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“In this type of situation, one of the major problems is that codependent people can’t tell the difference between loving someone and taking care of someone. In their minds, the concept that you can love and support someone while letting them do things on their own and even suffer is inconceivable. They think that, if they don’t show their love and worth at every single opportunity, then their partner will have no reason to stay with them. This is a result of their upbringing, where they had to do extraordinary things to receive the love and acceptance they should’ve received.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“Generally, codependency is the intense need for acceptance, approval, and affection from others to such a degree that it becomes detrimental and unhealthy. Unless”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“In short, codependency is caused by not receiving the right amount of love, attention, affection, approval, empathy, stability, kindness, understanding, openness, trust, or attentiveness in childhood.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“They have trouble voicing their needs, concerns, or wants because their childhood instilled in them that their opinions were unimportant, and only the caretaker’s needs were ever given any attention.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“They start looking for more and more things they can do for their partner to prove their worth. It serves as a way for them to show their partner how much they love them and how valuable they are. While this is being done, they’re hoping that their actions will result in two things: 1) their partner staying with them, and 2) their partner showing the same amount of love and effort back.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“For many people, the reason that they carry these dysfunctional roles into adulthood, along with all the codependent tendencies that come along with it, is that they are still subconsciously waiting for their parents to give them permission to change.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“When the program began to integrate science and realized that alcoholism, like all other physical addictions, was a physical dependency on a certain chemical, they started calling these people “co-chemically dependent,” which was later shortened to just “codependent.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“The most obvious danger a codependent person faces is the potential for toxic relationships. When a codependent person enters a relationship, they automatically attach their personality, desires, and self-worth to their partner. This can lead to many problems, such as suppression of their true feelings, needs, or wants out of a fear of losing the relationship. It can also lead to them ignoring their own needs to keep their partner happy. These relationships don’t allow the codependent individual to feel at ease when they’re alone and make it very difficult for them to receive help because they always feel like they should be the ones helping.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“Another reason codependents often enter relationships with people who struggle with substance abuse is that they are familiar with the terrain. If you’ll recall, one of the first mainstream books to popularize the concept of codependency was Adult Children of Alcoholics, which examined the behaviors many children with alcoholic parents had in their adult lives. If someone grew up with a caretaker who had problems with substance abuse and never experienced a healthy upbringing, then having a partner with such issues will be their idea of a “normal” relationship.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“In the process of developing the 12 Step Program and analyzing the different things that put a person at risk for alcoholism, the developers of the program identified two factors related to the issue of codependency. First was the move towards calling alcoholism a chemical dependency, identifying the person drinking as someone who was “dependent” on alcohol. But it also found problems in the people who were around the alcohol-dependent person. They realized that a person’s alcoholism was sometimes inadvertently supported by a person close to them. When someone was taking on the responsibilities of the alcoholic, they themselves became a barrier between the alcoholic and their recovery. These people came to be known as “co-alcoholics,” with the prefix “co” meaning together or mutual.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“It is a mature thing to know when to walk away.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“The problem here is that codependent people think that making their partner’s life easier is the same as helping them. But it isn’t. There is a big difference between helping someone and taking care of someone, and the dangers of the latter will be discussed in this next section.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“Like many different types of mental issues, codependency is almost always the result of an emotionally inadequate childhood.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships

“Codependency is the product of an unhealthy environment.”
― Jean Harrison, Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships