Michelle McKinney Hammond > Quotes

“No matter how long you have been waiting, the man God has for you will surpass your expectations. You will meet him when god says so. Not a minute early, not a moment later.”
― Michelle McKinney-Hammond

“So be willing to wait. Only embrace a man who has a heart for God's purposes for his life and God's heart for you. Keep hope alive!”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What to Do Until Love Finds You: The Bestselling Guide to Preparing Yourself for Your Perfect Mate

“I had struggled so hard and so long that I had simply exhausted myself, only to find that God had all the time in the world to wait for me to allow Him to free me.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond

“Do not assume a role you have not been given. In other words, don't do the things a wife does until you are a wife. Be a friend until he carries you over the threshold.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond

“Don’t let the pressures around you make you settle for anything less than God’s will for your life.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What to Do Until Love Finds You

“Embrace life for all its worth. Drink in God's wisdom, and savor all the experiences He offers you.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What to Do Until Love Finds You: The Bestselling Guide to Preparing Yourself for Your Perfect Mate

“So learn how much you're worth to God. Revel in that information and then walk in it.”
― Michelle McKinney-Hammond

“While you wait for your godly man, you should maintain the posture of a well-kept woman [...] The person should add to, not take away from, your life. You maintain who you are and allow God to be picky for you.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“[...]patience is the weapon that forces deception to reveal itself. It is the insurance against being deceived or making wrong decisions. Some things can only be made known by waiting. God takes his time.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“Chew on this: the man who truly loves you will be willing to pay the price for you, like the merchant “who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it” (Matthew 13:46 KJV). He’ll sell worldly ideas about sex before marriage, other women he’s kept on reserve…you name it, he’ll get rid of it, in order to be in position to win you! Jesus paid the price to redeem you. How much more should a mortal man be willing to pay to possess your love?”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart

“God knows both your name and address. When the right man comes along God will lead him to your door. And that man will recognize your name.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“A man who really wants you will do whatever he must to possess your love. So set a standard.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“Realize that maturity does not come with age but with acceptance of responsibility.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“Unforgiveness is a prison. It slams the door on new beginnings and entrenches you in your present pain. It chains the heart and stops it from beating. It suffocates joy and paralyzes your ability to move on. Unforgiveness is the cancer of the soul. It slowly eats away the marrow of your existence and impairs your judgment, your personality and your ability to love again.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Release the Pain, Embrace the Joy

“How would you score yourself on a scale from one to ten, with one being in great shape, in the following areas?     • spiritually    ____     • emotionally ____     • physically   ____     • financially   ____     • relationally ____”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, A Woman's Gotta Do What a Woman's Gotta Do: Wisdom for Taking Control of Your Life

“Do something every day to change your attitude—instead of trying to think your way into right acting, act your way into right thinking. Act the person you want to be, and gradually that's the person you will become.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Release the Pain, Embrace the Joy

“Happiness is part of being whole. It means having an understanding of your identity and purpose, an established feeling of acceptance and value, and a sense of destiny, joy, and peace -- all of which produce overall well-being. It is impossible to be consistently happy without these characteristics. All people need to know who they are, why they are here, and to whom they belong. Having an understanding of who we are in Christ is foundational to the belief system that allows us to possess these qualities. The Bible says in Romans 14:17 that the kingdom of God is righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. You find in this passage all these characteristics that grow out of being in right relationship with God. His presence is always accompanied by peace and joy; in other words, a sense of total well-being.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“He uses every experience to perfect us into greater vessels bearing fruit for his glory.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Release the Pain, Embrace the Joy

“lack of affirmation from the men in our lives can make us die inside quietly, unable to feel, to respond, to even voice our pain.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Release the Pain, Embrace the Joy

“So often women enter into love covenants with those who come disguised as Mr. Right. Like the men of Israel who never took the time to look beyond the surface, some women hear words and romantic gestures and take them at face value, without inquiring of the Lord.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Release the Pain, Embrace the Joy

“You've got two witnesses here. Happiness is a wholeness issue. If you want to be happy, you need to be whole. If you want to be married, you simply need a mate. If you want to be happily married, you need to be a whole person married to another whole person.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You

“You are priceless— fearfully and wonderfully made. God shaped and modeled you in your mother's womb. God created you in his own image. You were created, redeemed, and are deeply loved and valued by God. Therefore, the man who wants to be involved with you should have to count the cost.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond

“Sin is when you aim for the mark (righteousness) and miss it; transgression is when you acknowledge the mark but choose to do your own thing anyway.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, How to Be Blessed and Highly Favored

“God’s questions are often designed not to extract answers but to provoke thought.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love

“being involved with you requires a high cost, you will be able to sift the wrong people out of your life.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love

“Life is a party you create; don’t wait to be invited to one. I’m sure if we were on an episode of Family Feud with the question things singles are guilty of, we would hear the host happily quip, 'Survey says … They put their lives on hold!'

Even I have to put up a guilty finger on this one. Thank heaven this season of my life is over and I finally got a clue. The only thing that should be reserved for marriage is sex (but we’ll talk about that later). Otherwise, it’s time to let the games begin. Stop waiting for someone else to make your life happen. There is an endless world of possibilities for pleasure and fulfilling living at your fingertips. Fortunately, as a single person all your resources are yours to invest into living the life you want without having to check with anyone else. This makes for options and opportunities that are sure to be the envy of your married friends. There is no time like the present to enjoy what you might not be able to do tomorrow because of different priorities.

What does a no-holds-barred life look like? It’s downright exciting. I repeatedly tell people I meet to finish this statement: 'I’ve always wanted to _______________.' Well, what’s stopping you? Certainly your excuse should not be 'Because I have no man.' Until that blessed addition to your life shows up to claim you, your life should be full of fulfilling activities and amazing experiences that broaden you intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually as a person. In other words, get a life. Get one that will make you interesting and intriguing to others. A well-lived life full of passion and interests is like a magnet. It will draw other exciting people to you. So go ahead and mix it up.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond

“I’m sure Camille (the present Mrs. Cosby) would like to thank that woman.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love

“Many women have married primarily for money and found themselves miserable. No amount of trinkets and possessions can fill a heart”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love

“Mothers used to instruct their daughters, “This one has potential. If you work with this one, you’ll have a winner on your hands.” Well, that certainly doesn’t happen anymore! Women today want their men to arrive camera-ready! But who said you were perfect? Don’t think about changing or rearranging him. Concentrate on inspiring him and empowering him to rise up and be all that God has ordained him to be. Some women I know have initially passed right by their [future] husbands because he wasn’t perfectly polished. You don’t think all these successful men in the world started off that way, do you? Of course not! They climbed and climbed until they reached their goal. And most likely some woman was right there beside him all the way. Now those women get to reap the rewards. And that reward is so much greater if he’s a man of God.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, Secrets of an Irresistible Woman: Smart Rules for Capturing His Heart

“when love is real, the cost doesn’t seem high. A man who really wants you will do whatever he must to possess your love. So set a standard.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond, What Women Don't Know (and Men Don't Tell You): The Unspoken Rules of Finding Lasting Love