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“Why didn’t you clean the chandelier? You always leave things half done,” Kelly said, scowling. As soon as the words left her mouth, she wished she could take them back. In front of her, she saw her husband go from being pleased with his work to frowning at her. “Oh, my! That was really disrespectful of me, wasn’t it?” she realized. “I have just belittled all the hard work you’ve done this morning while you let me sleep in! I am really sorry. Sometimes I just say stupid things, and that was one of them.” He seemed to soften a little.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. —Ephesians 4:29 NIV
SADLY, FEW OF US EVER EVEN THINK ABOUT HAVING A positive purpose in speaking with someone else.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“Men are beings where honor and respect matter greatly. Men often do things out of a deep sense of duty, even with the knowledge that it could be tremendously difficult or cost them their lives.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“If we approach it like an argument, though, our children will discount what we offer up. Instead, we must gently, lovingly, and truthfully speak light into our children’s lives. We cannot give up, no matter”
― Nina Roesner, With All Due Respect: 40 Days to a More Fulfilling Relationship with Your Teens and Tweens

“Be quick to listen and slow to become angry. In this way, you can avoid an argument and stay out of God’s way at the same time!”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“We cannot change another person; we can only change ourselves—our attitudes, perspectives, actions, and motivations.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“The best thing we can ever hope or pray for our husband (or anyone else, for that matter!) is that he will fall madly in love with Christ Jesus, and make Him Lord of his life, choosing to follow Him.  As we pursue a relationship with Christ, we become filled with the Holy Spirit, and we literally become God’s love to the world, beginning with our own relationships at home.”
― Nina Roesner, 12 Truths to Change Your Marriage: A Respect Dare Resource

“The messages of the culture, psychology and even the church are swirling in our heads, filling us with confusion and ultimately fear, shame and despair. We have no idea what to do.”
― Nina Roesner, 101 Ways to RESPECT Your Husband

“If you find yourself tearing someone down or finding fault with a situation, immediately apologize and go back to finding what is right or good, then speak only about those things.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“I’m sorry I’ve tried to make you into someone you are not all these years.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband

“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. —PROVERBS 17:22”
― Nina Roesner, With All Due Respect: 40 Days to a More Fulfilling Relationship with Your Teens and Tweens

“BOTTOM LINE: Speak words of encouragement, but if you screw up, apologize quickly! First recognizing what is good in a situation will always help you relationally, while criticism guarantees you trouble. Many times we miss seeing what is done well or right because it is in our nature to focus on the negative. Today, your dare is very simple. Not easy, but simple. Regardless what happens, as an experiment to help you understand your nature, only call attention to what is right or good.”
― Nina Roesner, The Respect Dare: 40 Days to a Deeper Connection with God and Your Husband