Joe Navarro > Quotes

“The problem is that most people spend their lives looking but not truly seeing, or, as Sherlock Holmes, the meticulous English detective, declared to his partner, Dr. Watson, “You see, but you do not observe.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Because we are social animals, we not only lie for our own benefit, but we lie for the benefit of each other (Vrij, 2003, 3–11).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“We lie with our faces because that’s what we’ve been taught to do since early childhood. “Don’t make that face,” our parents growl when we honestly react to the food placed in front of us. “At least look happy when your cousins stop by,” they instruct, and you learn to force a smile. Our parents—and society—are, in essence, telling us to hide, deceive, and lie with our faces for the sake of social harmony. So it is no surprise that we tend to get pretty good at it, so good, in fact, that when we put on a happy face at a family gathering, we might look as if we love our in-laws when, in reality, we are fantasizing about how to hasten their departure.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Research tells us liars tend to gesture less, touch less, and move their arms and legs less than honest people (Vrij, 2003, 65).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“For instance, when people press their lips together in a manner that seems to make them disappear, it is a clear and common sign that they are troubled and something is wrong.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Dr. Watson, “You see, but you do not observe.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“If you currently travel abroad or plan to in the future, make sure you understand the cultural convention of the country that you are visiting. Particularly with regard to greetings. If someone gives you a weak hand-shake, don't grimace. If anyone takes your arm, don't wince. If you are in the Middle East and a person wants to hold your hand, hold it. If you are a man visiting Russia, don't be surprised when your male host kisses your cheek, rather than hand. All of these greetings are as natural as way to express genuine sentiments as an American handshake. I am honored when an Arab or Asian man offers to take my hand because I know that it is a sign of high respect and trust. Accepting these cultural differences is the first step to better understanding and embracing diversity.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Neck touching takes place when there is emotional discomfort, doubt, or insecurity.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“there is no single behavior that is indicative of deception—not one (Ekman, 1991, 162–189).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“If you are a parent, teacher, camp counselor, or school resource officer and you see children severely change or restrain their arm behavior around their parents or other adults, at a minimum it should arouse your interest and promote further observation. Cessation of arm movement is part of the limbic system’s freeze response. To the abused child, this adaptive behavior can mean survival.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“It is estimated that humans are capable of more than ten thousand different facial expressions (Ekman, 2003, 14–15).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“ticket agents can often identify passengers who will become problematic by how wide they position their arms when they are at the counter.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Eye blocking is a very powerful display of consternation, disbelief, or disagreement.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Violations of personal space cause us to become hypervigilant; our pulse races and we may become flushed (Knapp & Hall, 2002, 146–147).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Because the neocortex (the thinking brain) is capable of dishonesty, it is not a good source of reliable or accurate information (Ost, 2006, 259”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“We are what we repeatedly do. —Aristotle”
― Joe Navarro, Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People

“Just as careful listening is critical to understanding our verbal pronouncements, so careful observation is vital to comprehending our body language.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“You see, but you do not observe.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“We all have a stake in the truth. Society functions based on an assumption that people will abide by their word - that truth prevails over mendacity. For the most part, it does. If it didn't, relationships would have a short shelf life, commerce would cease, and trust between parents and children would be destroyed. All of us depend on honesty, because when truth is lacking we suffer, and society suffers. When Adolf Hitler lied to Neville Chamberlain, there was not peace in our time, and over fifty million people paid the price with their lives. When Richard Nixon lied to the nation, it destroyed the respect many had for the office of the president. When Enron executives lied to their employees, thousands of lives were ruined overnight. We count on our government and commercial institutions to be honest and truthful. We need and expect our friends and family to be truthful. Truth is essential for all relations be they personal, professional, or civic.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“I learned at an early age about deception. People often lie, but their nonverbals usually reveal how they actually feel.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Real life happens in real time, and decisions have to be made in an instant.”
― Joe Navarro, Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People

“Often when people say something they shouldn’t have, people nearby will touch or scratch their closed eyelid—this is a good indicator that something improper was uttered. You see this often with politicians when one misspeaks and another catches it.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Even the vaunted polygraph is accurate only 60 to 80 percent of the time, depending on the operator of the instrument (Ford, 1996, 230–232; Cumming, 2007).”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“One can only see what one observes, and one observes only things which are already in the mind.” Trust”
― Joe Navarro, Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People

“Inaction is itself an action;”
― Joe Navarro, Louder Than Words: Take Your Career from Average to Exceptional with the Hidden Power of Nonverbal Intelligence

“Gavin de Becker was talking about in his insightful book, The Gift of Fear.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every Body is Saying: An FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Any person who seeks to isolate you physically is a potential danger. If you enter into a relationship, a group, an organization, or a cult and you sense that this person is trying to isolate you from family, friends, co-workers, or people you feel comfortable with, you are dealing with a dangerous personality. If people care for you, they want you to flourish and be happy, to be with your friends. If they want to keep you from others (and they have all sorts of ways of achieving that, including using guilt or shaming your friends and family), just be aware that dangerous personalities use isolation for control. Everyone from Jim Jones to Ted Bundy used isolation to control their victims. Avoid it if possible. This also includes avoiding getting into vehicles”
― Joe Navarro, Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People

“When we are around someone who arouses us, our blink rate also tends to increase.”
― Joe Navarro, What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

“Sie haben es vielleicht niemals in diesem Licht betrachtet, aber alles, was Sie tun, steht unter ständiger Beobachtung.”
― Joe Navarro, Louder Than Words: Take Your Career from Average to Exceptional with the Hidden Power of Nonverbal Intelligence