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“It is not our experiences that cause us pain; it is our mental interpretation of the experiences – the meaning we put on them.”
― Nanice Ellis, Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Budha Got Mad!: Discover the Essential Secrets of Living in Your Power - even in “Everyday Chaos”

“If you were to hear my mother talk about the woman who “did her wrong” 40 years ago, you would think it happened just yesterday. Why do we hang on to such grievances so long? Is it because we felt wronged, or because we still feel wronged? Perhaps we feel we lost something because of what happened and still feel weakened or impoverished financially, emotionally, or physically. Maybe we lost a good job or money or even a spouse as a result of someone’s thoughtlessness, interference, or abuse. It was unfair. It was! We were hurt. We feel a loss of power and react by hanging on to our grievance because we feel that we retain some control or”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“personal power, we are led to the natural conclusion that others are likewise amazing souls with equal inherent and intrinsic worth and power – even if, in the moment, they are acting otherwise. When we accept any environment into which we are led and pay attention to every soul within that environment; and when we treat them with respect and appreciation for who they really are; we create a larger space for possibilities of powerful positive connection even – especially – with the opposition. We help them recognize or at least feel their true power and make different choices even in the most unlikely of circumstances. When others sense our acknowledgment and appreciation of who they really are and our comfortable connection with them, the results are amazing. Even in conflict or other apparently “adverse” circumstances, when we pay more attention to the people than to the”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“good. But then something shifted inside me. I remembered who they really were; intrinsically powerful beings playing the part of thugs because they had forgotten their own true power. The gang surrounded me matching my pace. I focused on the leader who had moved in and was walking beside me. Looking him straight in the eye; I smiled and said, “What a beautiful night – don’t you think?” Dead silence. No response from anyone. The gang waited for a cue from him. No one made a sound for what seemed liked much longer than the few seconds it really was. I continued to walk, smiling up at him. Finally, the leader said “What’s a good-lookin’ girl like you doin’ walking these streets alone? Don’t you know how dangerous that is?” Then he insisted that he and his gang walk me all the way to Penn Station so that they could protect me. By remembering my own intrinsic power and separating the behaviors of this gang from the intrinsically powerful beings I knew they really were; my potential attackers became my protectors – my enemies became my friends – and a potentially violent and destructive situation shifted into a positive empowering one for everyone involved. As we recognize our inherent perfection and personal power, we are led to the natural conclusion that others are likewise amazing souls with equal inherent and intrinsic worth and power – even if, in the moment, they are acting otherwise. When we accept any environment into which we are led and pay attention to every soul within that environment; and when we treat them with respect and appreciation for who they really are; we create a larger space for possibilities of powerful positive connection even – especially – with the opposition. We help them recognize or at least feel their true power and make different”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“intrinsic perfection and power we inherently possess, and use our power to move forward. Next time someone “does you wrong,” remember that your experience of personal power starts and ends in your mind. No matter what happens, it is your interpretation of it and how you process the experience which allows you to feel powerless or powerful. If this is hard for you, if you really believe they took something from you, then try this: Give it back to yourself. Did they take love away? Love yourself and let love come to you. Did they take respect away, understand who you really are and respect yourself. Did they take security away? Find security in the knowledge that you are a perfect and powerful soul and nothing can harm you in any significant way. You are already perfect – you are already powerful – there is nothing outside of you that you need to complete your perfection or enhance your power. You need only remember the truth of”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“power that we might lose if we let go. Grievances and resentments should have a “sell by” date indicating that after a certain period of time the grievance should simple be discarded because it is outdated and not good for us. Because we are unconditionally powerful beings, no one can ever really hurt us in the first place – much less years after the act – and they certainly cannot actually take away our power. After all, if our power is intrinsic and inherent, we cannot lose it. But it can be misdirected and spent on old memories or turned inward in depression or anger. Dwelling on past “wrongs,” which no longer even exist in the real world, wastes our attention and power on things that are past – gone – non-existent – toast. Powerful people simply don’t have the time or interest in dwelling on the past. Every day that we hang on to an outdated grievance, we spend our energy in our “death”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“grip” on the grievance and rob ourselves of our ability to use our personal power more constructively. For every grudge we hang on to because we choose not to forgive and release, we divert, scatter, misdirect, or mis-express our energy and power. Powerful people – that is to say, people who express their inherent power in constructive ways – are more interested in experiencing their power in the present – in every situation – including (and especially) difficult situations which seem disappointing or hurtful. They understand that the experience of power is available to all of us at any given moment simply by shifting our focus to that which supports the inherent infinite power and intrinsic perfection of who we really are – and doesn’t distract us from our path. If you really are an intrinsically powerful being, how can anyone or anything compromise or take away your power? We only hold grudges when we”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“buy into the illusion that someone has actually harmed us; and that our power is contingent on how the world treats us. You can only hold a grudge if you forget how truly perfect, powerful, and therefore invincible you really are. But if you are determined to do so, please first consider how much work it takes. It is very energy-draining. To hold a grudge, we must first suppress the knowledge that we are infinitely and intrinsically powerful. Then we must forget our intrinsic perfection. Then we must forget that no one really can hurt an eternal soul. Then we have to remember all the details of the injury or slight. Then we must keep