Saskia Lightstar > Quotes

“We underestimate the power of choice, our power to suddenly wake up one day bored of our own bullshit and decide to do things differently.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Let me tell you right now that the ego is the most cunning and devious creature you will ever have to deal with. There is no man, woman, child, animal, rock, mineral, tree or sea monster you will ever meet that is as dark, pessimistic or challenging.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“You don’t need to fit into any square, round or triangular holes anymore. You don’t need to fit into a pretty package or be the same as everybody else. You just need to accept and love yourself exactly as you are.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Self-love is about slipping up, having the bad days and loving ourselves despite of them, forgiving ourselves and, most importantly, having compassion for ourselves and how we’re feeling. So, give yourself permission to fall down, but don’t give yourself permission to stay there.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Those of us who have been through cancer know that surviving treatment isn’t where the cancer journey ends. In fact, for many of us, this is where the hardest part of the journey begins.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“We are the crazy, cool cancer misfits trying to find our way after the terrible trauma of treatment. We are everywhere. We are a tribe without even knowing it.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“We’re stuck with ourselves all the time, with the thoughts that race around our brains at 10,000 mph, with our feelings, with our daily dramas and our ongoing struggles. But by thinking about someone else, authentically listening to and connecting with another person, you focus less on all your own strife and struggles. You get a break from you.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Where is the support and guidance for what comes after the treatment? Shouldn’t someone prepare us for what comes next?”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Those of us who have been through cancer know that surviving treatment isn’t where the journey ends. In fact, for many of us, this is when the hardest part of the cancer journey begins.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Shimmy over to the passenger seat, put on your seat belt, wind down the window, feel the breeze on your face and just enjoy the ride. Let your Higher Power do the driving. Your Higher Power wants you to live your greatest life and it knows the way you should be going in order to get there.”
― Saskia Lightstar

“It suddenly felt as though I’d spent my life as a pebble skimming the surface of my existence.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Stop trying to find the person you used to be because, quite simply, you aren’t that person anymore.
In order to truly move on after treatment, you must learn to embrace who you are now and stop trying to go back to a normal that is no longer there.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Cancer was my metamorphosis.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Go back to normal.’ There should be a rule that no one is allowed to say those four words to anyone who has gone through cancer treatment. How can we go back anywhere after going through cancer? Trying to ‘go back to normal’ is a waste of time; it’s impossible because there is no normal to go back to.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“My life before cancer was great, but if I compare that life to the one I have now, post-treatment, I wouldn’t go back there for all the money in the world. No, really: if you told me you could rewind my life so that I never had to go through cancer treatment, I would say thank you – but no thank you.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Prayer is simply a vertical conversation with the powers that be, rather than a horizontal conversation with other people.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“I hated the person I had become through my cancer experience – she was unfamiliar, and that felt strange and incredibly uncomfortable. And to feel that way is perfectly normal.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“When I meditate, it feels as though I’m a teaspoon of sugar dissolving into a warm cup of tea, only the tea is the universe and I am dissolving into everything.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“For some of us, the hardest part of the cancer journey is surviving life AFTER treatment, the doctor tells us we should return to our lives and put the experience of cancer behind us but going through treatment fundamentally changes you forever and it’s impossible to go back to the life we knew before.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Change isn’t bad. Transformation isn’t bad. Growing, evolving, learning and renewing: these are the things that take our lives to a new level, the things that open our eyes to a whole new way of being, to experiencing a peace and happiness we never knew existed.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Surviving cancer treatment is like coming home from war.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Please don’t try to ‘go back to normal’ after the trauma of cancer treatment, because you will not find it. The normal you remember before the treatment has gone, and the sooner you make peace with that, the sooner you can truly move on.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“You can love yourself better than anyone else can love you.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Through the negative experience of cancer treatment you have the opportunity to rediscover yourself, to peel back the layers and connect with the very purest part of you that’s probably been buried for most of your life.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“This book will help you to accept and understand that during the cancer journey, when you were focused on staying alive, a beautiful transformation was taking place deep within you. It will introduce you to the person you have become and show you the way to find a new life; a life that is full of confidence, happiness and peace.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Right now you probably believe that if you let go of who you were before the cancer, then you might disappear altogether. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Letting go of the old version of you is the only way to allow yourself to discover who you’ve become.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“The cancer treatment is over, and a lot of what and who you were before the cancer has gone with it.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Cancer treatment was the cocoon where I underwent an incredible transformation.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“Do you wanna know a secret? Fear is not real.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment

“The Cancer Misfit is for survivors who feel confused, misunderstood, isolated, overwhelmed, fearful or anxious after treatment. It is a life raft for survivors who have finished cancer treatment – whether that was last week, last month, last year or ten years ago – and are struggling with what comes next. It is a guidebook to living your best life, even after going through cancer treatment, and even if you still have cancer.”
― Saskia Lightstar, The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment