Shaunti Feldhahn > Quotes

“Fatigue makes cowards of us all.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Life Ready Woman: Thriving in a Do-It-All World

“Just as you need the man in your life to love you unconditionally, even when you’re not particularly lovable, your man needs you to demonstrate your respect for him regardless of whether he’s meeting your expectations at the moment.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“It's so tempting to try to do it all, so as not to miss out. But to do all of those 'good things' means you'll do none of them well.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Life Ready Woman: Thriving in a Do-It-All World

“Even if a woman knows in her head that her husband finds her beautiful, she still needs to hear it.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

“Weekly church attendance alone lowers the divorce rate significantly—roughly 25 to 50 percent, depending on the study.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce

“A biblical woman embraces God's callings, chooses wisely, lives courageously, and expects God's greater reward.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Life Ready Woman: Thriving in a Do-It-All World

“The popular belief that the rate of divorce is the same inside and outside the church is based on a deeply entrenched misunderstanding about the results of several George Barna surveys over the past decades. A misunderstanding that, Mr. Barna told me, he would love to correct in the public’s mind.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce

“I found that one of the main reasons happy couples are so happy is because they always try to assume that their spouses have good intentions toward them.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“She Just Wants You to Listen” = She Wants You to Focus on Her Feelings, Not the Problem”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

“the person who listens well holds enormous power”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

“choosing to trust, appreciate, admire, believe in, and honor him.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“If we are willing to be molded by His hands, the Lord will shower us, our men, and our relationships with abundance.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“But life has a way of teaching us that letting feelings run the show leads to all kinds of bad stuff.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference

“Second, if you are one of those rare women who is a size 2 and convinced you're fat, be careful. You're probably delusional.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“The more we understand the men in our lives, the better we can support and love them in the way they need to be loved.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“Who's the boss - you or your feelings?”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference

“[S]ometimes the problems in our lives do not come because “we're living in a broken world,” or “the enemy is attacking us.” Sometimes our problems are a direct result of us failing to exercise self-control. We are not living in obedience.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, Finding True Rest in a Busy Life

“Well, consider that awful joke: “Why do I have to tell my wife I love her? I told her that when we got married!” Just as a wife feels dreadful if her husband never expresses his love, so a husband feels dreadful if a wife never demonstrates her respect.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“Share any item you would like to keep all to yourself. If you have any item you would not want to share, then sharing it with someone who would appreciate it is usually a true act of kindness. And not a small one either! I have a few of those types of things I want to hoard: they usually involve sugar. Apparently, I’m not alone.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any Relationship

“very few things are as powerful to a man as feeling that he has tried something, accomplished it, done it well—and someone noticed.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“People assume that emotions are what shape behavior, but this is not necessarily true. The relationship is reciprocal; behavior often shapes how we feel about things.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any Relationship

“Friends, we have to confront the reality that sometimes the problems in our lives do not come because “we're living in a broken world,” or “the enemy is attacking us.” Sometimes our problems are a direct result of us failing to exercise self-control. We are not living in obedience. Just as we, as loving parents, will not let our children compromise without consequences, neither will our loving heavenly Father. He is calling us back to a path that will bring peace.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, Finding True Rest in a Busy Life

“carrying out kindness means doing a small act of generosity for someone else; overcoming our tendency to be selfish, inattentive, busy, impatient, or focused on our own needs; and doing it without expecting appreciation or anything in return.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any Relationship

“We can't buy into the lie that we are powerless over our feelings.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference

“her brain wiring means she best processes thoughts and feelings by talking about them. And the only way she can do that with us is if we don’t get defensive and take it personally.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

“God’s design for a godly marriage is wondrous.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Veritas Conflict

“Just as our men can choose to demonstrate love toward us even if they don’t feel it at the moment, so we can and should choose to demonstrate respect.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“You can observe a lot just by watching. —YOGI BERRA”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace

“being the provider isn’t just a burden but a highly desirable goal. Men feel powerful when they provide. And they want to be depended on.”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

“...our thinking leads our feelings (not the other way around)...”
― Shaunti Feldhahn, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference