Rick Cormier > Quotes

“There is an unspoken agreement in every successful relationship: "I'm not perfect and you're not perfect. I can ignore your imperfections if you can ignore mine. I choose to spend my life in your company.”
― Rick Cormier, MiXED NUTS or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Love is how you treat someone.”
― Rick Cormier, MiXED NUTS or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Friends are God's way of apologizing for our families.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Many of our flaws are old emotional defenses which may fade away when we're loved in spite of them.”
― Rick Cormier, MiXED NUTS or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Three things make up who we are as individuals: what we think, what we feel, and what we do. If we manage to change any one of these three aspects of ourselves, the other two will follow.”
― Rick Cormier, MiXED NUTS or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate. ~Carl Jung”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived -This is to have succeeded.” ~Bessie Anderson Stanley”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“When we are no longer able to change a situation -we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor E. Frankl”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“We take the most difficult relationship of our childhood... and we MARRY it.”
― Rick Cormier

“We often get anxious about things that are important to us.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“The fears you avoid become stronger. The fears you confront become weaker while you get stronger.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“In an unhealthy relationship with control issues, the unspoken attitude is, “Here is perfect (hand held high) and here is you (hand held low). I'm going to devote my time and energy to pointing out the difference.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Grad school was a surprise. I had no idea I'd be given a week to read four books at a time. No one warned me that I would be required to write 10- to 25-page papers plus a two-page paper for each class while simultaneously working on my master's thesis. For nearly two years. I saw my wife and son mostly on weekends.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“But they are experts at using their victim's need for attention and affection to manipulate them. It's important to understand that, while abusers are incapable of loving others, they're incapable of loving themselves, also. Abusers need to feel superior. They will obsessively find fault, teach, correct and criticize.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“because you didn't give him any cookies. All abusers want you to believe that you can stop the abuse by changing yourself.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Uncommon people take longer to find love because they need uncommon partners.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“How we each imagine God says more about us than it does about gods.”
― Rick Cormier, Mixed Nuts: or What I've Learned Practicing Psychotherapy

“Every life can be experienced from the point of view of the victim or the survivor. Life is a roller coaster. Good and bad things are going to happen regardless of what we think, how we feel or what we do. “Happiness” isn't a destination. It's a way of travel. I have no real control over the big events of my life. I can only hope to control my perception, my attitude and my reactions.”
― Rick Cormier, My Life Cracks Me Up