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“The characters populating male fantasies have little in common with those inhabiting female fantasies. In porn, the mind of a woman is usually empty of all thought and feeling – except for an overwhelming urge to have sex with plumbers, pizza boys, and her BFF. Women’s hopes and fears are irrelevant. Their skills are inconsequential, except for the admirable ability to satisfy multiple lovers simultaneously and an impressive capacity for moaning. Their bodies, on the other hand, are depicted in lavish, graphic detail.

The heroes of romance novels often seem like members of a more evolved species. They are natural leaders, rich, powerful, and well-connected. Their minds are intelligent and savvy, though they are reticent about their abilities and hide their inner demons. Despite the fact that they are a five-star general or lord of southern England, they hide a troubled and tempestuous soul that can only be healed by the magical balm of a woman’s love.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“The process of the hero getting in touch with his tender side is one of the greatest pleasures of the romance. Scenes where an alpha male expresses his feelings are always described in rich detail. In the same way that women often find the breathless gasping and moaning of female porn stars to be absurdly inauthentic, male readers of romances might find the emotional confessions of romance heroes to be strangely unfamiliar.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“A woman's sexual desire must be filtered through a careful appraisal of potential risks. During human prehistory, women who blindly gave in to every sexual urge likely faced a host of daunting challenges, including - in the extreme cases - death. Most important, from an evolutionary point of view, her children would have a harder time surviving than the children of a woman who limited the expression of her sexual urges to a strong and decent man willing to invest in a stable, long-term, child-rearing relationship. All modern women are the fruit of feminine caution. The result of this whittling away of the impulsive branches of our ancestral maternal tree is a female brain equipped with the most sophisticated neural software on Earth. A system designed to uncover, scrutinize, and evaluate a dazzling range of informative clues.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“Though social psychologist Elaine Hatfield is one of the nicest people you could ever meet, her life has been filled with controversy, mostly because of her independent streak. When she was a young professor at the University of Minnesota in 1963, there were two rules. Women were not allowed to hang their coats in the faculty cloak room. Women were not allowed to dine at the Faculty Club. One Monday evening, Hatfield decided to challenge the rules. She and fellow psychologist Ellen Berscheid approached the table where their male colleagues were sitting. When we walked into the Faculty Club and chorused: “May we sit down?” our six colleagues couldn’t have been more courtly. “Of course! Do sit down.” But, Colleague #1 glanced at his watch and declared, “Oh, do excuse me I have to run.” Colleague #2 shifted uneasily, then remembered that his wife was picking him up. Colleague #3 snatched up a dinner roll and said that he better walk out with his friend. The remaining men realized that they’d better be going, too. Within minutes Ellen and I were sitting alone at the elegant table, surrounded by six heaping plates. Shamed but undeterred, they kept returning to the Faculty Club until they finally obtained their own table. Eventually, Hatfield became a full professor at the University of Wisconsin, where she pioneered research into the psychology of falling in love. The”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Here are the ten most common professions of the hero, derived from the titles of more than 15,000 Harlequin romance novels: Doctor Cowboy Boss Prince Rancher Knight Surgeon King Bodyguard Sheriff”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Consciousness is a rich, intimate, symbiotic relationship between reality and itself. And the more conscious we are of consciousness, the more we will come to value other sentient beings as hallowed and exquisite flickers of feeling within the boundless darkness.”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“For every search for a “skinny” girl, there are almost three searches for a “fat” girl.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“The best method for acquiring scientific data is direct observation. Nothing beats watching a subject in action. But scientist have an easier time gazing at intergalactic quasars than peeking into someone's bedroom. Quasars don't close the curtains out of modesty of suspicion. In contrast, most of us are unwilling to let curious scientists photograph us as we tumble between the sheets. Radio waves may be invisible, but they don't try do deceive curious physicists and they are incapable of self-deception. Humans are guilty of both.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire

“The uncanny experience of meaning that enters our consciousness when we comprehend a word is entirely unrelated to the perceptual qualities of the word itself.”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“What is the original source of our sexual interests? How does the initial impulse to seek out “best romance novels” or “free gay video” get into our brain in the first place? One possibility is that our desire software is influenced by social stimuli. Maybe our brains are designed to sample our cultural environment—including messages communicated by our parents, our peers, and the media—then set our desires according to the examples dictated by these social inputs. How could we test this “social inputs” hypothesis? Here’s one possible experiment: we could try to use social inputs to intentionally engineer a person’s most fundamental sexual desires.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“On the Web, men prefer images. Women prefer stories. Men prefer graphic sex. Women prefer relationships and romance.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Exploration is in our nature. We began as wanderers, and we are wanderers still. —Cosmos, Carl Sagan”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“there is a common misconception that gay men are attracted to partners who are feminine and flamboyant.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“The maxim “All the best men are taken” is doubly true. If a man is already taken by a woman, then by definition, he’s the best man—or certainly a more desirable man. If the exact same man is not taken, then his value is questionable—he’s certainly not as desirable as a man who has already received the stamp of approval from another woman’s Detective Agency.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Whereas male exhibitionism is usually considered a psychiatric disorder and a crime, female exhibitionism is rarely considered a social problem. Indeed, it’s frequently exploited commercially.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“of cover models? For every search for a “skinny” girl, there are almost three searches for a “fat” girl.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“man’s true character cannot be evaluated as swiftly or as easily as a woman’s bust size.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“But that doesn’t mean we are striving to form a union
that is perfect. We are striving to forge our union with purpose. —“The Hill We Climb,” Amanda Gorman”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“A man’s true character cannot be evaluated as swiftly or as easily as a woman’s bust size.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Study after study has demonstrated the erotic appeal of male dominance. Women prefer the voices of dominant men, the scent of dominant men, the movement and gait of dominant men, and the facial features of dominant men.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Men’s interest in breasts, butts, and feet are well known and well documented. The next anatomical cue, however, may come as something of a surprise.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“But after the adolescent brain starts to change, women are twice as likely to suffer from mood disorders as men.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Women are more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and eating disorders. Men are more likely to suffer from schizophrenia and autistic spectrum disorders.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“One intriguing study examined the effects of ovulation on the tips that professional lap dancers received while working in gentlemen’s clubs. Women with normal ovulatory cycles earned about $185 when they were menstruating, $260 when they were not menstruating nor ovulating, and $335 when they were ovulating. Perhaps the increase in tips was because the dancers unconsciously behaved differently.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“The male cue for female sexual pleasure is entirely analogous to the female cue for a man’s emotional commitment.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“All conscious beings share a common privilege. We are all hoping and suffering, recognizing and realizing, fearful and fervent. We are all cosmic weavers: the frog mind and the hummingbird mind and the chimpanzee mind pluck out kaleidoscopic snapshots of the universe’s unfolding within their resonance, knotting the ceaseless torrent of chaos into a prismatic tapestry. In these animal minds, as in our own minds, we gather up fleeting fragments of reality and transform them into feeling, a cosmos within a cosmos.”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

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― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“All conscious beings share a common privilege. We are all hoping and suffering, recognizing and realizing, fearful and fervent. We are all cosmic weavers: the frog mind and the hummingbird mind and the chimpanzee mind pluck out kaleidoscopic snapshots of the universe’s unfolding within their resonance, knotting the ceaseless torrent of chaos into a prismatic tapestry”
― Ogi Ogas, Journey of the Mind: How Thinking Emerged from Chaos

“There’s a reason they call it Girls Gone Wild and not Women Gone Wild. When girls go wild, they show their breasts. When women go wild, they kill men. —Comedian Louis C.K.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships

“Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan, authors of Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels.”
― Ogi Ogas, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships