Peter W. Murphy > Quotes

“If you don’t want to change, how are you going to handle living with this limitation for the rest of your life?”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Liking yourself is far more important than having other people like you, fortunately, if you like yourself, you are more likely to have people like you.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“You either do great or you learn something that helps you become great.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Spending time with people who like you and care about you is essential for your well being while meeting like minded people keeps you connected to all the joy, variety and wonder of life. Life is richer, brighter and more colorful with great people to share the journey.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“The key is to share a little about who you are and what you enjoy, nothing too personal, just enough to help everyone in the conversation to establish common interests and experiences that can become the basis of an engaging conversation.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Always look for what you have in common when you meet people and always be on the lookout for common goals, concerns or worries.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“restaurant you are paying for the environment and the meeting place not just the food and drink. You are socializing where there is the possibility of meeting new people and you're making it a special occasion, in fact, you're celebrating the friendships that give you support, companionship and enjoyment. The same applies when you spend money to play sport or to be active in any kind of social club. The real fun and benefit is the friendly environment and opportunity to meet friends and to make new friends. The expenses associated with the activity are incidental. Think about it, a few weeks later, after a great night out with friends, do you even remember what you ate and drank? Of course not but you do remember how much fun you had and you can't wait to do it again. Do you place a low value on spending money to socialize? Does it seem wasteful to eat out or even to go out for coffee when it's much cheaper to do it yourself at home? Is it worth it to spend the money and go out a little more if it means you make new friends and get to have fun with the people already in your life?   2. Lack of Purpose In the context of making conversation a lack of purpose can cause you to be indecisive about what to say and unable to take control of the interaction. There are a number of related issues we need to look at.  ”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“strategies presented here are a starting point, you’ll need to adjust your application of the individual tips to the context and people you are dealing with. Some flexibility on your part is essential.   Take it a step at a time, aim to improve just a little each day, use these strategies often and make a commitment to ongoing learning with the free resources mentioned in the next section. Before long you’ll be one of those”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Very often shy people assume others do not want to talk to them or that they will be criticized when they share their thoughts and feelings. In other words shy people often paint such a negative picture of others that it becomes almost impossible to approach anyone.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Is it worth it to spend the money and go out a little more if it means you make new friends and get to have fun with the people already in your life?”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“They think too much about what to say and how to say it when the real goal is to get to know someone or get to know someone better. The conversation is a means to an end not the end itself.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Another common issue that arises with a passive approach to meeting people is that you spend your life waiting and hoping instead of doing what you'd really like to be doing. This is a very limited experience of life, you stop asking yourself what you want and simply wait to see what shows up.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Whenever showing people you like them it's important to look like you are friendly. Appearing friendly can”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“However they don't write off everyone because they occasionally bump into some difficult people.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“A timid lifestyle often starts in an innocent way, you say no to an invitation to a party, you're too busy to attend a gathering and before long you rarely get invited anywhere but not because people don't like you but because they see that you're reluctant to meet people and you prefer to avoid crowds.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Professionals are known for putting the time in when it comes to preparation, a dancer will practice for months for a two hour performance, an actor will memorize lines and rehearse for months before appearing on stage. When you see the stars perform in front of the camera it looks like magic, they are so talented, they just turn up and dazzle everyone with their performance. What you don't see is the dedication to practice and the dedication to extensive and comprehensive preparation before a big event.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“The key is to look for emotional issues, strongly desired goals or highly charged problems. When you find those by listening carefully and pointing out your similar experiences and feelings about the issue it can create a deep connection with the other person. This can bring up intense feelings so if you want to maintain a more low key and relaxed interaction pay more attention to issues that have less emotional involvement.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“This is a key issue for people who get nervous about meeting new people and wonder about what to say. They think too much about what to say and how to say it when the real goal is to get to know someone or get to know someone better. The conversation is a means to an end not the end itself.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“A better way to look at meeting people is to look for matches, that is to look for people you have something in common with instead of wanting to be liked by everyone.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“quiet people get less practice meeting people and often turn up unprepared to discuss a wide range of topic with the people they do end up talking to. And this is why I stressed the importance earlier of taking a different view of what a conversation is about - making conversation with someone you don't know is all about discovering if this person is a good match, a potential long term friend. With this in mind you need to prepare for conversation before the social event rather than hoping to wing it when you're tense and nervous at the gathering.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Life is richer, brighter and more colorful with great people to share the journey.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“know exactly what you want to achieve in the conversation: that singular focus changes everything.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Do you avoid social functions because it’s just one evening you're missing? Instead see each conversation and each gathering as a way to meet great people you can enjoy getting to know for years to come.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“you”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“When you spend at a bar, cafe or restaurant you are paying for the environment and the meeting place not just the food and drink. You are socializing where there is the possibility of meeting new people and you're making it a special occasion, in fact, you're celebrating the friendships that give you support, companionship and enjoyment.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“interests”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“Instead we think we are socially active and a good friend but we're just too busy right now. This again is a case of not appreciating how important human interaction is for your ongoing happiness.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“The busyness argument is an excuse that is used to avoid facing up to the fact that you have fears and worries about getting to know people and you feel more comfortable avoiding the issue.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“The happiest times in your life tend to have one key factor in common - shared experiences with people you care about.”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

“conversationalists”
― Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone