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“I remember a time when I was rejected for speaking my truth. The rejection hurt very much. I kept going over and over in my mind my motives for sharing my truth, and each time I realized that I had come from my heart. This person refuses to be my friend anymore. Over the years I have come to the feeling that Leo was able to access right away. This person is missing out on so much, for I am a loving person and a good devoted friend. I could have enriched this person's life. I no longer feel the personal pain of rejection, but the sadness for what my former friend is missing. I realized also from this experience that it is most important to speak one's deepest truth and to follow the calling of our heart. As we do so we are filled with an inner power and conviction to give the precious gift that we came to earth to give.”
― Joyce Vissell

“An unresolved issue will be like a cancer with the potential to spread into other areas of your relationship, eroding the joy, lightness, love and beauty.”
― Joyce Vissell

“It is not about how much money we make or how big and powerful our work appears to others, it is about the love with which we put into each act of kindness toward another human being.”
― Joyce Vissell

“Obviously, the choice between human selfishness and divine Selfishness is not about leaving or not leaving a relationship. More important are the day-to-day opportunities in the course of relationship. It is really the choice of living from the heart or living from fear. And how do you live from fear? Saying "yes" when your heart wants to say "no." Saying "no" when your heart wants to say "yes." By not listening to your heart (i.e., what is best for your soul), you compromise your truth, and cause suffering in the relationship. You may be afraid of hurting your friend. You may be afraid of losing their love and friendship. Whatever it is you are afraid of, it is still fear that is ruling you, rather than love.”
― Joyce Vissell

“We have been together for 40 years, married for 36. There have been three times in our relationship when we were unable to resolve an issue on our own. We used all the skill that we have and yet it was still unresolved. In those three times we sought professional help because there was a blind spot for each of us. The therapist was able to listen to both of us and help us come to a place of resolution that we both felt good about. I feel very grateful for that help. Most times we have been able to work things through on our own. Sometimes we can clear the issue in a matter of a few minutes, sometimes an hour and sometimes it can take several days. But we still keep working on it until we both say that we feel complete, we understand our own part and responsibility in the issue rather than simply blaming each other, are willing to go on, and there is an even deeper connection and sometimes even humor to the situation. In working each issue through to completion we have been able to retain a beautiful lightness in our relationship that we both cherish.”
― Joyce Vissell

“For me, I would rather have a small gift given with great love.”
― Joyce Vissell

“Whatever your financial status in life, or whatever work you do, know that you can make a significant contribution to your family and world by doing small things with great love.”
― Joyce Vissell

“And so for me, gratitude is the key to happiness. Even in our worst or saddest moments, the act of gratitude can open the door to a different experience.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“Our highest dependence is on God. It is our independence that often keeps us separate from the highest power in the universe. When we feel our complete dependence upon divine love, we feel like a child being held by the most perfect parents.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“What two people need more than anything else is the feeling of connecting and the flow of love from heart to heart.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“I want to invite you, whether you are coupled or single, to see longing as a powerful tool for awareness. Truth is, we all long for happiness especially when we feel sad, or for peace when we feel agitated, or health when we are sick, or a lover when we feel lonely. Longing is a natural response of the body, mind or feelings to fill what is needed or desired. It can also be a conscious meditation.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“To judge someone is to miss the divinity in that person, to think of them as less than who they really are. To judge is simply to project our own limitations onto another. When we feel compassion for our own limitations, for our own humanity, we never judge others. When we are conscious of our own greatness, we see the greatness of others.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“The love in our hearts makes us more than enough. We don’t need all the other trappings of life to reach out to another. In the end, it is simply our love that wins the prize blue ribbon of life.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“The way to know love is by first thoroughly experiencing its opposite, and the opposite of love is fear, not hatred. Our real choice in life is to either live in fear or to live in love.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“Behind our shame is our pain, and behind the pain is the precious, innocent child that deserves love.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love

“Our real independence is our acceptance of our dependence. As long as we hide or ignore our inner child who needs love, we are not free.”
― Joyce Vissell, Heartfullness: 52 Ways to Open to More Love