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“Attraction is not an intellectual decision which is why marriage counseling doesn't work.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“If you treat a woman like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“A loyal woman is faithful because she sees you as the best she can do. Work on getting that. A sexually available woman is one who feels aroused by your behaviors. Work on getting that.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Amateur mistake, letting crying work. I could see it visibly. All of the attraction and all of the respect she had for me just draining out of her face as soon as she saw me back. It was too late. There was no fixing this.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“in a world of manipulation, you need to shed your morality and look at it from the perspective of rational egoism. Who is manipulating you, what are they trying to get, and what’s in it for you?”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“the question you should be asking yourself is, What advantages do I get from legal marriage that I don’t already get from a long-term relationship or common-law marriage?”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Adopting the ideas of master morality and rational egoism, and accepting that you and you alone can define right and wrong for yourself is how you become responsible for your own actions.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“They don’t understand. Gratitude isn’t about them. It’s about the person giving it. Girls don’t say you look good because you actually look good. They process their feelings by communication. What they are actually saying is that they feel good being around you. What they are actually doing is checking your frame. When a guy dismisses or otherwise argues the compliment he is telling her that those emotions aren’t valid. He’s failed the test.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Being assertive means building strong boundaries by hardening against your vulnerability to be manipulated by emotions such as shame.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Women talk as a way of processing their emotional states. Since women evolved to build consensus and cooperate, their perception of reality is closer to consensus than it is to objective reality.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“One of the reasons women are evolved to communicate their feelings is because the responses they get van verify whether their attraction was real or a false alarm. Invalidating those feelings vetoes her interest.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“The cost of an outfit is irrelevant. It’s the fit that’s important. A $1,000 suit won’t look nearly as good as a $200 suit with $100 in tailoring.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Two people cannot sustain a relationship where they each consider themselves higher status than the other.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“The wife isn’t asking you to explain yourself even if she thinks that’s what she’s doing. She’s actually shit testing your decisions to see if you’re confident about them. This subtle power play is instinctive, so there’s no reason to call her out for doing it. The only good solution is to opt out of this power struggle altogether: “The door is that way if you don’t like it. Don’t hit your ass on the door on your way out!”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Tell the truth when it benefits you. ♦ Don't Gossip, use it to spread discontent against an enemy. ♦ Respect others who have something to offer you. ♦ Seek justice, especially when it will get you that promotion over the guy who was caught breaking the rules. ♦ Serve others, but only when they are giving something back. ♦ Be charitable, because people need to see your good side.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“women are never sexually attracted to men who are too invested in receiving their approval.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“it’s easy to change from a miserable life to a good one. It’s nearly impossible to transition from a good life to a great life.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 2: Dread

“As you get more muscle, your body produces more testosterone. As you increase testosterone, it tends to mute your neurotic response.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Everyone manipulates everyone and pretends they don’t. You can either play to win, or accept defeat.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Tools are amoral, you bring your own morality.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Confidence is a learned trait, and the earlier you learn it, the sooner your confidence develops. Naturals aren’t natural; they were just early.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“No one has any stake in your success or happiness, either; but the Truth is the Truth: you ditch the altruism or you get eaten by it, fast or slow.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“The first thing to learn is that a nice guy isn’t actually nice. He’s actually a validation seeking, risk averse, conflict avoidant, codependent narcissist who cloaks himself in niceties.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“The only way a relationship can work is for the husband to take on the role of benevolent dictator. The dominant personality with strongly-enforced boundaries and such high value that the woman he’s with works hard to meet his expectations and standards is the one who keeps the girl, and keeps her happy.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Clothing is communication. What you wear, how you accessorize, and how it works together says more about you than your words do, and says it first.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Accepting our fallible nature and making deliberate decisions that harness and guide that nature helps us (and our associates) in a sustainable model is a critical step towards developing a strong frame.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Women speak almost completely in closed communication. From an evolutionary standpoint it makes sense. They were never required an objective explanation of the world because they didn’t go on on hunts or participate in other dangerous activities where coordination was critically important. They were in tight knit social groups instead. So where men required language to coordinate hunts and fights, women required language to ensure safety in the herd.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“While it feels good to be needed, you have to understand that your protective instinct is a gift. No one deserves it unless they provide adequate value to your life.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“The people who choose to not accept your boundaries and requirements will leave your life, and you won’t feel anxious for the loss because you’ve developed some abundance in your life. If your surrogate “mom” abandons you, you can replace her with someone better.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man

“Men will put up with all manner of crap if you just cater to their most basic needs.”
― Rian Stone, Praxeology, Volume 1: Frame: On self actualization for the modern man