Dr Howard C Samuels > Quotes

“The treatment for love addiction begins by taking a long, hard look at yourself and the fact that you are set in your ways after accumulating years of negative behavior. And because you have such an ingrained pattern of negative behavior, it is extremely difficult to shatter that pattern.”
― Dr Howard C Samuels, The Love Addiction Workbook: Evidence-Based Tools to Support Recovery and Help You Build Healthy Long-Term Relationships

“On the other hand, when an emotionally available person comes into their life, the love addict tends to pull away, saying things like, “They’re boring,” “There’s no spark,” or “There’s no attraction.” But the reality is that they’re experiencing a totally unfamiliar connection—it doesn’t affect them as profoundly, nor in the same way, as an emotionally unavailable person.”
― Dr Howard C Samuels, The Love Addiction Workbook: Evidence-Based Tools to Support Recovery and Help You Build Healthy Long-Term Relationships

“Unconsciously, they are drawn to individuals who are aloof, who aren’t in touch with their feelings, who are abusive, or who they chase emotionally, resulting in extremely unhealthy relationships caused by always chasing emotionally unavailable people, just as they’d become accustomed to as a child.”
― Dr Howard C Samuels, The Love Addiction Workbook: Evidence-Based Tools to Support Recovery and Help You Build Healthy Long-Term Relationships

“Love addiction usually manifests as an addiction to an unavailable person. Many love addicts grew up with parents who were emotionally unavailable to them. This can happen in any family, but it’s common in alcoholic families.”
― Dr Howard C Samuels, The Love Addiction Workbook: Evidence-Based Tools to Support Recovery and Help You Build Healthy Long-Term Relationships