Deborah Anapol > Quotes

“Dr. Helen Fisher divides love into three categories that correspond to different hormones and brain systems. Her analysis of the data suggests that high androgen and estrogen levels generate lust, romantic love correlates with high dopamine and norepinephrine and low serotonin, and attachment is driven by oxytocin and vasopressin. To make matters more complicated, these three systems interact. For example, testosterone can “kickstart the two love neurotransmitters while an orgasm can elevate the attachment hormone,” according to Fisher. “Don’t copulate with people you don’t want to fall in love with,” she warns.4”
― Deborah Anapol, Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy With Multiple Partners

“The fact is that it’s extremely rare to find anyone who has had only one sexual
partner for his or her entire life. These days, it’s increasingly unusual to
find anyone who has only had one “significant other” throughout his or
her life. So the question is not so much whether to love more than one
but rather whether it works better to have multiple partners sequentially
or at the same time. There are definitely some people who are far better off taking it one at a time, and there are some situations that cry out for other possibilities.”
― Deborah Anapol, Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners