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“In Christian circles, it is common for the husband to assume that his personal call is the priority in the marriage, and to simply fold his wife’s energy and abilities into that pursuit, instead of making it a priority to pursue her heart and draw out her unique destiny.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, A Leader's Life Purpose Workbook: Calling and Destiny Discovery Tools for Christian Life Coaching

“questions hold the power to cause us to think, create answers we believe in, and motivate us to act on our ideas. Asking moves us beyond passive acceptance of what others say, or staying stuck in present circumstances, to aggressively applying our creative ability to the problem.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Coaching Questions: A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills

“Listening is one of the most powerful, compelling ways to say, “You are a great person—I have confidence in you!”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills and Heart of a Christian Coach

“Ministry flows out of being: who you are is what you have to give.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills and Heart of a Christian Coach

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick” (Prov. 13:12). And I’ve coached some heartsick spouses over the years. They’ve deferred, served and sacrificed for decades to advance their spouse’s call, but haven’t been loved in that same way in return, and there is a hole in their hearts that aches for their husband to pursue them and their life purpose the way he pursues his own. Ignoring your partner’s purpose is something that can blow apart a marriage later in life.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, A Leader's Life Purpose Workbook: Calling and Destiny Discovery Tools for Christian Life Coaching

“At its heart, leadership coaching is about helping people solve their own problems, not telling them what to do.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills and Heart of a Christian Coach

“I have to become deeply convinced of God’s affection towards me—deep in my heart, not just my head—because I have experienced him saying he loves me over and over again, particularly in my broken places. I need to encounter love to the point that I feel free to abandon using self-discipline to give me the sense of being good enough or worthy of the”
― Tony Stoltzfus, The Invitation: Transforming the Heart through Desire Fulfilled

“Asking Develops Leadership Capacity Leadership is the ability to take responsibility. A leader is someone who sees a problem, and says, "Hey—someone needs to do something about this! And I'm going to be that someone." Simply asking, "What could you do about that?" moves people away from depending on you for answers, and toward taking leadership in the situation. Asking builds the responsibility muscle, and that develops leaders.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Coaching Questions: A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills

“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Christian Life Coaching Handbook : Calling and Destiny Discovery Tools for Christian Life Coaching

“Asking Creates Authenticity We all want to be”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Coaching Questions: A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills

“Being motivated to make a change is more important than knowing what change to make.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills and Heart of a Christian Coach

“He who restrains his words has knowledge, And he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; When he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” Proverbs 17:27-28”
― Tony Stoltzfus, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills and Heart of a Christian Coach

“We are part of a God-initiated, life-long process that leverages everything—our failings and brokenness as well as our best moments—to build us into who we were born to be.”
― Tony Stoltzfus, The Invitation: Transforming the Heart through Desire Fulfilled