going over and over and over and over the problem or situation just to keep it fresh…. Need I say more? How much easier is it to simply remember the situation just enough to avoid (wherever possible) a similar situation in the future; focus on who we really are and the”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“night it didn’t seem like anything could stop me from enjoying the walk. It had not yet occurred to me that the path I had chosen to walk to Penn Station would lead me through some less desirable areas. Just as I was passing by a burned out building, I noticed a large gang watching me from across the street. There was no one else around and the seriousness of the situation quickly became apparent. The gang crossed the street at an angle clearly intended to cut me off. I felt fear flow through me. My pulse quickened. Everything told me that this wasn’t going to be good. But then something shifted inside me. I remembered who they really were; intrinsically powerful beings playing the part of thugs because they had forgotten their own true power. The gang surrounded me matching my pace. I focused on the leader who had moved in and was walking beside me. Looking him”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“One beautiful summer night in 1987, I left the Actor’s Institute in New York City and headed home to Long Island. I passed by a homeless woman lying asleep in a doorway. I didn’t have much cash with me, but I felt strongly that I should leave something anyway. I put some bills in the sleeping woman’s hand and walked away. Then, I realized that I had depleted my cab fare and, in fact, only had enough money left to take the Long Island railroad. That meant a long, late night walk to Penn Station in four inch high heels. After a few blocks and a developing blister, I decided to take off my shoes and walk barefoot the rest of the way. Since it was a warm, clear”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“conflict, productive and profitable relationships are often established with the “opposition.” What will happen to you in your relationships when you recognize not only your own, but other’s intrinsic power and perfection? It only takes one person in a relationship to shift the relationship in profound ways. What would happen if that one person was you? How might you be able to shift even the worst relationship into one that supports everyone involved? You, and only you, have the power to create the kind of relationships you want and deserve.”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“focused. You no longer feel the need to do anything to be powerful. You know that nothing and no one can diminish or take away your power. Know that you have everything you need right this second to know and experience your true and unabridged power. Feel the power in and through you – right now – and enjoy your most perfect and powerful life.”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“straight in the eye; I smiled and said, “What a beautiful night – don’t you think?” Dead silence. No response from anyone. The gang waited for a cue from him. No one made a sound for what seemed liked much longer than the few seconds it really was. I continued to walk, smiling up at him. Finally, the leader said “What’s a good-lookin’ girl like you doin’ walking these streets alone? Don’t you know how dangerous that is?” Then he insisted that he and his gang walk me all the way to Penn Station so that they could protect me. By remembering my own intrinsic power and separating the behaviors of this gang from the intrinsically powerful beings I knew they really were; my potential attackers became my protectors – my enemies became my friends – and a potentially violent and destructive situation shifted into a positive empowering one for everyone involved. As we recognize our inherent perfection and”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“It had not yet occurred to me that the path I had chosen to walk to Penn Station would lead me through some less desirable areas. Just as I was passing by a burned out building, I noticed a large gang watching me from across the street. There was no one else around and the seriousness of the situation quickly became apparent. The gang crossed the street at an angle clearly intended to cut me off. I felt fear flow through me. My pulse quickened. Everything told me that this wasn’t going to be”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“your being. You have the choice to keep giving power to the areas of your life you feel powerless - even if it is the past- or you can take responsibility for all your experiences and finally know the power of who you really are. It is time to re-focus your power. Know that your power is already unconditional and unlimited - the experience of your power is the direct result of your choice. Resolve the wrongs of the past and remove their power in the present. Let go of the resentment that results from your feeling that you are still experiencing harm or loss. Know that nothing has ever nor can ever harm you. Choose new thoughts and interpretations about situations, persons or experiences, past or present. See them as challenges to overcome, experiences to enjoy, opportunities to learn – and accept them with gratitude as gifts from a Divine source… …and suddenly your power is present and”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“choices even in the most unlikely of circumstances. When others sense our acknowledgment and appreciation of who they really are and our comfortable connection with them, the results are amazing. Even in conflict or other apparently “adverse” circumstances, when we pay more attention to the people than to the conflict, productive and profitable relationships”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“When our sense of worth is dependent on external events, situations, or people, we do not consistently feel truly worthy. The very nature of life and living with its roller coaster ups and downs will always threaten the identity of those attached to outcomes. But what will happen when you accept that your worth and your power are not dependent on anyone or anything? When you separate external results”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“So how do you find peace? Simply this: release your attachment to outcomes. Stop judging yourself. Accept yourself and your circumstances just as they are now – without conditions. Know that you are born perfect and powerful and nothing you or anyone else does – no outcome, no result – can make you more or less than the perfect, powerful soul that you are and always have been.”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!

“from an internal knowing of who you really are, how will you approach life? You could risk everything because you would know that there was nothing at all to risk. You could win the lottery or lose it all. No matter what the outcome, your powerful sense of self is absolute. No matter how much life changes for or against your plans – who you know yourself to be will remain constant and intact and you will feel consistently worthy and powerful – because you are – and the long term results of your life will reflect the intrinsically and inherently perfect and powerful being that you really are.”
― Nanice Ellis, The Infinite Power of YOU!