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“Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you.”
― Julie Starr, The Mentoring Manual: Your step by step guide to being a better mentor

“Accepting and embracing something does not mean that we don’t try to change things, just that we don’t waste emotional energy resisting ‘what is’. This then frees up our energy to focus on a more resourceful response.”
― Julie Starr, The Mentoring Manual: Your step by step guide to being a better mentor

“Women deserve to be loved properly. A lack of lovingness, protection, caring, connection, empathy and understanding are all part of a relationship with a man who wants to leave. He isn’t there. Neglect is neglect. Why would you want this for the rest of your life?”
― Julie Starr, Your Husband Left. Now What?!: How to Be Your Own Hero and Live Your Better Life After Divorce

“The mentor is engaged in the potential of the mentee to progress and be successful, and will often feel a sense of benevolence towards them. However, the mentor’s role must remain unattached to a specific agenda or results, as ultimate responsibility for learning, progress and outcomes rests with the mentee.”
― Julie Starr, The Mentoring Manual: Your step by step guide to being a better mentor

“Make sure your spousal and child support are covered by his insurance in case of death or injury.”
― Julie Starr, Your Husband Left. Now What?!: How to Be Your Own Hero and Live Your Better Life After Divorce

“The primary abilities that directly support successful mentoring relationships are:

Connect through effective listening. Build a relationship of engagement and trust.
Maintain an effective focus.
Help overcome false limits, roadblocks or barriers to progress.
Help someone grow.

You might be aware of other tendencies that support effective mentors, such as maintaining a positive outlook, or to regard everyone as having potential. I view these as secondary to the list above, as they are more general abilities.”
― Julie Starr, The Mentoring Manual

“Again, as we reduce resistance, we increase acceptance, which helps us stay constructive.”
― Julie Starr, The Mentoring Manual

“Here are some other affirmations to play with: This is my life. I am in control. I deal with what I have to deal with and disengage from the ugliness. I honour myself and my pace. I am moving through this. I know my knowing. I am gentle with myself. I embrace the opportunity within this. I follow through. I turn every situation into an opportunity. Life is simple and easy. (say it even in the darkness) I am heard. I am strong. The right support always comes. I bring great energy to all experiences. I self protect. I refuse to be intimidated. I live in the present moment. I self-manage well. I let go and let G-d. I perceive the good and am guided to where I need to go. I’m financially aware and responsible. I leave room for miracles. I am centered and grounded within the storm.”
― Julie Starr, Your Husband Left. Now What?!: How to Be Your Own Hero and Live Your Better Life After Divorce

“The relationship is based on equality, which builds openness and trust. The coach does not claim to have all the answers and the coachee feels their contribution is worthwhile. Solutions are developed from the understanding of the person experiencing the situation, so they are normally of much greater relevance and effectiveness.”
― Julie Starr, The Coaching Manual PDF eBook

“How do we let go of judgement? Unless we spend years gaining the enlightenment of a Buddhist master, we have to accept a lifelong journey with this one. It's part of our human condition to judge others, but the trick is to notice when you're doing it, and stop.”
― Julie Starr, The Coaching Manual PDF eBook