Rochelle B. Weinstein > Quotes

“In each loss there is a gain, As in every gain there is a loss, And with each ending comes a new beginning. —Buddhist Proverb”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“It is never too late To overcome despair, To turn sorrow into resolve And pain into purpose. It is never too late to alter my world, Not by magical incantations Or manipulations of the cards Or deciphering the stars. But by opening myself To curative forces buried within, To hidden energies The powers in my interior self. In sickness and in dying, it is never too late Living, I teach, Dying, I teach, How I face pain and fear, Others observe me, children, adults, Students of life and death, Learn from my bearing, my posture, My philosophy.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, The Mourning After

“Bad things happen to good people, Zoe. It doesn’t mean you’re bad. It means the universe found a warrior in you. It chose carefully. It’s up to you how to move forward. You can choose to be the victim, or you can choose to be the warrior.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, Somebody's Daughter

“Life throws shit at all of us, and it’s how we deal with it that defines who we are.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“No matter how hard you try, no matter the level of wishful thinking, there are some things that are beyond our control.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, Somebody's Daughter

“May you find the person who lights a fire in your soul and makes you want to be a better man. May you understand the sacrifices and compromises that make love complete. May you feel the pain of another, so much so that you learn true empathy and how to share it with others. May you hurt, may you laugh, may you cry, may you understand the rare beauty of giving your heart to another, the joy of sharing life with someone who is always by your side. It will make you physically ache, deliriously happy, but it will be worth every emotion.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“Abandonment leaves a painful mark. It inks you for life, if you let it, making you believe you’re not worthy, leaving you distrustful of wishes and dreams, when they only disappoint.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“When life throws a curveball, you have a decision. You can go on being angry and empty, or you can move toward peace. It’s living or dying. Choose the path that makes you feel alive.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“mother’s job is to teach her children not to need her anymore. The hardest part of that job is accepting success”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, Somebody's Daughter

“You don’t always have to physically go somewhere to experience something magical.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“People can surprise you, though most of them won't. Love is the precursor to hate.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind is part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another. -Anatole France”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“Forgiveness is the greatest act of love you can give another human being.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“When you meet someone, remember they’re afraid of something, they love something, they’ve lost something, and they’re dreaming of something.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, The Mourning After

“I've heard it said that life is about choices. Paths stretch out ahead of us- sometimes, we make conscious decisions and other times, fate intervenes and chooses for us.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“Sometimes it’s better to let someone or something go. Release yourself from old wounds, and you will find that anything is possible and is very well within your reach.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“I would have liked to have held her again. If I did, she would feel all the reasons I gave her up. She’d know how much I loved her, and how I would still do just about anything to save her.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“She said that when we argue with people, sometimes we get so stuck in our own heads, we can’t be objective in our responses. She recommended that I take a deep breath and consider where the other person was coming from,”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“To see the adult version of their little girl had to be startling. Ari never resembled me as closely as this precious child did. “She’s beautiful,” I spoke, feeling the tightness in my throat. “She looks like you.” “Thank you, but I was never as pretty as she is.” “She’s a terrific kid,” she said. “You’d be very proud of her.” “You’re the one that should be proud.” “We are.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“There are people who spend years behind bars for unspeakable crimes, their physical constraints visible. Others commit sins, and although not punishable by law, their sentences are as confining as those in jail. The burden of my sins was condemning me, emotional constraint was my punishment. The lie that had sprouted out of love had turned into something that I realized might destroy an innocent child, a decent marriage, a good man. These were the nooses I carried around with me.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“Some people were put on this earth to do good, to be good. Liberty literally saved people. I think God had preserved her as a way of saying thanks.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“Happiness wasn’t overrated. It was a gift meant to be cherished and held tight.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“We don’t always leave someone we love, or forget them, or get over them all at once. Every time they hurt us and every time we cry, we’re saying a partial good-bye until the person is eventually gone. Believe me, I’m much better off now.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“I was changing, but I thought we would change together. So how could I be upset with him for being who he always was?”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“He stood up, and the pull toward him caught me at once. I wished I were imagining it. I wished the space that surrounded him didn't call out to me like a palm against my skin.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“Maybe there are people in the world who are meant to be alone. Maybe they touch lives for brief moments, intermittent connections with long-lasting effects. Maybe we’re meant to learn from goodbyes. Or maybe not. Maybe it’s all a bunch of nonsense that sounds good in theory but rips you apart, leaving everything broken.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends

“Feelings are as real as actions, and their consequences can be just as dangerous”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“Emma dear, a mother’s job is to teach her children not to need her anymore. The hardest part of that job is accepting success.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, Somebody's Daughter

“Looking for answers distorts the truth,” I said. “It tricks you into believing you have some control over the situation. We’ll never be able to understand why bad things happen to good people, so don’t do this to yourself, Mrs. Sammler. Don’t punish yourself for things that are beyond your control.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, What We Leave Behind

“Forgiveness is the greatest act of love you can give another human being. With forgiveness comes the ability to fully love—yourself and others. And when I say love, I mean all that comes with it.”
― Rochelle B. Weinstein, This Is Not How It Ends