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“With no expectations anything can become.”
― Steven Farmer

“When One judges another, they unconsciously allow themselves to be judged.”
― Steven Farmer

“Its the actions one produces that will lead them toward the unknown.”
― Steven Farmer

“As the traditional healer Makhosi Petros Hezekial Mtshali tells us, Ancestors are benevolent beings who love us. You are their legacy, and they want the best for their progeny. Their own evolution in the Otherworld depends upon the completion of unfinished business or making amends for unkind acts or deeds that they may have committed during their lifetime.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“Consciousness—not the personal you—created your body and your surroundings that provide support for that body to exist.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“Waking up from the cultural trance may require you to challenge your most fundamental beliefs and step outside of societal norms. When this happens, you discover new insights about yourself and typically go through a revision of who you are and what your relationship with the Earth is.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet

“Creator and Creation are singular—that Source or God is all; the dark and the light, male and female, creation and destruction, death and resurrection. In that sense, there is nothing that exists or occurs that is not Source.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet

“There are four things our ancestors need from us: acknowledgment, validation, understanding, and forgiveness.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“There are four conditions that can either block or distort spiritual messages, making it more difficult to discern whether the message is coming from Spirit or is ego-generated. These are grief, pain, selfpity, and aggression without cause.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“In your family, your parents did not empathize with you. They expected a great deal more from you than you were capable of giving. At age seven, for example, you may have looked and acted quite mature, yet you still had your moments of whining and crying, you still needed considerable comfort and guidance. Your parents, not taking into account that this was to be expected, struck out aggressively against you because you were not acting according to their expectations.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

“You feel as if someone is trying to trick or con you, but you’re not sure. You’re faced with some significant change in your life and need some help and guidance to get through it. You’re feeling a strong creative surge and want support in developing and manifesting this inspiration. You know that you’re receiving spiritual guidance in the form of signs and omens but aren’t sure of their meaning. You’re navigating a rather treacherous path through a project or relationship and want some advance warning of any potential pitfalls.”
― Steven Farmer, Animal Spirit Guides: An Easy-to-Use Handbook for Identifying and Understanding Your Power Animals and Animal Spirit Helpers

“Ancestors are benevolent beings who love us. You are their legacy, and they want the best for their progeny. Their own evolution in the Otherworld depends upon the completion of unfinished business or making amends for unkind acts or deeds that they may have committed during their lifetime.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“When we heal ourselves, we heal the past, the present, and the future.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“The only problem is that you’re still operating on a survival level. It’s been hard to relax your need to be in control, to trust that you can protect and take care of yourself, or to let other people close to you, to be vulnerable with others. To do so would seem threatening at a very deep level.  So you remain isolated, doing your best to “handle” your life. You stay alive, but you don’t thrive.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

“Our parents did not know how to empathize with you because their parents did not empathize with them when they were children. If your mother was scolded as a little girl when she cried, she believed that is the proper way to treat a child who cries. If your father was whipped for disobeying, he undoubtedly came to believe that is the way to discipline a child.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

“Ceremony is the intentful construction of the bridge which spans the barriers that we’ve created between our soul and our mundane life. Through the creation of ceremony, we allow the free movement of our soul into the mundane and of our consciousness in the realm of soul. It’s a two-way bridge.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Sacred Ceremony: How to Create Ceremonies for Healing, Transitions and Celebrations

“Your mother and father had difficulty relating to your feelings and needs directly because their own needs as children were denied and discounted. Your childhood actions triggered at an unconscious level their own memories and fears from childhood, especially the more unpleasant memories of abuse. They projected these feeling of helplessness and powerlessness onto you, while at the same time identifying strongly with the abuser. You then became a victim to someone more powerful, just as they had been. Thus your parents perpetuated the cycle of abuse without any conscious awareness of their hurt, fear, and sense of helplessness. Instead, they got angry and expressed it by assaulting you or withdrawing from you. You represented to them all that they feared and at one time experienced themselves as children – powerlessness, vulnerability, and lack of control.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

“If you look deeply into the palm of your hand, you will see your parents and all generations of your ancestors. All of them are alive in this moment. Each is present in your body. You are the continuation of each of these people. —Thich Nhat Hanh, Present Moment Wonderful Moment”
― Steven D. Farmer, Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns

“You’ve approached the opportunity before you at a leisurely pace, but now it’s time to grab it and go for it with gusto. By meeting this challenging situation head-on, you’ll discover that you have some powerful gifts and skills that you were unaware of. If one way isn’t working, try another; and don’t get stuck in any single approach. Spend a day or two with no plans or agenda, guided only by your intuition—whether a day of activity, quiet reflection, or a combination. Take full responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, rather than blaming others or life circumstances. GREAT BLUE HERON Take some time for self-examination, reflecting dispassionately on your goals, motivations, actions, feelings, strengths, and limiting beliefs. Only you know what’s best for you, so follow your inner wisdom and guidance rather than the dictates and pressures of others.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Pocket Guide to Spirit Animals: Understanding Messages from Your Animal Spirit Guides

“By participating in ceremonies such as this one, people often find themselves in a rapturous state, experiencing a profound and ancient knowing at a soul level. Through the mythos always present in sacred ceremonies—that vast reservoir of species memory represented in symbols, songs, dances, and stories, all of which have common themes and mythologies cross-culturally—we find a common ground with all of humanity.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Sacred Ceremony: How to Create Ceremonies for Healing, Transitions and Celebrations

