Kate Figes > Quotes

“We expect a great deal of each other - that our partner should be sexually appealing as well as a stable companion; an intellectual equal who will also be a good parent; someone with whom we are completely compatible, sharing a similar outlook, attitudes, values and pursuits who will remain solvent and never be boring - the perfect complement to how we imagine ourselves, or, more usually, would like to.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth

“Our culture may be highly sexualised, promiscuous and pornographic, but men and women will go to extraordinary lengths to hide their sexual activity. They value honour and monogamy: very few men are prepared to leave their wife for a mistress, and there is some evidence to suggest that people value sexual fidelity more than ever before now that so many other aspects of life cannot be relied upon.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth

“With the uncertainties of the great geopolitical shifts of the twenty-first century such as climate change, global financial upheaval, the increasing number of people over sixty and the prospect of diminishing state guarantees over provision for our general health or our later years, understanding how to strengthen that (our) relationship could be the best investment policy of our lives.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth

“When a man is deeply involved with his children it is harder for him to leave, and is it harder for a woman to let such a man go. By sharing so much more of the intimacy inherent to nurturing and protecting our children, more and more couples are finding a deeper common ground to their relationship, forging new and stronger bonds between them based on mutual respect.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth

“WE can now have love without marriage and sex without love, but more than 90 per cent of people still prefer to have sex within a steady relationship.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth

“The reality of life with children is that there is rarely enough privacy, energy or time for the rampant lust couples feel they ought to be having, and men often feel sidelined.”
― Kate Figes, Couples: The Truth