Izaia Winter > Quotes

“Love is an act, not a feeling. Love is effort and time. It’s caring and acceptance and allowing them to be. It’s a decision. It’s saying, ‘I will love this person the best way I know how because to do otherwise would hurt them.’ Love is something you do. Don’t bother with all those stupid lists. Choose to love instead.”
― Izaia Winter, Teaching Foster's Cowboy

“It took real strength to show me his true self, the one society would call powerless and deviant. He let me see the real him. He’d trusted me enough that let me see him at his most vulnerable and exposed. It was breathtaking and a little frightening.”
― Izaia Winter, Fixing Little Red

“If they can’t respect my limits, then I don’t need them in my life. How you choose to practice is no one else’s business but yours and your partner’s. The idea of a perfect Dom or sub is bullshit. We’re all people with flaws, insecurities, and baggage. Discipline, in most power exchange relationships, is not about the pain itself but about correcting behavior and showing you care enough to want to correct them.”
― Izaia Winter, Caring for Little Ollie

“It took someone with a strength of will to give pain to others, to hurt with love”
― Izaia Winter, Caring for Little Ollie

“Oh, just spit it out,” she snapped as she huffed in my direction. “This is worse than that time I caught you wearing my favorite lipstick, and you tried to explain how you were wearing it because you had a headache.”
― Izaia Winter, Waiting for Derek