things. Your intuition will be stronger. A clear space creates a sense of certainty and clarity. You know where everything is, so you have peace of mind. When you have peace of mind, you can focus on being in the present moment. When you need to make important decisions, you will find it easier to do so. It might take some time to give your home a deep clean, but you won’t be sorry for it once it’s done. Chapter 5: How To Become an Assertive Empath The word assertive means “having or showing a confident and forceful personality.”
― Judy Dyer, The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries, Controlling Your Emotions, and Making Life Easier

“H’oponopono is based on the belief that we create our own environment; there are no external forces responsible for what is taking place within our surroundings. If your boss is evil, you are responsible. If your children are not doing well in school, you are responsible. World wars and poverty are your responsibility. The bottom line is that the world belongs to you and it is your responsibility to take care of it. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean that the problems are your fault, it simply means that you need to heal yourself in order to heal the situation that you find distressing. Some may agree with this theology, and to others it may appear completely nonsensical; but if you really choose to analyze it, you will find that your perception of the world is your reality. If you think the world is depressive and pointless because you choose to focus on all of the negative that is surrounding you, that’s how you perceive the world. You could change it if you would focus on changing yourself. Two people can live in the same environment but perceive it completely differently simply because of their perception.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath and The Highly Sensitive: 2 in 1 Bundle

“Empaths are extremely humble; they shy away from compliments and would rather praise someone else than receive it. They express themselves with great passion and talk very candidly, which can sometimes cause offense. They are not the type of people who hide their feelings; they will open up to anyone who cares to listen”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Frankincense and Myrrh Lotion This homemade body lotion made from a mixture of frankincense and myrrh is a fantastic recipe. Not only does it alleviate anxiety symptoms but it also hydrates the skin with essential nutrients and vitamins. Ingredients ¼ cup of olive oil ¼ cup of coconut oil ¼ cup of beeswax ¼ cup of shea butter 2 tablespoons of vitamin E 20 drops of frankincense essential oil 20 drops of myrrh essential oil Plastic lotion dispenser bottles Directions Combine shea butter, beeswax, coconut oil and olive oil in a bowl. Add some water to a large saucepan and heat over a medium temperature until the water starts to boil. Place the bowl into the saucepan and heat the ingredients at the same time as stirring the mixture. Remove the bowl from the stove and place it in the fridge for an hour until it becomes solid. Remove the mixture from the fridge and use an electric hand mixer to whisk the ingredients until fluffy. Combine the vitamin E and the essential oils and continue to mix. Add to the plastic lotion dispenser bottles and store in a cool place. Lavender Soap Homemade Bar This homemade bar of lavender soap not only provides relief from anxiety but is also extremely beneficial for the skin. It’s simple to make, free from chemicals and easy on the pocket. Ingredients 20-30 drops of lavender essential oil Soap base 3 drops of vitamin E Decorative soap mold or oval bar molds Directions Add water to a large pan and heat it over a medium temperature until it starts to boil. Add the soap base to a glass bowl and then place the bowl in the saucepan until the base has melted. Take the bowl out of the saucepan and allow it to cool down. Add the vitamin E and the lavender and stir together thoroughly. Transfer the mixture into a soap mold and allow it to cool down and become completely solid before removing it from the soap mold. Store the soap at room temperature.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Character Traits of a Narcissist Little to no compassion or empathy for the feelings, opinions, and thoughts of others Demeans and belittles others to enforce their superiority Self-absorbed in their own problems and thoughts Has no respect or regard for authority Finds it difficult to deal with criticism Exploits people to gain exceptionalism and power or to make themselves feel that they are better than others Prone to outbursts of rage Lies and distorts the truth to support their own interests, perceptions, and goals Incapable of admitting when they are wrong Extreme jealousy As well as being emotionally abusive, the narcissist is also capable of physically abusing their partner”
― Judy Dyer, Narcissist: A Complete Guide for Dealing with Narcissism and Creating the Life You Want

“Empaths are extremely humble; they shy away from compliments and would rather give praise to someone else than receive it. They express themselves with great passion and talk very candidly, which can sometimes cause offense. They are not the type of people who hide their feelings; they will open up to anyone who cares to listen.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“Unfortunately, their negative emotions can become all-consuming if not properly managed. Being so empathetic, they are also prone to picking up on other people’s bad moods.”
― Judy Dyer, The Highly Sensitive: How to Find Inner Peace, Develop Your Gifts, and Thrive

“However strong your feelings are, they do not define you. You are more than your rage or annoyance. Emotions aren’t static. They come and go throughout the day. You don’t have to latch onto your feelings or analyze them; they simply “are.”  This is perhaps the most important lesson of all. Anger and other uncomfortable feelings are part of life, but they always pass.”
― Judy Dyer, Anger Management: How to Take Control of Your Emotions and Find Joy in Life

“Never assume that your narcissistic ex will reform. Get into the habit of documenting everything, even when things seem to be running smoothly. You never know when they will turn against you and start fabricating events and conversations that never happened.”
― Judy Dyer, Narcissism: How to Stop Narcissistic Abuse, Heal Your Relationships, and Transform Your Life

“Now that you have come to this conclusion, you are free to lie in bed at night and think about something that edifies you instead.”
― Judy Dyer, The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries, Controlling Your Emotions, and Making Life Easier

“When the adrenals have been overworked, it can cause interrupted sleep patterns often from vivid dreams, all of which can cause heightened anxiety. Stress and anxiety contribute to sleepless nights due to excess adrenaline; this typically takes place between 2:00 and 4:00 a.m. The surge of hormones makes it difficult for us to remain calm and wakes the body up in an agitated state. Here is a natural remedy that will assist in eliminating this problem: Honey and Salt Combine five teaspoons of raw organic honey with 1 teaspoon of Himalayan rock salt. Twenty minutes before going to bed, place a small amount under the tongue and let it dissolve. The combination of salt and honey naturally de-stresses the body through hormone regulation. This results in a harmonious, peaceful and restful state, which prepares the body for a deep sleep. Honey and salt also sustains the body, preventing you from waking up feeling hungry during the night.”
― Judy Dyer, Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self

“you are constantly relying on the happiness of others to feel satisfied.”
― Judy Dyer, The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries, Controlling Your Emotions, and Making Life Easier