Judith Orloff > Quotes

“How you react emotionally is a choice in any situation.”
― Judith Orloff

“I don’t care how intelligent or attractive someone is, if he zaps your energy, he isn’t for you. True chemistry is more than intellectual compatibility. Beyond surfaces, you must be intuitively at ease.”
― Judith Orloff

“I crave the sweet surrender of sleep and my dreams' uncensored communication: no tiresome small talk, sucking up to impress, or tiptoeing around charged topics. Dreams are the naked truth; get ready for it.”
― Judith Orloff

“An (emotional) vampire goes in for the kill by stirring up your emotions. Pushing your buttons throws you off center, which renders you easier to drain. Of all the emotional types, empaths are often the most devestated.”
― Judith Orloff

“Look at your life as your main career and your divine classroom.”
― Judith Orloff

“Energy doesn't lie. Keep sensing it, trusting it, letting it liberate you.”
― Judith Orloff, M.D., Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“The art of communicating is to speak with a non judging sensitivity and mean it rather than impulsively verbalizing whatever feelings arise; there's no better way to make a point.”
― Judith Orloff

“Words ride on the energy of tone, its warmth or coldness; think of tone as the music of how words are expressed. You want this music to be soulful, whether you're giving sweet talk or tough love.”
― Judith Orloff

“The most spiritually credible people I know are humble and soft-spoken. They don’t strut around like peacocks, enchanted by how wonderful they are. My heroes are the Dalai Lama, Nelson Mandela, and Rosa Parks—gentle persuaders to a more noble path, not power-hungry egomaniacs. Don’t get me wrong. I advocate a healthy ego. It’s our conscious sense of self, the “I” of the human equation. However, egotism is having an inflated identity, a strain of negativity that infects spirituality and the liberation it brings.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“The First Prescription’s formula for success: Do whatever makes your inner light brighter. In other words, try to treat yourself and everyone else with love. ”
― Judith Orloff, Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear Into Vibrance, Strength, and Love

“When encountering emotional vampires, see what you can learn. It's your choice. You can simply feel tortured, resentful, impotent. Or, as I try to do, ask yourself, "How can this interaction help me grow?”
― Judith Orloff

“I’m intrigued with the idea of surrender not as defeat or loss, as it is frequently thought of, but as a positive, intuitive way of living, a power that grows as you develop trust in the moment as well as in change and the unknown. Contrary to common stereotypes that equate surrender with weakness, I’m presenting it as a way to gain mastery of your life, not give up power.”
― Judith Orloff, The Power of Surrender: Let Go and Energize Your Relationships, Success, and Well-Being

“Sometimes violence cannot be stopped no matter what we do. But the more peaceful we are, the better chance we have of bringing out the peace in those around us.”
― Judith Orloff, Second Sight

“Always, emotional freedom involves choosing where you put your attention.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“Remember to show yourself compassion,”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“I love when the environmentalist David Orr says, “The planet does not need more ‘successful people.’ The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of all kinds. It needs people to live well in their places. It needs people with moral courage willing to join the struggle to make the world habitable and humane, and these qualities have little to do with success as our culture defines it.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“AS A CHILD I FELT MYSELF TO BE ALONE, AND I AM STILL, BECAUSE I KNOW THINGS AND MUST HINT AT THINGS THAT OTHERS APPARENTLY KNOW NOTHING OF, AND FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT WANT TO KNOW. LONELINESS DOES NOT COME FROM HAVING NO PEOPLE ABOUT ONE, BUT FROM BEING UNABLE TO COMMUNICATE THE THINGS THAT SEEM IMPORTANT TO ONESELF, OR FROM HOLDING CERTAIN VIEWS WHICH OTHERS FIND INADMISSIBLE. Dr. Carl Jung As”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“What makes an empath’s overload symptoms worse? Fatigue, illness, rushing, traffic, crowds, loud environments, toxic people, low blood sugar, arguing, overwork, chemical sensitivities, too much socializing, and feeling trapped in overstimulating situations such as parties and cruises. Any combination of these conditions intensifies an empath’s overload. Therefore, keep the following in mind: stress + low blood sugar = drama and exhaustion.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“Highly sensitive children can come from mothers and fathers with the same traits. In addition, parenting plays a role. Childhood neglect or abuse can also affect sensitivity levels for adults. A portion of empaths I’ve treated have experienced early trauma, such as emotional or physical abuse, or were raised by alcoholic, depressed, or narcissistic parents. This could potentially wear down the usual healthy defenses that a child with nurturing parents develops. As a result of their upbringing, these children typically don’t feel “seen” by their families, and they also feel invisible in the greater world that doesn’t value sensitivity.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“Friends can be the best co-conspirators in charting the unknown.”
― Judith Orloff

“The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion which stands at the cradle of true art and true science.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“Empaths are incredible listeners but often make the mistake of tolerating chronic talkers for too long. Then we become exhausted. To protect ourselves, empaths must address our tendency to people please. Everyone loves telling empaths their life stories because we’re so attentive. But with chronic talkers, we must learn to set boundaries, a basic form of self-care.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“EMPATH AFFIRMATION I vow to honor my sensitivities and treat myself lovingly as I explore what it means to be an empath and embrace my gifts. I will appreciate myself every day.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“Courage not aligned with a higher good isn’t always positive—a burglar can be plenty courageous as he robs you blind.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“The launching pad for emotional freedom is always yourself.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“I know how tempting it is to believe that something outside—a great job, meeting Mr. or Ms. Right, winning the lottery— can make you feel okay and mollify envy. For a while these may seem to work, but an outer fix alone, no matter how gratifying, can’t sustain self-esteem.”
― Judith Orloff, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

“IF YOU FEEL AS IF YOU DON’T FIT INTO THIS WORLD, IT’S BECAUSE YOU’RE HERE TO CREATE A BETTER ONE.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“We are in the midst of an evolution of human consciousness, and empaths are the path forgers. A sacred responsibility comes with our sensitivities, which demand more of us than simply retreating into isolation. It’s vital we learn how to avoid feeling overwhelmed so that we can fully shine our power in the world. Empaths and all sensitive people are pioneers on the forefront of a new way of being for humankind.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“Use gemstones. Carry a crystal to help ground you and ward off an emotional hangover. Try black tourmaline, amethyst, or black obsidian. Shamans say that if you carry or wear black, you will be more protected.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

“As an empath, you are part of a countercultural revolution to put what is humane back into humanity. I applaud you for being a path-forger, willing to venture off the beaten track. I applaud your courage to face yourself, to express your authentic needs, and not to give up on the world, with its many failings.”
― Judith Orloff, The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People