Rae Spoon > Quotes

“Gender-neutral fashion does not start and end with the masculine for me.”
― Rae Spoon, Gender Failure

“When I decided to retire from the gender binary, the narrative that I had about being a man stuck in a woman's body didn't make sense anymore, unless I was a gender-neutral person who'd been stuck in a man's body stuck in a woman's body all along. I started to consider that I was not essentially a gender, and that bodies should not be gendered based on the rigid binary system. I decided that my gender and sexuality had been a fluid narrative that I had constructed based on the options that I was given. I had not been a man or a woman for any reason other than that I had believed that I was one. Now that I had the option of opting out of the binary, the story could expand and evolve to include that identification as part of my history.”
― Rae Spoon, Gender Failure

“The thing about failing as a girl is that I did want to succeed. I wanted to be liked and accepted like anyone, but it wasn't like learning how to play the guitar or to roller-blade. It was something that was always just out of my reach, something I could never really learn to do well, no matter how much I practiced.”
― Rae Spoon, Gender Failure

“Throughout the interactions I've had over the past ten years, I've learned that the gender binary is more of a comedy skit than a fact. People read each other, assign identifiers, and then play out a script accordingly.”
― Rae Spoon, Gender Failure

“Suddenly choice came crashing in like a great wave. It was right in front of me, embodied by my new friends.”
― Rae Spoon, Gender Failure