Patrick King > Quotes

“The more specific your questions the better.   If you feel that you can't really continue the conversation without asking questions, you need to ask specific questions.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“Being assertive is understanding that you can’t control what others may do, but you can control your own behavior.”
― Patrick King, The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

“In summary, procrastination may arise from problems in each of the nine executive functions—(1) inhibition, (2) self-monitoring, (3) planning and organization, (4) activity shifting, (5) task initiation, (6) task monitoring, (7) emotional control, (8) working memory, and (9) general orderliness.”
― Patrick King, The Science of Overcoming Procrastination: How to Be Disciplined, Break Inertia, Manage Your Time, and Be Productive

“The 1:1:1 method can be summed up as starting a story as close to the end as possible. Most stories end before they get to the end, in terms of impact on the listener, their attention span, and the energy that you have to tell it.”
― Patrick King, Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends

“Instead of walling off a conversation and saying you'd rather talk about something else, you bring in a deeper and more comprehensive level of analysis. This highlights your intelligence, but it also highlights your emotional engagement.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“David Eagleman once wrote that everyone dies twice – first when we stop breathing, and second when your name is mentioned for the last time.”
― Patrick King, Public Speaking: Encore! How to Destroy Anxiety, Captivate Instantly, and Be Memorable - Ace All of Life's Speeches, Performances, and Presentations

“If and When were planted, and Nothing grew.” —Proverb”
― Patrick King, The Science of Overcoming Procrastination: How to Be Disciplined, Break Inertia, Manage Your Time, and Be Productive

“Negative people see life as a series of obligations and hassles.   For”
― Patrick King, Magnetic Charisma: How to Build Instant Rapport, Be More Likable, and Make a Memorable Impression

“Rule of Improv Comedy: React to everything put in front of you, because it was probably put there for a reason.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“The interesting paradox is that in order to truly put others first and give yourself in meaningful ways, you have to know how to put yourself first and be a little selfish where it counts. By making time for yourself and taking care of your own health first, you are putting yourself in the best position to continue being there for the people around you when they most need it. So by being selfish, you claw your sense of self back slowly, and you can use this newfound energy to be better at whatever you choose to spend it on. Hopefully you choose yourself, but even if you want to choose others, you’ll be better off if you are operating at 100%.”
― Patrick King, Stop People Pleasing: Be Assertive, Stop Caring What Others Think, Beat Your Guilt, & Stop Being a Pushover

“you should become the type of person you would like to get to know. You prefer someone who actively skydives over someone who watches television all day. You prefer someone who has something to teach you in an interesting subject. You prefer someone who displays passion and has opinions on a wide range of topics. Are you this person?”
― Patrick King, Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends

“Rule of Improv Comedy: Be as present and observant as possible so you can see where an interaction is coming from, and where it wants to go.   If you were to analyze really successful improv comedians like Jim Carrey, you will notice that he have a great knack for being in the moment.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“What motivates you, and why?”
― Patrick King, Limitless: Destroy Your Fears, Escape Your Comfort Zone, and Conquer Any Goal - Create The Life You Want

“A lot of people talk, but they really are not talking to or hearing each other. They're talking to what that person represents. They just talk and wait for their turn to speak while pretending to listen, not bothering to truly hone in and listen to the other person. In other words, it's all about you.   As”
― Patrick King, Everyday Charisma: Techniques for Mass Appeal, Charm, and Becoming a Social Powerhouse

“People don’t enter conversations, work or social, with the same intentions. You must understand and cater to that.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your People Skills: Build and Manage Relationships, Communicate Effectively, Understand Others, and Become the Ultimate People Person

“If you’re able to entertain new ideas, think outside the box, and adapt quickly to new situations, you’re more likely to become and succeed as a leader (Lebowitz, 2016).”
― Patrick King, Read People Like a Book: How to Analyze, Understand, and Predict People’s Emotions, Thoughts, Intentions, and Behaviors

“A people-pleaser is worried about rejection. They have a need, as we all do, to be accepted and treasured—to be loved. But in people-pleasers, this need is amplified to the extent that they will bend over backward just to not lose that love or acceptance. They are driven by avoiding negative consequences rather than creating positive possibilities. Additionally, they feel that they are always on the brink of rejection, so this urgency causes a type of panic that is characterized by doing anything possible. People-pleasing is a defensive act, whereas genuine concern and generosity are affirmative practices.”
― Patrick King, Stop People Pleasing: Be Assertive, Stop Caring What Others Think, Beat Your Guilt, & Stop Being a Pushover

“For instance, it tends to be easier for us to picture how frequently eating a load of greasy fast food meals is going to risk our heart health, but it’s harder for us to recognize how not exercising can place us at the same health risk. While we may actively avoid those oily take-out in an attempt to maintain a healthy lifestyle, we aren’t as likely to start an exercise regimen to support that same goal. It just doesn’t have the same psychological impact.”
― Patrick King, The Science of Overcoming Procrastination: How to Be Disciplined, Break Inertia, Manage Your Time, and Be Productive

“A 2012 study conducted by neuroscientists Diana Tamir and Jason Mitchell at Harvard University entitled “Disclosing Information About the Self Is Intrinsically Rewarding” found that our urge to share personal information with others is one of the most fundamental and powerful parts of being human. Brain images showed that sharing information about ourselves triggers the same sensations in our brains that we experience when we eat food and have sex—two behaviors that we are biologically compelled to do. Thus, it seems we are biologically compelled to share and communicate our thoughts.”
― Patrick King, How to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships

“Discrepancies between verbal and nonverbal communication can tell you more than merely observing nonverbal communication alone.”
― Patrick King, Read People Like a Book: How to Analyze, Understand, and Predict People’s Emotions, Thoughts, Intentions, and Behaviors

“Asking people for their advice or opinion is one of the best ways you can build instant rapport and become likeable in the eyes of many people.”
― Patrick King, Connect Instantly: 60 Seconds to Likability, Meaningful Connections, and Hitting It Off With Anyone

“Making a decision to be genuinely curious and interested in your conversation partner is one of the keys to allowing them to feel comfortable enough to connect to you beyond a superficial level.”
― Patrick King, CHATTER: Small Talk, Charisma, and How to Talk to Anyone

“A final example is “How did you feel about your weekend? What was the best part?”
― Patrick King, Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends

“Assertiveness is asking for what you want, turning others down, and making decisions that are right for you without anger, threats, manipulation, or fear of repercussions.”
― Patrick King, The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

“If you go to a networking event with the idea of seeking a job, that’s an expectation that will creep into all of your conversations, whether you realize it or not. You’re going to subconsciously nudge your interactions into specific directions that will probably disrupt the natural flow of how they would otherwise go—to your detriment. If you speak to that same person and just seek to connect, chances are a very different connection will form.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think on Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What to Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“You can be the smoothest, funniest person in the room, but if you aren’t interested and curious about your conversation partner, there simply won’t be a connection.   I’ve”
― Patrick King, CHATTER: Small Talk, Charisma, and How to Talk to Anyone

“Those who seem most boastful in a conversation, who jealously guard attention or speak over others, are often those who feel most insecure in themselves.”
― Patrick King, How to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships

“Chatter requires a very finely-tuned sense of empathy, conversational techniques, and cultivating a presence – it’s not about just going down a checklist of topics. It also requires reading between the lines of what people say, examining body language, and noting patterns of human interaction to different types of stimuli.”
― Patrick King, CHATTER: Small Talk, Charisma, and How to Talk to Anyone

“By keeping an eye out for hints that people leave for the reactions they want, you can increase the likelihood that your conversations will be longer, more emotionally engaging, and lead to where you want them to go.”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques

“Recall that improv is about accomplishing a shared goal. This requires flow, working together, and accepting what other people bring to the table regardless of what it is. That’s the essence of “Yes, AND…” and the opposite of “Yes, BUT…”
― Patrick King, Improve Your Conversations: Think On Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What To Say with Improv Comedy Techniques