Hal Edward Runkel > Quotes

“To be in charge as a parent means inspiring your children to motivate themselves.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool

“How we live today determines so much of how we will live tomorrow....”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool

“The battle over the messy room is a battle over space. When we choose to call it her room but then continue to act like the room belongs to us, we invade our child’s space and eliminate the possibility that she can develop her own sense of respect for her own space.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. —GEORGE BERNARD SHAW, PLAYWRIGHT”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“Whenever we label our children, even in innocent recognition of certain characteristics, we severely limit their space to become anything else.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“And I can think of no more accurate description of how most of us parents feel far too much of the time. Far too often, we feel overwhelmed. We feel overstretched, overcommitted, underprepared, and underappreciated. That’s a recipe for feeling overwhelmed. As a result, most of us feel a gnawing sense of inadequacy. We don’t just feel like bad parents, we feel like failures.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“Just as you cannot invade your children’s emotional space, you cannot give them a room (or any physical space in the home, even a small corner), call it theirs, and then continue to act as if it belongs to you. If it is indeed their room, then it is up to them to keep, explore, clean (or not clean), and organize. That means no barging in. Knock. And ask if you may come in. Wait for them to invite you in. I know it seems weird; their room is in your house, after all. But this is what it means to extend respect for another person’s space. You’d like them to give you the same respect, right? But you cannot expect that respect when you don’t initiate and model it for your child.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“We are not responsible for our children and the choices they make; we are responsible to them, however, for the choices we make.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“...when it comes to relationships, you can only hold one remote control at a time. When you grab for someone else's remote, you automatically give him or her access to your own.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool

“Asking any child, from toddler to teenager, to account for his motivation at the time of his mistake is a fruitless exercise. He simply does not know most of the time.”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less

“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking. –GEN. GEORGE S. PATTON”
― Hal Edward Runkel, The Self-Centered Marriage: The Revolutionary ScreamFree Approach to Rebuilding Your "We" by Reclaiming Your"I"

“It’s not you, it’s me. —”
― Hal Edward Runkel, Screamfree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition: How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less