John Grinder > Quotes

“Creative geniuses are: 1.  Comfortable with uncertainty
2.  Able to hold seeming opposites or paradoxes
3.  Persistent”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Remember: the journey is the destination.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“The Wild Days: NLP 1972 to 1981: This is a first hand interpretation of the events and relationships created during the development of NLP.6 Happy Parents Happy Kids: Words and Actions for Parents and Kids: This is a book on parenting using components of the NLP model to provide strategies for common parenting challenges. The book includes many practical exercises.7 I have also designed a computer program called LifeSet Meta Programs Survey. This is a 48-question assessment survey designed to elicit “meta programs” and hence to understand the drivers of people’s behaviors.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Rapport-Based Selling and No Need for Conflict!”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“The greeting of risk, the willingness to discover through (certain classes of non-lethal) trial and error, the subordination of success to exploration and discovery, and the insistence of finding the edge of patterns; where they fail, all of these seem to contain echoes of field work in Special Forces and related intelligence organizations, the passion for languages, the recognition that much of what passes for effective communication can be achieved with very little actual understanding, the primacy of non-verbal communication in influencing face-to-face communications, a tolerance for ambiguity and vagueness, and a fascination with the unknown.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Virginia joined John and Richard at the house to model her work with family systems and the three of them collaborated to write the book, Changing with Families.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“After four years of corporate experience I completed the first draft of Making the Message Clear (which I believe was the first book on the application of NLP to business).”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“The Encyclopedia of Systemic NLP (2000) and NLP II: The Next Generation (2010).”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“remain, however, a firm believer in the value of the fundamentals. It is difficult to master the really slick stuff without core tools like the Meta Model, accessing cues, calibrations, anchoring, sub-modalities, and an understanding of how and why these are important”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“books on Strategies of Genius.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Bandler and Grinder’s work with Virginia Satir and their exploration of parts also led to the principle of positive intention. Simply put, the principle states that at some level all behavior is (or at one time was) “positively intended.” Another way to say it is that all behavior serves (or at one time served) a “positive purpose” – i.e., every “neuro-linguistic program” emerges and lasts because it serves some type of adaptive function. While I liked the principle, at first it seemed mostly like a nice philosophical idea. Like everything else in NLP, however, it eventually became a very personal experience that changed my life. It did not come in a flash of blinding light as to St. Paul on the road to Damascus. It was subtler. But the moment that I deeply realized all of my behaviors had some type of positive intention, even if I did not immediately recognize what it was, something shifted inside of me that led to a deep trust in my own being; that somehow, as Einstein proposed, “the universe is a friendly place” at its core. Even today the principle of positive intention seems to me to be the most spiritual principle in NLP.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Bob Dylan sang, “He not busy being born is busy dying.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“the ability of a religious or business leader to inspire, motivate, generate interest, capture attention, depends critically on metaphor. if you actually listen to what people say, there's almost no content substance to it.”
― John Grinder

“which Frank and I later refined and published as the book, Magic Demystified: A Pragmatic Guide to Communication and Change.4”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Applications of NLP”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“(again, deploying that mother of all skill sets in NLP, calibration),”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“So, what every parent would want their college kids to know: Look for patterns, they are always there. Challenge all my assumptions. Change, Jim, can be good. Use all my senses, even the ones I am not aware of. Understand the world from another’s perspective, not mine. Listen more, talk less; if I do talk, ask questions. Everyone is doing the best job they can given the limitations of their beliefs. My job is to get people to use the best of themselves to get better, to improve. Everyone has a chance; if something didn’t work, it’s because of my limitations, not the other person’s. I am ultimately accountable for and own the outcomes of my choices. All of them.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“We created and published with Bill the Neurolinguistic Communication Profile and Rapport: Matching and Mirroring Communication.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Sobriety Demystified: Getting Clean and Sober with NLP and CBT, which was published in 1996. In keeping”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“The first application was named Mind Master, which was followed by the NeuroLink and a commercial computer game called MindDrive. Today, these applications are available through Somatic Vision.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Since the early days, some of the originators of NLP have developed new models including Design Human Engineering, the New NLP, and NLP New Code.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“One of the strategies that they taught us was how to generate an even greater amount of learning and choice from every experience or life situation. We were instructed to review the events of the day and identify the significant choice points. We were to reflect on the choices we had made at those points and whether they were successful or unsuccessful in reaching our desired outcome. For each choice point, we were to imagine three alternative ways we could have responded, other than the way that we did (whether or not what we did was successful). In our imagination, we were to then project the results and consequences of each alternative and imagine what it would be like to have actually made this choice by stepping into the experience and fully living it somatically in imagination.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“But a second, equally prominent, emphasis of the early days was learning to navigate without fixed maps; that is, to learn at an unconscious level. As I soon discovered in doing trance work, a hypnotic induction is a set of communications that de-frames or dissolves fixed maps, thereby allowing new experiences unhindered by the map bias. From this naturalistic view, virtually my entire time spent with Bandler and Grinder was a hypnotic induction – the core spirit guiding the work was dissolving all fixed views (in ourselves and others), so that both laughter and significant new realities could emerge. To me, the revolutionary spirit of early NLP came from a beautiful combination of these two levels of (1) learning without maps (i.e., unconscious learning) and (2) learning via maps improved by meta-modeling principles. The former provided a deep well of original ideas and possibilities, while the latter offered a means to refine and formalize these possibilities into teachable and replicable models.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“This background also provided the foundation and inspiration for the remarkable recovery of my mother from metastatic breast cancer in 1982 and was the basis for my book Beliefs: Pathways to Health and Well-Being.17”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“next book, Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, M.D.10 Like Satir and Bateson, Erickson found the work impressive.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Grinder’s Whispering in the Wind.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“Steps to an Ecology of Mind.7 Bateson”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“But a second, equally prominent, emphasis of the early days was learning to navigate without fixed maps; that is, to learn at an unconscious level. As I soon discovered in doing trance work, a hypnotic induction is a set of communications that de-frames or dissolves fixed maps, thereby allowing new experiences unhindered by the map bias.”
― John Grinder, The Origins Of Neuro Linguistic Programming

“The only justification for the application of NLP patterns is the creation of choice and precisely in the context in which choice presently does not exist.”
― John Grinder