Kate Northrup > Quotes

“Somewhere along the way we've gotten the message that the more we struggle and the more we suffer, the more valuable we will become and the more successful we'll eventually be. And so we overwork ourselves, overschedule ourselves, and become "busier than thou" because we think there's some sort of prize on the other side of the pain we cause ourselves. And you know what? There's no prize. All you get from suffering is more suffering.”
― Kate Northrup, Money, A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“our power in any moment lies in our ability to get into agreement with what’s happening—to fall in love with your story. The more we push up against something, the more we find it wrong, and the more we wish it were different, the more powerless we are to create the reality that we desire. Conversely,”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“Dedicating time to care for yourself shows you that you are worth caring for. You are worth working for. You are worth loving, and when you realize this, you are able to give more value, which in turn brings more value into your life. So,”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“Trying to control everyone and everything around us is not only impossible, it's exhausting and will cause you unnecessary pain.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: The Unexpected Strategy for Women to Get More of What They Want in Work and Life

“If you really wanted it you would figure out a way to get it. If it were that VALUABLE to you, you would make it happen. So it’s not that you can’t afford it. It’s just that you don’t value it enough to do what it would take to get it.”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“When we sacrifice our own well-being in the hopes that our sacrifice will help someone else, we just get two people who are living sub-optimal lives. Here's the truth: Getting sick does not help those who are suffering of illness. Being sad does nothing to pull someone out of their own depression. And being hungry doesn't feed the starving. The universe simply doesn't work that way.”
― Kate Northrup, Money, A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“and do less. This morning, Penelope wanted to hold my hand as I was making coffee and making oatmeal. In the mornings, I find myself wanting to rush through the routine and get her fed and dressed and myself fed and dressed and everyone”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“Yeah,” my brilliant sister said, “and when you look at a day as a circle it’s so relaxing because as the day goes on you’re always moving back toward the beginning of a new day instead of running out of time in the day you’re currently in.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: The Unexpected Strategy for Women to Get More of What They Want in Work and Life

“Any relationship worth having is worth deepening by taking regular, loving actions.”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“Before you start feeling bad about yourself for your debt, this would be a good moment to remind yourself that money doesn't exist--it's just a system of value exchange. That's it. Pure and simple. So, if you have debt, you've received value and you've not given the equivalent value back to the particular party in the exchange yet. That's all it means. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean you're a screwup. You're not hopeless. You're not a mess. You simply have more value to give.”
― Kate Northrup, Money, A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“are worthy of being met, you’ll have trouble attracting help and certainly trouble receiving it when it shows up. So how do you break the cycle and start feeling worthy of support so you can call it in and embrace it when it shows up? I’d start with having a dialogue with yourself in a journal or meditation, or simply on a walk, about what makes you feel like you’re not worthy of support. How did your mother express her needs? Was it directly, passive-aggressively, or not at all? How did you witness her getting her needs met? Through direct, kind communication, through having breakdowns, through manipulation, or some other way? What happened in your family growing up when you asked for a need to be met or you asked for help? What kind of response did you get? Answering these kinds of questions will start to shed some light on your blueprint around receiving”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“Give it a go and you’ll be amazed by the spaciousness and support you attract by bringing these questions to the forefront every day! How to Receive: You Are Worthy Once you start opening your eyes to it, you’ll start to see that there’s help available for you all over the darn place. Women who feel unworthy of getting their needs met (or even having needs in the first place) or who are cranky from years of not getting their needs met tend to be blind to the help that’s all around them. They don’t expect help, so they don’t see help. We tend to get what we expect and we tend to get what we think we’re worthy of.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“It’s true that our relationships with ourselves and others are important and need to be tended. However, I find that life works way better when I prioritize my connection with the man with whom I’ve chosen to create a home.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“At the end of each day for a month, make a list of the activities you did that day.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“When you’re tired and have put no focus on yourself, the value you give isn’t that valuable. And that means that value doesn’t come back to you.”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“receive is to fully accept compliments. Deflecting compliments is a really insidious way of devaluing yourself, and it’s unfortunately common. The next time someone tells you how beautiful you look or what a great job you did during the presentation, simply smile and say, “Thank you!” Then remain silent. It will feel uncomfortable. Do it anyway. You’ll want to tell them how much weight you’ve gained or how cheap the dress was or how nervous you were during the presentation or how you forgot an entire section. But what those things communicate is: “Actually, you’re wrong. I don’t look beautiful and I didn’t do that well on the presentation and I don’t feel worthy of your attention right now.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“simply looking at time as a circle instead of a line made their bodies instantly relax and made them feel suddenly like there was enough time.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: The Unexpected Strategy for Women to Get More of What They Want in Work and Life

“When we own more of our time, we feel like we’re in charge of our lives and our schedules, which makes us happier and, ultimately, better at what we do. Our health and happiness also increases in the course of our lifetimes and, with it, our value to the workplace and to society as a whole.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“Adding more to our lives complicates them. Complications lead to logistical wrangling that takes a lot of time and energy that then can’t be invested in the things that lead to the most joy and satisfaction.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“When we begin to perceive our bodies, our energy, and time as cyclical instead of linear, we not only feel relaxed on a cellular level in a way most of us have never experienced, we also begin to pick up momentum without having to struggle.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: The Unexpected Strategy for Women to Get More of What They Want in Work and Life

“Putting our attention on what we want rather than what we don’t want is not only incredibly powerful from a manifesting and law of attraction standpoint, it’s also incredibly powerful when making requests of others in our lives.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“lead or no one else will step up. Just see what happens if you practice leaning back just a little bit more than you usually might—literally leaning back with your body—to experiment with how that shifts the dynamic. You might be surprised by how your simple energetic shift invites other people to step up and do more than they might usually do. Finally, noticing the things you’re receiving on a daily basis is a wonderful way to increase your capacity to receive. Just like digesting our food in our stomach and intestines is a great way to create more space for nourishment to come in, acknowledging the things we’ve already received is a great way to create space to receive more.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“The more we beat ourselves up and curl up into a little ball and stop shining our valuable light, the less we’ll have. Because money is simply energy and we’ve made it up and have the ability to make more of it anytime we want (and I do mean literally—the government prints more all the time), there’s plenty of it to go around. Now, are we dealing with a situation”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“The Universe has a divine plan”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“when you look at a day as a circle it’s so relaxing because as the day goes on you’re always moving back toward the beginning of a new day instead of running out of time in the day you’re currently in.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“A lot of great research suggesting that doing less and taking lots of breaks is not only good for you but also for productivity, profitability, and humanity in general.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms

“If you can’t see your value, the world doesn’t give value back.”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“I now love myself by living abundantly and joyfully within my means.”
― Kate Northrup, Money: A Love Story: Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want

“usually actually happens. It’s a freaking miracle. I can honestly say that about 80 percent of the time these days I actually cross off every item on my weekly to-do list. What this tells me is not that I’m somehow cramming a ton into my day and winning at productivity. What this tells me is that I’ve finally gotten good at knowing what I can do in a week and, most important, knowing what to leave off the list. If you want to feel instantly saner, make a weekly to-do list instead of a daily one. You’re welcome.”
― Kate Northrup, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms