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“Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough.”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“working more than 40 hours a week was stupid, wasteful, dangerous, and expensive—and the most telling sign of dangerously incompetent management to boot,” Robinson writes. Further, more than a hundred years of research shows that “every hour you work over 40 hours a week is making you less effective and productive over both the short and the long haul.” Really! Even though most people think this makes intuitive sense, they are still surprised to hear that it is actually true. This common sense is so widely ignored that overwork—and the problems with health, happiness, and productivity that it brings—is epidemic.”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“what truly makes us happy is letting go of our fantasies about the future and instead engaging in the journey, in the process, and in the present moment.”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“The Sweet Spot is about shifting the small gears, the ones that rotate relatively easily. And because all the gears are interlocking, when we tweak a small gear, large gears start to move—effortlessly—as well.”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes. —HAROLD B. LEE”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“walls in my office, bedroom,”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“This broadened perception opens up our sweet spot: that place where we experience the least stress, the greatest intellectual power, and the most sophisticated social skills.”
― Christine Carter, The Sweet Spot: How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

“Sugarcoat your complaints a little bit, as you would with a good friend whose feelings you don’t want to hurt. (Gottman calls this the “soft start-up.”)”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“The other way that we can intervene is to act as mediators or coaches rather than dictators or judges. Instead of stopping the conflict or imposing solutions, we can help kids see one another’s perspectives and encourage them to generate their own solutions.”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“Effective conflict resolution requires empathy: kids have to be able to take their friends’ or siblings’ points of view into account, which presents a natural opportunity for children to learn to consider other people’s feelings.”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“But don’t go shopping. That is one thing that many of us do for fun that won’t result in lasting happiness. Materialistic people are more likely to be depressed or anxious and have low self-esteem. The more we seek happiness in material things, the less likely we are to find it.”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically … on children than the unlived life of the parent. —CARL JUNG”
― Christine Carter, Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents

“abrir mão de recompensas financeiras e sucesso profissional em troca de tempo para descansar. Mas eu queria uma vida mais tranquila: poder parar e conversar com o vizinho, brincar com meu cachorro e apreciar sua alegria (sem estar ao mesmo tempo no telefone, cuidando de negócios), desfrutar de fins de semana inteiros indo a exposições de arte, lendo por puro prazer e simplesmente aproveitando a companhia dos meus filhos.”
― Christine Carter, O ponto de equilíbrio

“Lie detectors detect not lies, but the subconscious stress and fear that lying causes.”
― Christine Carter