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“When you go into the heart—not the body’s heart, but the heart deep within your soul—you’ll accept that things truly are as they should be, and you are not alone.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“A man cannot offer what he does not have! If a man fills his heart with hatred, he can offer hatred; if he fills his heart with kindness, he can offer kindness.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“When we judge someone, we don’t see them for who they are. We see them as we’ve imagined them through our lens of judgment. It’s a false image of who they really are, and if we only look for the bad in someone, that’s what we’re likely to find.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“As their angels, we can help guide them by giving them signs, insights, and intuitions, but ultimately, it’s their decision what they do with that information. They can choose to heed the calling—advice we give them—or not. But whatever situation they’re facing, trying and falling short is far better than not trying at all, because either way, their actions or inactions reveal their motives—their intentions—which, of course, they’ll review after they cross over.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Like a raindrop making its way from a cloud to a stream to a river and finally becoming one with the ocean. Our souls remain singular and, at the same time, become one with the sea of energy of all that was, is, and ever will be—we’re part of the whole.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Many things—especially the nonphysical—can’t be measured or understood through science. Take the unseen forces of guilt and shame. You can’t measure them, but they can drive people to destruction. The same is true about love. You can’t put your finger on it, but it can cause people to move mountains.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“It takes humility and courage—two of life’s great lessons—to admit one’s mistakes and correct them.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Some ancient Egyptians slept in special rooms designed for the purpose of receiving divine revelations in their dreams from a deceased relative. Many visions received in dreams are also recorded in the Bible, especially in the books of Genesis, Kings, Daniel, Acts, Numbers, Job, and Matthew. And many Native Americans believe they receive visions from their ancestors in their dreams. There are countless other examples of ancestors communicating with their loved ones in this way throughout history. It worked for all of them. . . . It might work for you.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“If energy were a liquid, it would pour from this jar and ripple through four-dimensional space-time—the three dimensions of space plus time—which of course won’t happen, since it’s not a liquid. However, since energy does follow a person’s intentions, their actions do ripple through space-time. Therefore, it’s best to be mindful of our actions, as they have a big impact on others.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Understanding leads to forgiveness, and forgiveness frees you from harboring contempt for others.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“She’s entered a dark place, and you must try to guide her through it,” Shane said. “On the mountain, your mom was facing physical danger, but now she’s facing relentless sorrow—a formidable opponent for even the strongest individuals. This is a defining point in your mom’s life. Either this situation will force her to find the wisdom she seeks, or she’ll fall prey to the darkness.”
“That’s why before I crossed over, I left my mom a message in my journal: Everything is a gift, even pain, and with these gifts, we pursue knowledge and eradicate hate. I knew she’d be facing this nightmarish journey, and I hoped it would help give her the strength to overcome the challenges,” Isaac said. “It seems counterintuitive, but sometimes pain can lead people to surprising gifts. I learned this from being a special needs kid. When you’re ridiculed for your disabilities, it causes one to do a lot of soul searching. Physical pain is a warning sign to help prevent someone from injuring themselves, whereas emotional pain can force people out of their comfort zones and cause them to reevaluate their perspectives on issues they’re struggling with. In doing so, they can find valuable insights, clarity of mind, and wisdom. In this way, pain is a bridge to obtaining those gifts. When people are content, they have little reason to reevaluate their perspectives. As a result, they’re less likely to find the priceless gifts that are theirs for the taking. Although this concept is challenging, especially when we’re in the eye of the storm, sometimes we learn the most from difficult journeys. . . . It’s easier to appreciate once the storm has passed, but you already know this.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Charlie felt a sense of cautious hope. Perhaps there was something to what all these great minds were saying. Maybe what they said was true.
Maybe she’d find Isaac along her path again, in some other “now” moment in nonlinear time.”
― Charlie Bynar

“It’s easy to throw judgment at someone who’s struggling down a difficult path, but walking that road is altogether a different thing.”
― Charlie Bynar

