Susan Clarke > Quotes

“A boundary is not a plea, demand, or rule that your partner must follow... or else. A boundary is a decision that you make about how you’re going to lead your own life.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples: Igniting Passion, Intimacy and Connection in your Relationship

“Ask your partner for acceptance, not obedience.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples: Igniting Passion, Intimacy and Connection in your Relationship

“Do you want real intimacy? Real fulfillment? Or do you want an emotionally charged relationship that swings up and down, over and over?”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples: Igniting Passion, Intimacy and Connection in your Relationship

“When you become aware of and own your thoughts, feelings and emotions, you clarify the fidelity of your message because there is congruence between the external words being spoken and the internal emotional landscape.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage

“A culture that is friendly to emotions create space for you or someone else to share what is going on internally in the moment. It takes only about 90 seconds for someone to recognize their feelings. It takes longer for someone who is trying to avoid explain or make their reaction go away.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage

“When you pause, when you become congruent, when you connect to your ME, your leadership improves.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage

“The alternative to achievement is mastery. Mastery is not fixed to a particular external outcome, but rather to a growing internal sense of competence and satisfaction.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage

“You can’t expect him to move a 1500 pound animal if you don’t even inhabit your own 150 pound body

When you lose connection with yourself, you lose connection to others and miss out on the impact you can have on them.”
― Susan Clarke, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage