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“God made no mistakes when He created you. You were uniquely designed for success in your purpose. When you align your life with your strengths—those innate qualities you were gifted with—you will tap into a level of grace that empowers you to achieve things you could never accomplish in your strength alone.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“All of us were created for this purpose: to love and serve. Now, loving and serving looks different in each of our lives because the way we love and serve calls on our unique strengths, passions, and experiences. But in the end, fulfilling your purpose means loving and serving others as only you can. That is where your greatest happiness will be found. When you are outside of your purpose, you may find many moments of pleasure or positive emotion, but you will lack the deeper happiness that is joy and satisfaction. That joy and satisfaction is the day-in and day-out of a life well-lived—a life purposefully made up of choices that are meaningful to you. In”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“An analysis of more than 30 university research studies on happiness and health by Dutch researcher Dr. Ruut Veenhoven showed that being chronically unhappy has the same effect on longevity as smoking cigarettes daily. On average, the effects of unhappiness cut your life expectancy by six years.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“The moment you choose to settle, you guarantee you’ll never achieve your real dream. Choose faith over fear.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“IT’S ALL IN YOUR MIND If you have ever watched other”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“deeper joy comes from peace and love and knowing you are living the life you were meant to live. You”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“It is the everyday moments that are most important to savor because they are the most common. If you hold your breath to savor only the off-the-charts amazing moments that happen in life, you’ll spend most of your life waiting on those moments to arrive. If instead you open your eyes to the miracle and gift of each moment, happiness is bound to follow you all the days of your life. So”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“Every truly successful woman seeks peace in her decisions, love in her relationships, and purpose in her life.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“Decision #7: I know my purpose and take daily action in the direction of my vision. Consistency is key. If you continually take steps in the right direction, you will eventually arrive at your destination. Consistent action yields consistent results. “For a dream comes through much activity, and a fool’s voice is known by his many words,” King Solomon promised in the book of Ecclesiastes (5:3 NKJV).”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“I wonder why we too often live as though the life we are living is a trial run—some sort of dress rehearsal. Do we think that somewhere down the road we will get the chance to do it right? This is it! Today is it. You will not live this day again. Savor it.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“Thoughts, and Reactions. A trigger is any event, conversation, stressor, or adversity your face. Your thoughts are what you say to yourself about the trigger. Your reactions are your feelings or your actions as a result. The key to your happiness (how you feel about your life and what you do every day) lies not in the triggers you face, but in your thoughts about those triggers. Change what you say to yourself and you change how you feel. Happy women say different things about their circumstances than unhappy women. This is why you can have two women going through similar circumstances and have a totally different outlook on life. It”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“With the right thoughts, the right actions, and the right relationships, whatever divine dreams rest in your heart are possible.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“I do not expect from someone what they will not or cannot give me.”
― Valorie Burton, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: Step Into the Amazing Life God Imagined for You

“•​IT COMES FROM SOMEONE YOU CARE ABOUT. Guilt trips only work with people close to you. If there’s no real emotional connection, guilt trips don’t work. •​YOU”
― Valorie Burton, Let Go of the Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your Joy

“Trying to live up to what everyone else thinks and wants for you is a recipe for perpetual anxiety, self-doubt, and a generally unhappy life.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“YOU’RE ALWAYS THE ONE TO BLAME WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG. You are the one who needs to be guided, taught, and corrected. That’s because everything is your fault—even, or perhaps especially, when it’s not. Guilt trippers rarely own up to their part in problems. Any guilt they feel they project on to you or some other unfortunate soul.”
― Valorie Burton, Let Go of the Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your Joy

“I choose to live at a pace that reflects God’s wisdom more than cultural norms.”
― Valorie Burton, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: Step Into the Amazing Life God Imagined for You

“About the "don't put all your eggs in one basket'' quote and someone saying "but I like this basket!"

In a culture that often advises you to have a backup plan just in case your dreams don't work out, it is counterintuitive to put all your eggs in one basket. But in planning for the "just in case" scenario, sometimes you spread yourself too thin and don't put enough energy (eggs) into the one dream (basket) you really want.

Too many baskets can water down your efforts and keep you from engaging in any one endeavor. It is often fear that keeps you from committing yourself fully to the thing you want most. Whether it is a relationship, a job, or a business venture, anything worth having is worth giving your all.

In the event that you put all your eggs in one basket and that basket is lost, trust that you have the ability and faith to use the wisdom gained to rebuild and start again. You are resilient. And if you have to start over, you can do it.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“When you look back over your life, what are the three greatest ways God brought you through a challenge or set you up for victory?”
― Valorie Burton, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: Step Into the Amazing Life God Imagined for You

“Savoring special moments as they happen is an important happiness skill.

Sometimes we miss out on what life is really about because we are never actually living in the present.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“Dear God, give me the strength to hold fast to my dreams and the commitment to stop wavering in the face of adversity. Help me establish goals that are in keeping with my values and with Your intentions for my life. Amen.”
― Valorie Burton, What's Really Holding You Back?: Closing the Gap Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be

“When you give meaning to your circumstances that weakens you emotionally and mentally, you sabotage your own recovery and eventual happiness. The key is to align your thoughts with God’s loving thoughts of you and your circumstances.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“7.​YOU’RE ALWAYS THE ONE TO BLAME WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG. You are the one who needs to be guided, taught, and corrected. That’s because everything is your fault—even, or perhaps especially,”
― Valorie Burton, Let Go of the Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your Joy

“PERSONAL COACHING TOOLKIT: POWER QUESTIONS TO ENHANCE YOUR THINKING STYLE Answer each of these questions in a journal or with a coach or friend who can listen objectively and give you the space to explore your answers without attempting to give you the answers. 1. Spend some time in meditation. The perfect dream for you is the one God uniquely equipped you for. Paint a picture of what the next level of success looks like for you. What is your real dream (not the downsized one)? 2. What would it mean to you to be able to accomplish that dream? Picture yourself living that vision. What does it feel like? 3. What gifts, talents, passions, or experiences will you draw on to reach your goal? 4. Think back to a time when you were at your best and reached a particularly meaningful goal. How did you do it? What did you learn about yourself? 5. Consider that meaningful goal you described in the last question. What enabled you to be at your best? Who were the people, circumstances, and other key factors surrounding your success? 6. How could you go about recreating similar circumstances to empower you to reach that “next level of success” you described in the first question? 7. Think back to a time when you failed to reach a goal. What personal factor(s) led you to fail? What external factor(s) led you to fail? What lesson(s) can you glean from these contributing factors to help you succeed when reaching future goals? 8. Realistically, when you look at the picture you painted in the first question, what are the most significant obstacles you might face? If you don’t know, take a look at role models who have already been where you aim to go and pinpoint the obstacles they faced. 9. How can you reduce the risk of those obstacles occurring as you move forward? How will you navigate around those obstacles if they occur? 10. Describe your best possible future self. Who is she and how does she approach life? Think Differently Be intentional about what you say to yourself when you fail as well as when you succeed. Choose hope. Dream big. Learn new skills. Believe all things are possible.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“No need to play small—this is your life!”
― Valorie Burton, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: Step Into the Amazing Life God Imagined for You

“Living fully takes courage. Courage is a choice. The choice is yours.”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“It's not the stuff we do that we most regret. It's typically the stuff we didn't do. (Quote from Mark Twain) "Twenty years from no you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off bowlines. Sail away from safe harbor. Catch the winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." So a few months ago, I made a promise to myself to intentionally live more. To do things without overanalyzing. To make more of my dreams realities.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better

“Coach yourself with these four excuse-shattering questions: 1. What’s my excuse? 2. What does this excuse give me permission to do (or not do)? 3. If I could no longer use this excuse, what would I have to do instead? 4. Why don’t I just do that now?”
― Valorie Burton, Successful Women Think Differently: 9 Habits to Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Resilient

“Be discerning and courageous about who plays a role in your life. Not everyone has earned the right to be in your inner circle.”
― Valorie Burton, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: Step Into the Amazing Life God Imagined for You

“It is the everyday moments that are the most important to savor because they are the most common. If you hold your breath to savor only the off-the-charts amazing moments that happen in life, you'll spend most of your life waiting for these moments to arrive. If instead you open your eyes to the miracle and gift of each moment, happiness is bound to follow you all the days of your life.

So yes, savor the big moments. But even more important, savor the little ones because those come every day. In fact, they come every minute, every hour, of every day.”
― Valorie Burton, Happy Women Live Better