Tony A. Gaskins Jr. > Quotes

“If you don't build your dream someone else will hire you to help build theirs.”
― Tony Gaskins

“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.”
― Tony Gaskins

“The doors will be opened to those who are bold enough to knock.”
― Tony Gaskins

“The closer you get to excellence in your life, the more friends you’ll lose. People love you when you are average, because it makes them comfortable. But when you pursue greatness, it makes people uncomfortable. Be prepared to lose some people on your journey.”
― Tony Gaskins Jr.

“Don’t let your values change with society; instead let your values change society.”
― Gaskins Jr, Tony A, Mrs. Right: A Woman's Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife

“Not everyone will have the heart you have. Not everyone will appreciate you and what you do for them. Sometimes it won't be easy having a kind heart in a cruel world. Be prepared.”
― Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

“We forget how to be a whole person all by ourselves. We feel like we are only half a person and that we need someone else to make us whole. That is a lie we tell ourselves and unfortunately, that lie has ruined so many people. We get in a relationship, we get hurt and then we run to someone else to cover up the pain or fill that void in our lives, not realizing that running to the wrong person will just make it worse.”
― Gaskins Jr, Tony A, Mrs. Right: A Woman's Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife

“I forgive, but I also learn a lesson. I won’t hate you, but I’ll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can’t let my forgiveness become foolish.”
― Tony Gaskins

“Don’t lose yourself trying to be everything to everyone.”
― Tony Gaskins

“My gift as a child was writing. It wasn’t that I could write better than everyone
else but it was that I could express myself fully on paper even when I couldn’t do it with
my voice. I write from the heart, not the mind. Writing isn’t an art to me; it’s a gift of expression.
It’s a release. I don’t write for praise or any awards. I write to express, not to
impress.”
― Tony Gaskins Jr.

“Let your pain birth your purpose. Let your mess become your message. Let this be a stepping-stone and not a stumbling block. Change”
― Gaskins Jr, Tony A, Mrs. Right: A Woman's Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife

“If you don’t build your dream, someone will hire you to help you build theirs”
― Tony Gaskins

“Mr. Stegall has birthed a very important book that will help us as a people go to the next level. This book is very important because it's tackling issues that many brush under the rug. Mr. Stegall has proven that he's been given a message that the world should hear and this book is proof of that. Because of his insight and wisdom, this book will reach areas and points that other books around this topic have not. This is definitely a book we need!”
― Tony Gaskins Jr.

“What you want and what you need may be two different things, but what you want and what you need should be the same things. Want what you need, not what you want.”
― Tony Gaskins Jr., Single Is Not A Curse

“Unfortunately, right after a bad breakup, many women turn to another man to soothe the pain of what the last man did to them. These women do not realize that pain is a healing agent. Let me explain what I mean by that. When we injure ourselves physically, it’s the pain that calls our attention to that injury and lets us know something needs our care—and we need to be conscious of that injury until it has had time to heal. If we didn’t feel pain we might not give our injury due attention and necessary care, and could worsen the injury or even cause ourselves permanent damage.”
― Gaskins Jr, Tony A, Mrs. Right: A Woman's Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife

“The definition of codependent is pretty serious. Some call it love, but that’s what I call dangerously in love. That is not healthy for the long haul. It can drive you insane if your existence depends on your partner’s existence. That’s why it is imperative that you fix yourself first. Do the work to learn, heal, forgive, and grow. Heal from the pain of your past. Heal from the abuse, abandonment, hurt, and pain. Gain new knowledge, and grow from those past experiences. Hire a therapist and life coach if you need professional insight and assistance in your process of healing. Make the investment in yourself, and get the help you need. It’s very dangerous to depend on another human being for validation.”
― Tony A. Gaskins Jr., Make It Work: 22 Time-Tested, Real-Life Lessons for Sustaining a Healthy, Happy Relationship

“I forgive, but I also learn a lesson. I won’t hate you, but I’ll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can’t let my forgiveness become foolishness”
― Tony Gaskins

“If you don't build your dreams, someone will hire you to help build theirs.”
― Tony A. Gaskins, The Dream Chaser: If You Don't Build Your Dream, Someone Will Hire You to Help Build Theirs

“If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to help build theirs.”
― Tony A. Gaskins Jr.