“I N THE WAKE OF THE STORM, I sat at my kitchen table, drinking coffee, trying to make sense of everything that had happened. One minute, I was remembering my cat, Schmiggs, sitting on the kitchen table. Black saucers filled his green eyes as he craned his neck, clearly looking at something—someone—down the hall that I couldn’t see.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“What Mrs. Wilson failed to understand was that the silver lining she offered was not the life buoy she intended it to be. Her words were rather like asking a drowning man if he wanted a ham and cheese sandwich—it was the last thing a drowning man needed.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“You know, the ego is very insecure. . . . It uses judgment as armor to protect itself. The ego judges others to shield itself from its own insecurities, which are based on fear. The ego, needing to be special, feeds on constant approval and needs enemies in order to be superior—it raises itself up by putting others down. . . . In other words, by judging others,” Ethel explained, gathering the ingredients for piecrust. “People have a never-ending fear-based dialogue with their egos, which is a source of much unhappiness. They’re afraid of not being good enough, being wrong, not being in control, losing their possessions, being shamed, being judged, not being smart enough, being ugly, being rejected, being destitute, being old and alone. And ultimately, they’re afraid of dying.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“One of my exit points could have been then, but I couldn’t do that to my mom, so I lived on borrowed time as long as I could for her sake. But by the time I was sixteen, my time was running out, and honestly, I was ready to go because my life was very difficult,” Isaac said. “Still, I was very worried about my mom.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“That’s it!” Charlie said, pausing the audiobook. “I knew there was something in this book I needed to remember. Billy Pilgrim is saying that the most important thing he learned is that it only appears that we’re dead at the time of our death and that all moments—past, present, and future—have always existed. He says that it’s only an illusion ‘that one moment follows another one, like beads on a string.’ What he’s saying is that even though the moments in our lives pass, they still exist and always will.”
Charlie continued, “It reminds me of what Robert Lanza said in Biocentrism—that death is an illusion, and there are an infinite number of ‘now’ moments in a person’s life that are not arranged in a linear fashion. What if those ‘now’ moments are like the still frames of a stop-motion picture—they only appear to be moving because they’re played rapidly in sequence, but the individual frames are inanimate? Then, the individual frames—the ‘now’ moments in someone’s life— are like the individual beads on a string, separated only by the smallest unit of length, the Planck length. If you removed the string, the individual beads—all the ‘now’ moments in a person’s life—would float around the person like bubbles in the air but remain connected to that person through quantum entanglement.”
Chris listened intently.
“If that were the case,” Charlie said, “then one of our bubbles—one of our ‘now’ moments—would be us driving in this car right now, and another bubble would be when you, Isaac, and I were hiking to the teahouse in Canada, and still another bubble would be the moment Isaac died. If you remember, Robert Lanza said that our bodies die at the moment we call death, but our consciousness only moves from one ‘now’ moment to another. What Kurt Vonnegut is saying is similar . . . that a person is in bad shape at the time of death, but he’s perfectly fine in so many other moments. They’re both saying death is not the end— that there are an infinite number of ‘now’ moments in a person’s life.”
“I remember you telling me that Allison said time was different on the other side,” Chris added. “I wonder if our bubbles that surround us, our ‘now’ moments—the past, present, and future—which all exist simultaneously and forever, would explain why mediums can see into the past and future. Those ‘now’ moments would be no further away from us than the present.”
“Good point!” Charlie said. “I didn’t think of that. Apparently, Robert Lanza, Allison, and Kurt Vonnegut are saying similar things, but from very different angles.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Since the living have free will, playing marionette-master has its limitations. They can choose to heed the calling, put it off, or dismiss it altogether.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Sometimes people wait their entire life to find the courage to ask for forgiveness, but it’s never too late. Doing so helps us resolve our guilt toward the person we hurt, and it also helps resolve our misgivings toward those who hurt us. If we do that, the misgivings and guilt won’t follow us when we cross over,” Shane said. “And forgiving ourselves makes it easier to forgive others because when we refuse to forgive ourselves, we also refuse to forgive others—it’s two sides of the same coin.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“One of the reasons people sleep is to contact people on the other side.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I’m glad he asked for forgiveness before he passed. It seems there are two sides to that coin: asking for forgiveness and forgiving someone who has wronged you. And even though our dad waited until he was on his deathbed before asking to be forgiven for the terrible things he did to us when we were growing up, I was grateful he acknowledged his trespasses. It allowed me to let go of my hate and forgive him. Like weeds, hate is easy to grow and difficult to get rid of, and it’s also a heavy burden to carry. Until I let it go, I didn’t realize how holding on to my hate had weighed me down and caused me great suffering.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“When you have a gut feeling about something, don’t dismiss it. The first thirty seconds is your intuition, but then your rational brain kicks in and tries to override it. You must try to remember this and trust your gut feeling—your intuition.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“All we need to worry about is reining our own horse, knowing others will be responsible if they find themselves waist-high in cockleburs. You can’t make people do the right thing. Sometimes, they need to get caught up in the cockleburs to learn their lessons.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“It may seem impossible to forgive him for these hideous crimes, but it’s easier if we separate the criminal and the crime. We can forgive the criminal and still hold him accountable for his crime.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“Just as we want to be forgiven for our errors, we need to forgive others for theirs—we’re more than the sum of our mistakes.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“The woman pushed her toddler in a stroller as her young daughter, dressed in a red-and-white checkered dress, ran ahead to the mailboxes. Her ponytail, tied with a red ribbon, swayed from side to side. The young woman put her mail in the stroller’s pocket, then turned around and headed back the way they’d come. They looked so lovely that it made Charlie feel sad.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“First, and most importantly, a person must recognize their opponents: ego, fear, and judgment. Otherwise, those opponents remain in control. But once a person is aware of their opponents, they can disengage and step aside. Simply acknowledging these behaviors sets them off-balance and facilitates their fall.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side

“I understand that forgiveness is a virtuous quality, but you might as well be asking me to cross a great chasm without a bridge. I need a way to reach the land of forgiveness—a bridge across the chasm of bitterness and hate.”
― Charlie Bynar

“People prefer finite ideas. They’re easier to understand, and having all the loose ends nicely wrapped up makes people feel more comfortable . . . more in control. Certain. It makes them feel less vulnerable to the unknown. The infinite, on the other hand, makes them more likely to tie themselves into knots, trying to define that which cannot be defined rather than accept an unknown. Still, energy, space, and time aren’t finite; they’re infinite. They can’t be wrapped up nicely in a box.”
― Charlie Bynar, Through the Darkness: A Story of Love from the Other Side