Ellen Kenner > Quotes

“It is no accident that narcissists and altruists often have a magnetic attraction to one another. Can you see how perfect the fit is? The altruistic feels the need to selflessly serve others and this is just what the narcissist wants. Narcissists want to be worshipped and gratified in every way possible, and this is just what altruists offer, thinking it demonstrates their moral virtue.”
― Ellen Kenner, Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason

“Romantic love is the most selfish of all emotions.”
― Ellen Kenner, Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason

“True love is egoism à duex - egoism for two.”
― Ellen Kenner, Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason

“It is critically important to know what you are responding to when you feel love for someone or have doubts about someone.”
― Dr. Ellen Kenner, Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason

“She did not introspect well enough to realize that part of her attraction to Sam was that he temporarily relieved her feminine and intellectual self-doubts, which meant she was attracted by a negative—the removal of anxiety—as much as by his positive traits.”
― Dr. Ellen Kenner, Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion & Reason