Kate Kerrigan > Quotes

“We both grew so used to each other, so comfortable with the naturalness and ease of our friendship, that we became sloppy about keeping our relationship a secret. It was not that we were physically demonstrative or obviously in love, more that it had become impossible for us to hide our close involvement. We had gradually acquired the unmistakable air of old-love: finishing each other's sentences and speaking to each other with an offhand, presuming intimacy that was eventually noticed.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Miracle of Grace

“In this way, I was able to place my own concerns aside and curl myself up in the cocoon of somebody else's imagination. My life was suspended - I was in neither one place nor the other.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Ellis Island

“Kupikir orang tidak akan bisa membuat komitmen sebelum benar-benar jatuh cinta. Sekarang aku tahu, kita tidak akan bisa mencintai dengan tulus sebelum membuat komitmen.”

“Inilah kesempatan terakhirku dalam cinta, bukan karena aku sudah terlalu tua untuk menjalin cinta dengan orang lain, tetapi karena sudah waktunya berhenti. Berhenti berlari, mengejar sasaran bergerak yang kusebut kebahagiaan itu, dan merasa berbahagia dengan apa yang sudah kumiliki.”
― Kate Kerrigan

“Seorang ibu akan selalu khawatir memikirkan anaknya, setiap hari selama hidupnya.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Hidup ini kadang keras,tetapi kita membuatnya jadi lebih keras lagi melalui cara pandang kita.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“It is easy to make friends, but not so easy to keep them in the long term. You cancel a couple of arrangements because you are tired, or it seems too far to travel in traffic, and then next thing you know you have not seen somebody you considered a close friend in over a year. In the small town where I grew up, you saw the same people day in and day out for years. My mother was friends with the girls she went to school with until the day she died. I enjoyed the anonymous freedoms of the city, but now I wondered if I had enjoyed them enough to justify being lonely in my latter years. I missed seeing people every day, meeting old friends and making new ones.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Miracle of Grace

“If you take goodwill for granted and get sloppy, you might get away with it once or twice, but you won't get away with it for ever. You should always treat the things that treat you good with respect, because otherwise you will suffer for it. More important than that is the fact that it's just the right thing to do.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“..aku sangat diberkati karena bisa menikmati segala cara sederhana yang dia tunjukkan untuk mencintaiku.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Meeting my brother was the single most incredible, wonderful event that had happened to me in my life up to that point. "I'm going to meet my brother," I said to the taxi driver, just to see how it sounded. Just for the novelty of saying out loud the words "my brother" for the first time. He was uninterested, and it thrilled me that the extraordinary thing I was experiencing seemd to be so ordinary to an outsider.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Miracle of Grace

“You can't make another person happy: they have to make themselves happy.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“When you are young, feelings are your truth. Love is how you feel. The years have taught me that love is not an emotion that you feel about someone, but what you do for them.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Then thre is Brian. It's been a slow-grow love with its roots in our friendship. We disagree about everything that's not important, like politics and religion, but agree on everything that is important, like where the dustpan and brush should live, and his sons' girlfriends.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Miracle of Grace

“Sometimes, when you are really attached to an ideal, it is just not possible to compromise.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“I thought that you could not make a commitment until you were truly in love. What I know now is that you cannot love truly until you have made a commitment.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“Perhaps intimacy is not just loving everything about him, but knowing everything about him—and staying anyway.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“Life can be hard, but then we make it even harder by the way we look at it.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Dan is not the right guy or the wrong guy. He is just my guy. My husband. The one I chose on the day I chose him, and right now, I plan to go on choosing him for the rest of my life.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“Reality is just an interpretation. Some people believe only God really knows what's going on: we mortals just make up our own versions of it.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Perhaps it is our dreams that keep us young. Older women who cling on to youth may look ghoulish, but perhaps they are happier than those of us who grow old and crochety before our time.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“America had planted the seed of freedom in my heart, but it was the rich soil of home that had enabled it to grow.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Ellis Island

“When you are young, feelings are your truth; love is how you feel. The years have taught me that love is not an emotion that you feel about someone, but what you do for them, how you grow with them.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“But that wasn’t my way: why should I alter my manner of doing things to please my husband? In any case, it wasn’t our way to tiptoe around each other, either.”
― Kate Kerrigan, City of Hope

“Questions are the sign of an active, intelligent mind, a filter you rinse your ideas through before you make a decision. But sometimes the filter gets clogged and then it becomes a barrier to the truth.”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“Trust is nothing when you have it. It's bread and milk. Basic. There's no glamour, no emotion, no drama - you just trust and that's it. Trusting someone is boring. It's a non-event. But take it away - try living without trust and suddenly your relationship is plunged into a living hellhole.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“Everyone is capable of hate, of wanting to hurt, even kill another person. But when those hatreds manifest themselves out of the mind and into real life, a line is crossed. The line between human and animal.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“There are lies in tears. The ones we weep most loudly are usually for ourselves, yet how easily we can pass them off as grief.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“If I had to describe myself I would have reluctantly used the label ‘new-age liberal’, although of course by our very nature we liberals object to putting people in boxes. (Except for ‘fascists’ and ‘racists’ and ‘conservatives’ and ‘religious right-wingers’ and, in fact, everyone who isn’t as ‘open-minded’ and ‘inclusive’ as us.)”
― Kate Kerrigan, The Perfect Marriage: A moving novel of love and marriage

“Sometimes, you can hurt another person by being true to yourself, but in the longterm you are doing both of you a favour. You can also hurt them by just being a selfish bitch and there is no excuse for that. Sometimes it is quite difficult to tell the two situations apart.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“When you are around something every day you stop seeing it.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage

“In life loyalty is something that you earn and Doreen had more than earned my loyalty over the years. But marriage is a rogue state with its own rules, and one of them is pledging your loyalty to somebody before you can be fully sure that they deserve it, so you stand their ground. You mess with him? You mess with me. That's the new rule. A husband is instant family. He gets the loyalty of a blood tie without doing any of the work.”
― Kate Kerrigan, Recipes for a Perfect Marriage