“This is an opportunity to access your deepest wisdom and assimilate it so that it becomes a part of your daily living. Beware of any potential traps or ruses that you’re tempted to get involved in. Rather than staying stuck in this apparent impasse, open your mind to the infinite number of possibilities that are before you, and make a choice. Don’t limit yourself to the mundane world, but instead be willing to explore other dimensions and realities. It’s time to write creatively without limits of tradition or habit, allowing yourself to be inspired by Nature. BLACK WIDOW SPIDER It’s time for a fresh perspective on what you’re doing, perhaps even a perspective that’s contrary to your usual way of thinking and seeing things. Your intuitive powers are very strong now, so pay closer attention to the subtle sensations in your body rather than relying solely on what meets the eye. You’ve done the hard work; now be patient and wait expectantly for the rewards that will come. There’s soon to be a substantial shift in the direction of your life, with a beneficial and renewed sense of purpose. This is a good time to do a dietary cleanse and detoxification to clear out any toxicity or pollutants in your body. Be direct and straightforward in all of your dealings, rather than dancing around the issues. What you once thought of as threatening is really quite harmless, so there’s no need to fear. There’s a situation you’re involved in where it will work better for you to remain in the background. BROWN RECLUSE SPIDER This is an opportunity to eliminate as much toxicity in your life as possible, in your body and in your relationships. Honor your need for solitude. This is a time of great transformation for you. TARANTULA Trust your intuitive senses—what you feel in your body—more than what you see. This is a time to shed anything that has served its purpose for the growth of your consciousness but is now no longer needed. Your sensitivity is increasing, particularly to the vibrations you feel from your environment. Be especially gentle to yourself in the next few days, doing whatever you can to provide comfort and self-nurturing. In spite of your sturdiness and strength, this is a very sensitive and delicate time for you, so treat yourself accordingly. Although you tend to stay in the background and by yourself, be willing to come forward as necessary for your own social and emotional nourishment.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Pocket Guide to Spirit Animals: Understanding Messages from Your Animal Spirit Guides

“No matter the stated purpose, sacred ceremony inevitably helps heal the fundamental spiritual wound—the illusion of separateness from the Creator and Creation. By our participation, we’re reassured that we’re not autonomous from that which sustains us materially and spiritually, and reminded of our place within the vast and intricate network of life.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Sacred Ceremony: How to Create Ceremonies for Healing, Transitions and Celebrations

“Gregg Braden, in his book The Divine Matrix, cites some fascinating research that supports the notion that DNA is what connects us all at a very fundamental level. Although the studies described were done with human DNA, it’s easy to extrapolate from them to assume that the DNA of all life—forms would behave similarly. The idea that we’re all connected in some intangible web of life is something we’ve heard over many, many centuries from mystics and indigenous peoples, and now the experiments that Braden cites give scientific credibility to what, up until this century, was a spiritual/metaphysical idea.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet

“The difficulties you face today most likely include an inability to trust, low self-esteem, depression, relationship problems, eating disorders, and alcohol or drug problems. The emotional abandonment you experienced as a child – the lack of consistent nurturing, protection, and guidance – not only was frightening and painful, but also left you in a constant state of internal deprivation, with feelings of emptiness and isolation. It is likely you have tried to fill up this emptiness, to replace the love and security you lacked, with something from outside yourself – alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling,  or relationships, to name a few – yet find they provide only temporary respite from the pain of deprivation.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused

“Great Spirit, we come to you in deep humility and with our hearts open, we pray. To the powers of Creation, Grandfather Sun, Grandmother Moon, Earth Mother, and to our ancestors. We pray to all our relations in Nature, All those who walk, crawl, fly, and swim, Seen and unseen, to the good spirits that exist in every part of creation. We ask that you bless our elders, children, families, and friends. Thank you for giving us the strength and courage to deal with whatever lies ahead. Thank you, Great Spirit, for always being at our side, always showing us the way. Thank you, Earth Mother, for your bounty, for the blessings you provide for us each and every day. Thank you for giving the very substance of our bodies and for the sustenance and nourishment you provide. Help us find ways to restore balance in our relationship with you and all your children. Teach us to walk lightly on your belly and to always see your grace and your beauty. Great Spirit, may there be good health and healing for our Earth Mother, may I always know the Beauty above me, may I always know the Beauty below me, may I always know the Beauty in me, may I always know the Beauty around me. I ask that this world be filled with Peace, Love, and Beauty.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet

“Your animal spirit guide finds great joy in working with you and experiencing ordinary reality through your physical senses, and you get an animal spirit guide that counsels, heals, and empowers you.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Power Animals: How to Connect with Your Animal Spirit Guide

“Ceremony, whether or not it’s shamanic, is typically magical, creative, and healing, and provides a bridge between the material and spirit worlds. It’s a felt demonstration of how the power of the universe works, and it provides an excellent way to honor all those events in our lives that we want to sanctify. Participating in sacred ceremony helps us bring our being into alignment with the natural flow and rhythm of life.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Sacred Ceremony: How to Create Ceremonies for Healing, Transitions and Celebrations

“All neuroses are merely adult forms of whining and pouting.”
― Steven D. Farmer, Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet

“Your family was much more of a closed system. Your parents maintained few ties, if any, with the larger community. You did not bring friends over, nor did your parents share their home with their friends or neighbors. A sense of isolation pervaded your home. You felt no belonging or connection to anything larger than your own family.”
― Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused